...I think maybe even a little jaded. It's been six months since I was last in a "relationship", and I still can't seem to completely get over her... what the hell is wrong with me? Seriously? I know she played me, I know I was a convenient "fix" while she was getting over the guy before me. (Yah, I know, stupid me fell for being the rebound guy) ...but the chemistry was so there, at least I thought... maybe it was and it scared the hell out of her, I don't know. I just wish I could get her out of my head. Is it healthy to still think about someone that long after being dropped? It's not like we were together long, or even that we had gotten to the point of becoming an official, out in public "item". ...maybe that should've been my first clue. Gods sometimes I just want to scream! ...sorry, just had to get this off my chest, anyone have any advice? I could REALLY use some right about now.

get with some friends and just go out
and have some fun
no convenient friends then just
try an acquaintance or two
socialize in a non-dating way
for a couple of weeks
or until another really date-able
one comes along...

that's the best way
to have fun
just have fun

I tried that, the town is too small, no matter where I go something reminds me of a time with her sometimes I really miss Seattle and all that the big city had to offer

I wish I had advice for ya. Just know it gets better with time

It took me 8 months to stop crying over a guy I REALLY thought was "the one"... and an entire year and a half before I could even fully function as a regular human being without baggage over him. Give it time.

It's best not to think about her as much as possible. Of course she'll pop in your head, but do your best to prove to yourself how she wasn't good for you and try to learn from the experience.

it's sad but my head knows she was bad for me, I still have yet to convince my heart. you make good sense though, thank you What I'm trying really hard not to do is let it affect how I react to other women. That's a trick.

Dude I went threw the same thing. I got played big time. Couldn't sleep or stop thinking about her. I finally realized that she hit my ego and I'm not sayin that's the case with you. When I figured out that my deal was to fix her from her last relationship, that's when I was able to let it go.

I went through that for a long time, even knowing that I was so much better off without him. Went through it till finally someone else began to occupy that part of me

Ending a relationship, no matter who's decision and even if it's for the best, it HURTS! Altho' it isn't because the other person died, it can sometimes be even more painful. Depending on how much emotion was involved, sometimes that's the deciding factor on how long it takes to heal. Surround yourself with those who DO care about you. Find something that you can put your energy and thoughts into that will lessen the time you think about her. And like all say....TIME HEALS.

Man, there are many places and things that remind me about my ex. It doesn't mean that I am going to avoid them. I usually find some other part of it... or someone to talk with that eases my mind.

The relationship may be dead. Don't let it stop you from living!

Just try to occupy yourself with friends and things you enjoy. Nothing but time makes it better.

A relationship that breaks up is hard to get over, but in time, you will.

I find that dancing around my living room to the Time Warp in my towel in front of the garbage men helps me get over my pain..........

most people have someone in their life they cant get over, and they still think about them even though they are married or in a relationship, so this goes to show the brain can be a bad thing too.

hehe that sounds like a lot of fun too shake it like a naked banana lol

I just wanna say a great big huge thank you to everyone, it's amazing to me that people I've never met before can take the time to care about someone's pain they've never met before

I'll go with projection. Did you project her to be something she wasn't and then you found out the truth? Are you still projecting in a corner of your mind? Projection is a killer of relationships unto itself.

I had one of those. She hurt me really bad. It wasn't really chemistry. it was her enjoying me saying sweet things to her. It was her wanting to be loved. In the end, we wernt right for eachother. Not because i didnt try, but because a relastionship and love is a commitment. even if we where perfect for eachother, she didnt want to make the commitment, so it would fail. It sucked. about 8 months before that i got dumped about the same month my dad died, while finding out i was being cheated on. Hard to get over that stuff. Right now, i just started dating a girl who i feel i'm truly compatable with. She is as into me, as i am into her. She hasn't dated in a bit, and i took the break, so neither have i. Things are going insanely well. I dont know why this has worked out, as its already passed the problems that i had in the previous relastionships, but it is working nicely. I didnt get to where i am by looking over my shoulder at the past. I did it by going back to being comfortable being single, and looking forward. It was only then i noticed someone just like me was walking the same path.

Haha.. Did you get the "You're a Nice Guy" speech?

Learn your lesson and don't get hurt the same way again.
Learn what turned her away... was it your insecurity or neediness, or your focus on her.