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Terms of Endearment
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I dated someone once who ALWAYS used things like sweetie, honey and so on. But, that's how he was with everyone. It wasn't special at all. I would have preferred him using my own name, which would have meant more, since used those names with everyone. Yep, it becomes obvious when they don't mean it genuinely. And that's why I'm not a fan of using these terms all the time. Those who do are not genuine about it. Being called the same thing that they call everyone else isn't a great thing. How about your family? Do they use them? Mine don't but my family is weird anyway. |
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Terms of Endearment
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They are not generally used in California. Women especially are likely to find it condescending. However, with family and loved ones, it's common. I use them all the time with my family. That's a great observation. Most people I know who use them with acquaintances are not natives to CA. |
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"Night" you don't go please.
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One night? I would cook a meal for her and talk with her as I prepare dinner. I would stop often to Smile at her, find a reason to touch her hand and hand feed her samples of what I would cook so my fingers can brush her lips. (I am a pretty good cook.) I would sit with her by candle light and have her tell me of her life and dreams. I would take her out under the stars and slow dance to the music of the wind I recite poetry and hold her close. After making love on silk sheets,I would hold her close and smell her hair as she drifts to sleep with her head on my chest listening to my heart beat. Then I would lay there praying for the dawn to never come. When I find myself alone the next day I must remember. Don't cry cause the dance is over, Smile because you got to dance. Krupa is that really you?  I am amazed.
I wonder if you have been kidnapped and someone took over your account pretending to be you. 
That's exactly who he is..and how he does it :-) That's sweet. I never doubted that because after all, he is with you but I was surprised to see him post it. I have mostly seen the goofing around comments. :) |
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Terms of Endearment
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I dated someone once who ALWAYS used things like sweetie, honey and so on. But, that's how he was with everyone. It wasn't special at all. I would have preferred him using my own name, which would have meant more, since used those names with everyone. Yep, it becomes obvious when they don't mean it genuinely. |
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What would you do
Edited by
Sandelwood4
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Tue 09/13/11 07:22 PM
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I'm glad to talk with you too. It is a little hard for me to understand everything you're saying because of the language barrier, so I never know if we're still on the same subject. Nice picture. I had a feeling you were not a cat. :) yes my English is broken l need a lot of lessons, l don't know if you can help me, you are so far away............even more your post box is blocked .............poor me It's because of my filter settings, nothing personal. The forum is a good place to learn English and TV. |
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"Night" you don't go please.
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One night? I would cook a meal for her and talk with her as I prepare dinner. I would stop often to Smile at her, find a reason to touch her hand and hand feed her samples of what I would cook so my fingers can brush her lips. (I am a pretty good cook.) I would sit with her by candle light and have her tell me of her life and dreams. I would take her out under the stars and slow dance to the music of the wind I recite poetry and hold her close. After making love on silk sheets,I would hold her close and smell her hair as she drifts to sleep with her head on my chest listening to my heart beat. Then I would lay there praying for the dawn to never come. When I find myself alone the next day I must remember. Don't cry cause the dance is over, Smile because you got to dance. Krupa is that really you? I am amazed. I wonder if you have been kidnapped and someone took over your account pretending to be you.
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Terms of Endearment
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Do you like or dislike terms of endearment? If you like them, do you use them with people you know, or with strangers? Do you use them with everyone, or just with someone you're dating? If you use them with strangers, does it bother you when they ask you not to? Do you stop using them if someone asks you to stop? I'm just curious, as everyone seems to have very different feelings on the use of terms of endearment. I like them but I don't use them with people I know because I am so used to not using them (because of my upbringing) that it sounds awkward and phony coming out of my mouth. But with close friends I am slowly teaching myself to casually use them (e.g. sweety, honey, baby) even when it sounds strange. Dating? What is that? No one ever asked me to stop using them but I wouldn't mind at all. I might be embarrassed. |
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Terms of Endearment
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I don't mind them at all when are used in the correct context and when they fit the relationship. To me an endearment in the right situation is like saying, "I like you" and "I want to be friendly with you/close to you".
When the endearment doesn't make me feel good about myself it's usually because it has been misused or used inappropriate to the situation. |
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Voice message of a nut case
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Wow, some people actually took the 4 minutes and listened. I’m so glad you enjoyed it too.
