Welcome. I totally understand. Too bad we can't adjusts settings and filters for locations.

How do women feel when men use “Hi Ladies” as an opening in their profile or in the forums?
For me it’s very impersonal and a huge turn off. Can anyone relate? Any thoughts?
I’m not trying to criticize anyone. It’s just that I see men use this opener frequently and it evokes such negative feelings in me.

No problem. No need to apologize. Didn't mean to be so hard on you. I can be pretty blunt, but I really do appreciate the clarification. It is so amazing how we as individuals perceive things. I would put this communication under positive experiences. You seem like a very pleasant man.

Welcome Ravenman69
From what you wrote it appears as if you’re looking for casual sexual relationships.

Why “hello ladies?” Are you only interested in female opinions or are you putting it out there to all women that you’re available?
If it’s the former, I would recommend mens opinion as well. If it’s the latter, I personally don’t like to be grouped among the other ladies, especially on a dating site. Just my opinion. I hope it helps.

PS: Also it's a bit unclear what you mean by "that knows all the speeds." Are you comparing women to cars? I like what you included at the end about being new to this.

I thought more about this. Where does the list of requirements begin and end? Would not stealing things from me be a requirement? Of course. How about being racist? Killing, abusing people, hurting? You see, the list can go on and on. So, instead of having requirements I would rather not even get involved with anyone whom I don't resonate with.

Just wanted to say, you're not alone. The same thing is happening to me too. You look and sound fantastic.

Hi singmesweet
I just wanted to let you know that I really like your comments and responses. Not just in this thread but in general. It's very refreshing.

I was dating someone who kept calling me in the mornings just to see how my day was going. I was impressed because he really listened to me when I said that I am a morning person.

Then there was someone who was trying to date me. At the time I was working on my sleep problems, trying to meditate and not have any communication a few hours before bed time in the evenings. I told him this and really stressed the importance but he didn't take me seriously and called me in the evenings anyway. I was not impressed and felt disrespected.

Thank you everyone.

I like your last picture the best because it’s the most natural.

Coming up with clever profiles always suck. Whatever you do make sure to be yourself.
Write about stuff you feel passionate about. (So they can relate to you.)
Write about how hard it is to describe yourself. (It will show how real you are.)
Who your favorite musician is. (They’ll see how much they have in common with you.)
Don’t focus on anything negative. (Save that for later. It will only distract.)
Girls like guys who don’t play games.
Who make them laugh.
Who will take them seriously and who are not players.

Good luck.

I prefer someone who is genuine. By that I mean, his expressions of appreciation and kindness is not conditional. That goes for all people in my life and not just in dating or romantic relationships. Being nice to someone with the intention to keep score and expecting something in return is worst than not doing anything at all.

Hi Matt welcome!
I’m new here too and just started school in LA. My advise to you is, research the professors so you can take the “good” classes. Trust your instincts and really spend time looking at the syllabuses and look up all the professors before you decide which classes to take.

As far as the closet business goes, I know that coming out is easier said than done. You just have to trust your instinct and gut feelings, and you’ll know when it’s time.
I wish you good luck.

Hi everyone. Looks like we have a family of friends here. How is everyone doing? I just moved in and wanted to say hi.
Cheers.