Ok that's it...
I am going to take a shower...
I am going to bed...
And I am going to sleep... as if nothing happened... because somebody ruin my fantasy for tonight. hehe JK

Good night everybody..

UHmmmm...can't.....mmm.huuurry.sm..**Grunt**..**Grunt** *...you're still sitting on my face...**Grunt*** ***Grunt****

Is that what you tell him to do because he is handcuffed and gag-ed.

"I want you to be sure about us, i couldn't be with somebody who wasn't sure"


You live and Learn.

Next time don't try to pin an answer down like that... just enjoy the moment. ****smack you on the head****

You'll what!!!! 21 years old!!!!
You're not looking for forever.
You wouldn't know it, if it hits you on the head.

Guarantee, Once you get your emotions together again, you will find another more qualify girl... and you will find out she is not the one either. Look for family values, her parents relationship to her and to each other.

Other tips...
You qualify the girl, not them.
Stop "limiting" beliefs... there are not only one out there, there are many.
Get your confidence higher than before.


"She isn't Sure" is an ok answer.
If you are 21 and I am assuming she is 21 or younger... Why the hell do you think she knows what she wants. I don't think anyone at 21 knows what they want. She is being honest.

Maybe, she would be sure, if you show some winning values like a real Goal in life and Passion for something. These are simple things. I am not talking about having a great job, or looks or money or status. You want a girl with high caliber and value, than become a superior man. Ok.. I know you are hurt and discontent feeling of lost and missing in your heart. Great, use that as your drive to become a better man, in which you choose if she qualifies to be in your life. Discontentment creates change. The only way not to feel like this again is to become a man woman sought after. Good luck.. you have your whole life ahead of you and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

I don't believe you

Can't go against the Bible.

If the Bible says Demons and Angels and Spirits and other stuff exists. and Man wants to call it something else... it is probably the same beings. I would follow the wisdom of the Bible and DO NOT TRUST the ALIENS. DO NOT MESS with GHOST.

There are some pretty weird stuff out there. The problem is not contacting them, but how do you shut them out after opening the door. (My bro's psychic friend told me).


I have 3 buddies (one is my brother) who experienced similar Demon attack in 3 different parts of the country and at different time lines and don't know each other. This Ghost attacked and absorbs fear. All 3 were awoke and were strongly held in place by a shadowy figure. All 3 were men whom were better than avg. physical condition couldn't break free. One ask for the light of God and was set free. One asked for Christ to save him and became a faithful Christian. One just fought and fought and eventually someone opened the door from the outside and was set free.

I can believe their testimony because these were unsolicited private talks. Heck, I had forgotten one of my buddy's story until I told him my brother's story and he reminded me that he had told me the strange incident that had happened to him before.

I can also reason it out that.. they were all asleep and their minds didn't connect their body to brain (because the brain disconnects from body when you sleep so that you don't act out the physical movements when you're dreaming) before the mind became awake. Thus the body cannot move, and while half asleep the mind seeks an answer why the body is not moving and so projects an imagery figure holding him down.

The disconnect sometime can be seen when someone just fallen to sleep and he kicks one quick movement or the body quakes right before going into dreamy sleep.

I don't know I am not an expert... but that is a scientific hypothesis that I heard.

Either way, I am not going to mess with that kind of stuff.

Took a shower and about to sleep and maybe sex.

No more...

I freaking had a glass of wine, a beer and a cigarette and I passed out in the living room last night.

Happy Birthday!!!

What was the actual day of your Birthday?
Saturday or Sunday?

So what else did you get for your Birthday, besides a hunk and cake?

NO!!!
If we can just get the SEX, why would we want a relationship.

Somebody long long long time ago thought it would be funny that you have to get married first in order to get the Sex.

Then Men said "Duh!!! You mean, I could get all the SEX I want and at anytime I want it... mmmm... It sounds like a Great deal to me... Duh OK sign me up"

Seahawks... when is the date?

uhh.. did you forget again? hehe

HAHA!!! Solid Bloody Communication..
Since we are back on communication again.

"I am hungry" "Ok here is your hamburger"

Is that Solid Communication...
What is the definition of Solid Truthful clear concise communication?

I know how to write in clear and concise operational procedures.... it is BOOOORRRINGGGG!!!!

I finally got analogy about what you guys are asking for vs interesting and living life.

Reading a Manual (Concise Truthful and honest) vs Reading a Novel (long way of expressing a feeling with lots of detail).

One is efficient and to the point in Black & White / yes or No... definite ending..... The other is flowing, a definite maybe.

Learn the way Feminine Talk... Look at a flaming g guy.. Helllloooooo... that is extreme. haha...

Simple things like.
IF a man says "Nice dress", she is thinking "What does he mean by that, does he think I am fat, does he like the color, did he thinks the shoes don't match" She needs details.. that is her way.

What do you need to think like her? (if you really want to bother).. She says "NIce Shirt"... YOu think "Hey she likes my shirt" haha... simple, but she really mean "You're Fat wearing it" Haha... It could be a million things but it encourages conversation.

I didn't read it all.

But I don't think it is a women thing.
It is an American Thing.

