I didn't know Americans would say that.


I always thought it was a chinese thing.

My mom and her chinese friends would greet each other that way. My mom would say, "You're too fat"or "You're too skinny." It is never right. And at the same time, you have to clear your plate... don't waste food.

I wish it was that simple.
It would've made a lot of things easier.

However, I have been questioning a lot of myself and studying "Why wives cheat?"

And you know on the surface... YES, I am a great husband the NICE Guy... Give great Massages, Makes Breakfast Mon-Fri, Makes Kids' Lunches, and Make Dinner 50% of the time. Studied all those Christian stuff: Home Group, "Purpose Driven Life", "His Needs Her Needs", "Love & Respect", "Love, Sex & Long Lasting Relationship", and other stuff.

But she still cheated on me.

It is not because she is a bad horrible person but a condition that is in grained in us by our environment (in Christian term the World moral).

Statistics...
100% of the women say they hate cheaters and cheaters are bad people and yet 40-50% of them cheat. Why is that?

I cannot stop questioning at the simple answer, "she is a bad person."

Some of you read my "Nice Guy" Post... the reason why I talk about it so much is because that is part of the answer I got. Women will Cheat on the NICE GUY. Yelling and being Confrontational and not Taking Crap from your woman is a part of a healthy relationship (but don't be a Jerk, there is a line that you shouldn't cross). It establishes Alpha. Relationship with a woman being very Alpha in nature, will be a problem. However, I was proven wrong a month ago when my bro-in-law's wife cheated on him and she wasn't Alpha at all. He left her so fast, no one knows where he is. They had it all... the $500,000 home, a lake in the backyard, new cars every year, stay at home mom, and lovely kids. Maybe because he is a pilot.

I don't know.. I don't have the all the answers... but I am not giving up.

I was looking forward to reading some real nasty revenge.

I didn't do anything either.
I didn't have the heart to do anything back.
I was more numbed and in disbelieve than in hate.

When I got felt hate and rage to kill the guy... I had an emergency meeting with my Pastor and we prayed and defused the situation. Deep down I know I am 50% responsible for the my wife's cheating.

My best friend who can't have kids and is age 41. Recently posted on Yahoo Singles, welcoming ladies with kids under 5 years old. He doesn't have much time because of work and not into self-esteem issues and makes 6 digit income.

He got 38 responses in one day.
He picked 3 possibles out of 38.
He is highly selective and a prize for any woman to get.

They are such a ccckblock.

uhhh.. I am talking about my own kids.

To change the world around you, you must first change the Universal within.

If you want to get into the house, you must first open the door with the Key.

If you want to take a massive life changing dump, you must first check the universal flow and for abundance of toilet paper.

Anybody seen "Mystery Men" with Ben Stiller.

"Love and Respect"... I forgot the author, but it is Christian based. What it all boils down to is: Women wants unConditional Love and Men wants unConditional Respect.



I also suggest reading "Ways of a Superior Man" by David Deida. It explains the 4 agreements, without changing the feminine to do it. It is in the nature of a feminine to say what she doesn't mean.

Well, have you ever had a woman say, "I hate you and I never want to see you again." There is an explanation for why the feminine would say something like this (because I am a jerk all the time.. hehe). No one is Impeccable with words all the time. You don't take it personally or Assume why she is say it, because she is testing your masculine on what is your priority and staying the course.

The book talks about the feminine dancing and flowing with life and constantly testing the masculine and filling every space with an object. The Masculine wants space and a satisfactory ending. The Masculine sort for an ending in a conversation, in which the feminine sort for the interaction whether it is positive or negative... because it is the spice of life.

"Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama." BUT that is the goal to have interaction.

Uhh, anyway... it is more complicated than How I just describe the book. I am reading it again for the 3rd time.

If we do get to a dinner date, that means we already had an initial introduction and a second date at a coffee shop to get to know each other better. So at this point, We should be comfortable enough to break bread and have a dinner together.

I should already be comfortable enough with her, that I am going to be myself. I will not just eat a salad. But I won't overindulge in the meal.

I guess I am saying it is not what you eating, but focus on your mannerism as a gentlemen.

Haha.. Did you get the "You're a Nice Guy" speech?

Learn your lesson and don't get hurt the same way again.
Learn what turned her away... was it your insecurity or neediness, or your focus on her.

I love my woman skinny.

My wife was a size 8 when we met, than up to a size 14 and now a size 4. No diets, just Organic Foods and walking. I like being able to lift her to whatever position I want her to be.

Weigh really didn't matter if you look at the whole 16 years marriage. With age, you just love the person whatever and however they look. I am a Photographer, I am very critical on how someone looks. My mind and eyes automatically goes to the imperfection/problem areas. I am already formulating how I am going to cover that up, in my mind. With that said, Even models have problem areas.

BTW, I believe Clothing are great and being over 30 something and having 2 kids... every sags and stretched out. So, yes.. you bet you have to learn how to love someone beyond skin deep and their mental issues and sins against you.

Dam artificial boob JOBS... before sillycones Fluffy women had the corner on the market of big boobs. Now look what's happening, skinny model with size DD and older women without sagging boobs. The world is going to hell. HAHA!!!

Thanks... uhhh... o wait... that is a complement, right???

Anyone read that new study about the faithful gene.

According to the study, Some men have it and some don't.
But it has no affects on women having it.

In case you girls don't notice, all female strippers & porn stars are aggressive and really what a man wants. (sometimes).

No Way, People online have serious issues.

It is just a kiss... no big deal.

Fade... How old was the youngest you ever had?




Anyway, my neighborhood is like Peyton Place.
I have to admit I was very naive about people in general. Always looking on the good side of people and trusting people.
Last Xmas, something happened that opened my eyes to the lies and deceptions.

There are about 4-5 ladies in the neighborhood that are or had cheated on their husband. Ex-es that now live across the street from each other.

One 39 year old lady got divorced, got neighbor guy, broke up, rebounded to a 23 year old guy. I think they were together for like 3 years. I like the guy, he is a nice guy, but he was a bum. He didn't have a job. Once, I thought he was a teenager washing his parent's SUV.

It ended badly about 1 month ago... They broke up and she kicked him out of the house. He trashed the house and took off. The next day, He was spotted in the backyard drunk or drug up, a neighbor called the cops on him. Now, the 39 yo lady is driving a beat up used sedan, instead of the new SUV she had. I don't know why that car, I don't gossip anymore.

Redhead.... MrTap is right. He is just not saying it with tact. He will not stroke your ego or provide comforting words. (Most) ladies on this thread will give you comfort, by telling you what you want to hear.

Wow... I like that quote!!!!

I rather starve than to eat a McDonald's.