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Topic: need advice ladies
Snuffulluffuguss Joined Thu 06/04/09 Posts: 1041	Mon 09/12/11 07:34 PM
Okay, I know I joke a lot, but this is a real issue. I know this girl, who says she likes me, but everytime I try to get close to her she pulls away. She says she wants to know me better, but I don't really know very many ways to come on to someone in a non-sexy way. All I really have done so far is kissed her neck and dragged my lips lightly over the back of her arms, but she pulls away. How do you come on to a girl like a gentleman?

kre8karma Joined Wed 05/04/11 Posts: 334	Mon 09/12/11 07:38 PM
Gonna give you the benefit of the doubt here..... Need more info. Friends already or just recently met?

Snuffulluffuguss Joined Thu 06/04/09 Posts: 1041	Mon 09/12/11 07:40 PM
Recently met

kre8karma Joined Wed 05/04/11 Posts: 334	Mon 09/12/11 07:41 PM
OK.Are you actually dating or do you just see her in group settings at this point?

Snuffulluffuguss Joined Thu 06/04/09 Posts: 1041	Mon 09/12/11 07:42 PM
She's a real private person, and she doesn't open up very easily.

machug Joined Sun 09/04/11 Posts: 6601	Mon 09/12/11 07:42 PM
Sounds like she would like some conversation, get to know you. When she feels like you enjoy talking to her, she will feel more comfortable. Ask her question such as what does she enjoy doing? What does she like about certain things? Don't rush her.

Snuffulluffuguss Joined Thu 06/04/09 Posts: 1041	Mon 09/12/11 07:44 PM
OK.Are you actually dating or do you just see her in group settings at this point? We'll meet in a group, but usually go off by ourselves.

muziclvr Joined Thu 02/08/07 Posts: 1814	Mon 09/12/11 07:45 PM
I agree with Mach.....dont rush her. If she is pulling away its prob too soon. If you like her...give it some time. Spend some time with her, before getting into anything more.

kre8karma Joined Wed 05/04/11 Posts: 334	Mon 09/12/11 07:55 PM Edited by kre8karma on Mon 09/12/11 07:55 PM
What they said. Ask her more about herself. Look into her eyes when she answers (the ones at the top part of her head). Invest some time in getting to know her so she feels safe & appreciated. Let her get to know you. I know some of this might go against your grain, but you might try opening doors for her, complimenting her (but not over the top), maybe even kiss her hand or wrist. Bring it up so that you can look into her eyes when you do this. She'll get the message. A good genuine smile goes a long way.

machug Joined Sun 09/04/11 Posts: 6601	Mon 09/12/11 07:59 PM
What they said. Ask her more about herself. Look into her eyes when she answers (the ones at the top part of her head). Invest some time in getting to know her so she feels safe & appreciated. Let her get to know you. I know some of this might go against your grain, but you might try opening doors for her, complimenting her (but not over the top), maybe even kiss her hand or wrist. Bring it up so that you can look into her eyes when you do this. She'll get the message. A good genuine smile goes a long way. Very nicely said. One thing never goes out of style, being a gentleman. A genuine smile is a must.

Snuffulluffuguss Joined Thu 06/04/09 Posts: 1041	Mon 09/12/11 08:01 PM
What they said. Ask her more about herself. Look into her eyes when she answers (the ones at the top part of her head). Invest some time in getting to know her so she feels safe & appreciated. Let her get to know you. I know some of this might go against your grain, but you might try opening doors for her, complimenting her (but not over the top), maybe even kiss her hand or wrist. Bring it up so that you can look into her eyes when you do this. She'll get the message. A good genuine smile goes a long way. Believe it or not I open doors when it's appreciated properly. You probably would have been impressed with my behavior towards her. I've bought her little things here and there and I've even cooked for her and let her crash in my bed while I tripped in my living room.

kre8karma Joined Wed 05/04/11 Posts: 334	Mon 09/12/11 08:03 PM
What they said. Ask her more about herself. Look into her eyes when she answers (the ones at the top part of her head). Invest some time in getting to know her so she feels safe & appreciated. Let her get to know you. I know some of this might go against your grain, but you might try opening doors for her, complimenting her (but not over the top), maybe even kiss her hand or wrist. Bring it up so that you can look into her eyes when you do this. She'll get the message. A good genuine smile goes a long way. Believe it or not I open doors when it's appreciated properly. You probably would have been impressed with my behavior towards her. I've bought her little things here and there and I've even cooked for her and let her crash in my bed while I tripped in my living room. I do believe. Sounds like you are on the right track. Good luck !

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45397	Mon 09/12/11 08:31 PM
You know Snuff, there is something very attractive about a man that can.. hold back a little. Makes her want to come to him some. That is when you always know the time is ripe.

muziclvr Joined Thu 02/08/07 Posts: 1814	Mon 09/12/11 08:32 PM
Well said...souf

Sandelwood4 Joined Sat 08/13/11 Posts: 466	Mon 09/12/11 08:35 PM
I agree with soufie. Give her an opportunity to come closer to you on her own. Would love to hear how it goes. Good luck.

Aries151 Joined Fri 02/20/09 Posts: 1077	Mon 09/12/11 09:26 PM
Okay, I know I joke a lot, but this is a real issue. I know this girl, who says she likes me, but everytime I try to get close to her she pulls away. She says she wants to know me better, but I don't really know very many ways to come on to someone in a non-sexy way. All I really have done so far is kissed her neck and dragged my lips lightly over the back of her arms, but she pulls away. How do you come on to a girl like a gentleman? Liquor her up.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 09/14/11 05:10 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Wed 09/14/11 05:11 PM
Okay, I know I joke a lot, but this is a real issue. I know this girl, who says she likes me, but everytime I try to get close to her she pulls away. She says she wants to know me better, but I don't really know very many ways to come on to someone in a non-sexy way. All I really have done so far is kissed her neck and dragged my lips lightly over the back of her arms, but she pulls away. How do you come on to a girl like a gentleman? Liquor her up. and to think I devoted an entire thread to u at one time I think the snuffl gent has the right idea but needs to work on his timing a little - drop back & start by holding hands and ask for a g'nite kiss and then GO HOME that one kiss - if it;s a goodun will leave her thinking..... hmmmmmmmmmmm

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21823	Wed 09/14/11 05:12 PM
Have you tried duct tape?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 09/14/11 05:14 PM
Have you tried duct tape? huh? it doesn't kiss back only prob. I see there

Aries151 Joined Fri 02/20/09 Posts: 1077	Thu 09/15/11 10:50 AM
and to think I devoted an entire thread to u at one time You would be surprised the problems that liquor can solve! Have you tried duct tape? It might not be an option for him if during his initial conversation with her he found out that she could chew through duct tape.....