Being from outside the box looking in...all the time.
I see American Culture typically lack Respect for one another, even to their parents and grandparents and now it is to themselves.

It is part of the me-ism disposable commercialized Branding American Culture.
Who are you?
I am a Oakley, Lexus, Nike, Starbuck, Lucky Jeans kind of guy.

It is brainwashing at its best from the movies and TV.
The products you wear and have defines who you are and we are all buying into it... except for the foreigners.

You know you can program the subconscious... you say "I Like Myself. I can do it. I am the Best." with vigor everyday... and eventually you will believe it and act like it and eventually be it. Well, multiply that by how many hours you watch TV 15 mins for every hour... they are pumping an image of you being Happy because of the things you can have. Your self image is being manipulated and reshaped to fit what they are selling. (Why would someone ask what do you drive? In their minds, The product you have identifies who you are) The problem comes when your reality doesn't match with their programmed thinner prettier self-image. Dove new ad campaign is addressing this self-image issue.

What an experience, talking about not knowing feelings... My 11 yr old daughter was crying last night and she didn't know the reason why. I think I am entering the period of chemical imbalance. My 11 yr old started arguing with my 9 yr old last night and this morning over every little tiny thing. The lights, the shirt, the shower, the time, etc....

I am not totally disagreeing with you.
It would be easier if everybody told the truth, but that would take the spice out of life. Joy and Happiness has to have an equal opposite, pain and hurt, in order to know the difference. It adds dimension to your feelie judgement scale.

WE are not a bunch of logical Vulcans saying exactly what we mean... sometimes we don't even know what we are feeling to express it. Therefore, active listen will not help.. you would have to go deeper and understand "Why is she saying this to me? Is this a Test?" (note: I said "She" because it is usually the Man that has to learn to get in touch with his feminine side and understand why she say the things she say without reacting... and maybe if he is recognize as a man that doesn't misinterpret the msg or jump to conclusions or better yet solve the problem for her(you want to leave, lets solve the problem)... you will always be in the loop of convo.)

You're right it has nothing to do with gender.
That is why I used Masculine and Feminine. In the 1950's those roles were in the extremes... where men are men and women are women. The Masculine and Feminine are quite opposites... one wants Details, the other don't. One sought after interaction whether it is negative or positive, the other sought to quickly end the interaction (conversation).



So, what am I saying?
You want someone to communicate in the exact mode that you communicate... not possible all the times. If you did there would be no sexual intensity.

I am assuming a breakup has happened???

It could be, you are not ready for a relationship with that particular girl... I mean, Yes some girls calibrate are so low.. anyone will do. But for the really good High quality selective ladies.. you need to be a Superior Man. The way you are pondering over the question, sets a tone for me, about you. This not saying I am better than you... but I was where you were just this year and I understand. You have to improve yourself so that you can match up with the kind of woman you would want in your life.

If you want to improve yourself... Read "Ways of a Superior Man" by David Deida.


I probably assumed wrong about you and but a foot in my mouth.. but I have to go and didn't want to wait for your response.

Ok.. Let's Communicate and direct to the point.
What was your situation you are referring to?

Are you talking about a breakup?
Sorry dude there is no easy way of doing it... but it is the best for all parties involved.

Have analyze the breakup scenario before, there is just no easy way of doing it. To her she thinks, She choose the less painful way. She balanced the "honesty and Painful" vs "Avoidance and Less Painful".

Stop dwelling on Honesty and Communication. It is not the real issue. The real issue is you are hurt and there will not be a "good reason why did it happen" to satisfy your pain.

I am sorry.
Move on...

It is about how you leave the other person feeling afterward.

BY focusing on yourself being Honest...
It is a selfish act... it is being reflective off yourself.

You should focus on others.
This has its limits too.
So a middle ground balance would be at your own discretion.

I find it to be true with the word "christian".

It is like a prerequisite for "Trust me, don't check the facts.. Trust me as if I am Jesus telling you this."

Obliviously, you have an answer.
So, what do you think it is?


I think it is very basic.
Man is sin-natured.
He/She want something or Need Something.
The Need is not met.
After time, the body weakens, they go look for the need elsewhere.

Sometimes the Need is communicated.. but it is unheard or spoken without urgency.

The Feminine will communicated all the time.
The Masculine resolves and tries to end communication. Too many msg and mix msg.
The Need is a mystery because it is very hard to identify. There are not just one need, but many.

Ever hear a Feminine say, "I hate you and I never want to see you again." It doesn't mean that. Feminine still loves the masculine. But the Masculine cannot understand the message.

Even two gay guys have miscommunication.
In order for sexual interaction, somebody has to be masculine and the other feminine. If you are in a relationship with direct quick and simple communication (both in the masculine)... than it is going to lack the sexual intensity of a relationship.

The key is for you to be in touch with your feminine and understand why she is saying what she is saying. Some of the stuff is to TEST your resolve as being a Man and staying on track with your goals. These are the things feminine would say to drive you crazy, if you don't understand the hidden msg.


So, there... it is not possible to have clear concise direct communication with a feminine on the subject of relationship and life.