Ha ha ha .... That is excellent.

When you come across one, let me know.

That was stupid of me to say. I don't know where those like minded people really are either.

That is funny.
But if you wanted, you could move to an area where there were more like minded people, right? I assume you like the secluded life.

Often it doesn't seem that way though. I see a lot of people dating because they are lonely and not because they might have mutual interests or even attracted to each other.

I have already moved to the US because I was in love with someone and managed to finish school. I don't regret it. Although sometimes I wish I could have focused on my carrier.

If I found the perfect match and everything is mutual I would consider moving, especially if it's somewhere I always wanted to go to, but it would definitely depend on where and other circumstances.

No, I would not give up certain things that I value and that are part of my personal growth simply because I would change, and the person who fell in love with me would change how he feels about me based on that. So in other words, we would be setting ourselves up for failure. Love should never require sacrifices related to personal growth as love can never grow without personal growth.

I don't think I can help but you must have some ideas yourself since you know these women and we don't.

I can't stand it when people talk about unrelated subjects and go on and on, but this is not so much a gender related issue. I noticed people do that when they can't stand silence or are nervous.

I'm pretty sure I would be answering this question differently at different times in my life because it all depends on personal goals and those change at various times in your life.

Yes. It takes too much energy and time trying to make people understand. But I believe that it's a human need wanting to feel understood. We may know what we want in our hearts, and in logic we may not need people to agree with us but being not understood repeatedly can't be a healthy thing. The way I usually deal with that, to some extend, is to isolate myself. It's sad but works better than the other way. Another way is through creativity. Sometimes presenting the dilemma in writing or through video or music can make people see things they couldn't before.

Me three. I never get any e-mails or rarely, but I do prefer that over too many meaningless messages. I had one date so far whom I contacted.

What adds salt to the wound is when no one understand your point of view and say things that are completely inaccurate, like your expectations are too high or you really don't want to date.

I grew up in Germany and in the 70s there was no such thing as dating. If you looked for the word in the dictionary you would get the fruit dates. Okay, but seriously, the way people met was a mutual discovery of interest or attraction that followed getting together either in groups or alone depending on each situation.

Then in the 80's I came to the US and learned that there was such a thing called dating and it was a strange concept to me, it still is.

Topic: four things that make a MAN happy

Which man? All men, meaning world population of men? Wow, we only got 7 pages? We need to add many more since every man is so different.

Here is my strange good deed:

I can see stuff from my kitchen window and one day as I was cooking I see that this guy in a black car is trying to make a u-turn in the middle of the street. He backs off in someones drive way and just as he pulls forward another car (a woman) drives by and stops because the guy is blocking the street.

Somehow the guy gets into a power struggle with the woman and continues to block her. She honks and gets frustrated but the guy won't move. Now the middle aged woman is freaking out while the guy just sits there getting off on her frustration.

I went downstairs and tried to calm her down. I told her that I saw everything and that the guy is being a complete a**h**e. I didn't want to talk to the guy because I felt all this poor woman needed was a little bit of support. She was too worked up to call the cops so she gave me her phone to call them and I did. Of course the guy split that moment.

Wink wink is usually a sarcastic way of saying "I'm just joking". So I would either stop replying or I would admit that you're not getting his joke, could he please explain, wink wink . After all, you are very attractive etc. It is possible that he doesn't know what he means himself. So just ask and then please come back and tell us what he says.

lionsbrew: Hey, I grew up in Berlin like your siblings, and I was the black sheep in the family too. Nice summery of a large family.

Here is what my daily activities look like:
study, research, read anywhere from 6-8 books each 10 week semester, write mid terms and finals, eat, sleep, swim, walk, write & analyse dreams, mingle2/internet

Once in a while:
make short documentaries, play backgammon with my backgammon partner, hang out with my out of town friends or visit them


I'm never bored. Don't even know how to be bored but my life might seem boring to someone else.

Cause he posted the same issue several times under various headings.

Expressing my thoughts and ideas through music or videos I make.

Very true.