This is a real story that happened a few years ago and Olga passed the voice message on to some radio show host and it hit the news. Obviously I don’t think all guys are like Dimitri and that this is even a gender related issue (remember Fatal Attraction)? It is freaky but also so out there that it’s funny. Oh, I just love this so much. He says call me if you have the courage. Right! 
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Voice message of a nut case
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3am because he couldn't sleep and thought of you? How original. That is so funny he charmed you into talking to him for an hour.
I don't know if you listened to the link but my favorite part is when she doesn't return his first call and he calls again saying he doesn't like to leave second messages. He gives her a deadline in case she couldn’t call because of an emergency otherwise, if she has psychological issues, he is not interested. CRAZY! |
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Voice message of a nut case
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The deadline to respond to the link is 3 pm Thursday. If I don't hear from anyone by then I will delete it.
(This is a joke in response to the voice message.) |
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I can tell you what I don’t look for. I get immediately turned off by boring themes that is supposed to make a point. This could be: a) series of activity shots like various sports = Look at me how active and exciting I am. b) shots of other other women = Let me prove to you that I am still a good catch. c) pics of himself exercising or shirtless pictures = I love my body. Do you? d) series of different outfits (suit, casual, tight biker outfit etc.) = I am every man. e) poses = I am photogenic f) series of fake pictures of a model = When it’s time to meet I’ll figure something out g) random objects and images = ??? What I do look for is the essence of the person in the picture. What ever it is he is doing (laughing, thinking, talking..., self-confident, shy, funny...) doesn’t matter. His human, unpretentious, humble, and sincere reflection is what attracts me to him. Well said.  I concur on all counts.
Oh, I forgot to mention the pictures on the movie set. Please, give me a break. |
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I think I have ADD.
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"Night" you don't go please.
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My dream person would never agree to one night.
How about you Barun? What would you do? |
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Voice message of a nut case
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This is not new but relative to the dating world. I am still laughing to this day and wanted share.
A guy approaches a woman and takes her number. A few days later, in an attempt to date her, he calls her and leaves 2 messages. Please listen to the link. It's hilarious. You won’t regret it. This is my dream man. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JhofSilF05k |
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Fun pastime: googling
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I do it once in awhile to see what kinds of sites my books are showing up on. Last night, I found my new book on the home page of a site for divorce lawyers. I have no idea how that works.... I saw some of your book just now online. They look very funny, entertaining and engaging from what I saw. And they're low in sodium.  English is not my first language.  Help me out here what you mean.
OK, they don't contain harmful quantities of salt. You would think that would be true of almost every book, but no. Many books are made entirely of sodium, which is bad for you if too much of it gets on your spaghetti or in your shoes or pretty much anyplace. I'm not a scientist, so when I don't know the real answer to a scientific question, I just make up stuff. So it's not bad for my health if I read them. Sorry. I'm good at ruining jokes. |
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need advice ladies
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I agree with soufie. Give her an opportunity to come closer to you on her own. Would love to hear how it goes. Good luck.
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Fun pastime: googling
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I do it once in awhile to see what kinds of sites my books are showing up on. Last night, I found my new book on the home page of a site for divorce lawyers. I have no idea how that works.... I saw some of your book just now online. They look very funny, entertaining and engaging from what I saw. And they're low in sodium. English is not my first language. Help me out here what you mean.
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What type?
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I don’t have a type but it seems I always end up with someone 4-10 years younger than me. Buddhist, DJ types or artists.
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Edited by
Sandelwood4
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Mon 09/12/11 03:13 PM
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I can tell you what I don’t look for. I get immediately turned off by boring themes that is supposed to make a point. This could be:
a) series of activity shots like various sports = Look at me how active and exciting I am. b) shots of other other women = Let me prove to you that I am still a good catch. c) pics of himself exercising or shirtless pictures = I love my body. Do you? d) series of different outfits (suit, casual, tight biker outfit etc.) = I am every man. e) poses = I am photogenic f) series of fake pictures of a model = When it’s time to meet I’ll figure something out g) random objects and images = ??? What I do look for is the essence of the person in the picture. What ever it is he is doing (laughing, thinking, talking..., self-confident, shy, funny...) doesn’t matter. His human, unpretentious, humble, and sincere reflection is what attracts me to him. |
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