My advice to anyone who is bringing up sex before they even meet the person:
"Get away from your computer, take a shower & shave, put on clean clothes, get in your car, spend that almighty dollar for coffee, & meet the person first."

Bravo Tom ! Well said.

Men need to control their animalistic ways. Good thing comes to those who wait.

I've talked with a man I am interested in a long time but haven't met yet! He has no intention to meet, when he keeps talking on sex! I finally moved on to talking to someone else! I've met a few men in person , who traveled here, so I know when a man is really serious! I never met any man off mingle site.

Tom wasn't the one who said it. Wouldn't it be nice if a man did say it? I was the one who said it & I am female.

Agree, Wouldn't say something that obvious, besides, y'll hate me because of what I did say.
Why confuse you?

i only go there once she's pretty comfortable with me and she makes it clear we are adults and can say what we want candidly. otherwise i might say well, i'll tell you later once we know each other better.

As a man believe it or not..I agree.... Slow down Guys... Show love and respect in a controlled sort of way... Sex truly is not a priority... Its a rewarding gift that comes from a bond between two people....

I really like your response - it sounds like you know what it takes to make a healthy relationship. I like to take things slow & see what develops first. Sometimes if you jump into bed too soon, the relationship
just stays sexual in nature. I'm all for waiting awhile, but of course you can talk about it before hand -I think it's all in the timing.

I dont thing that any mention of whether a person is sexual active or not shown be asked online. a meeting to see if there is a chemistry betwen two people should give an idea how they react around you as to whether any intermate will take place
I am not prude or anything like that .but I do not find chatting on line about my sexaulity very comfortable . leave the naughty talk to the bedroom.

They got a nerve those dumbass men. Just don’t reply and leave them hanging.

They got a nerve those dumbass men. Just don’t reply and leave them hanging.

So, if the entire reason that both parties are even on a site is for sex, how soon is too soon to bring up the subject ?

If they can't text about it over the phone...good luck getting anything out of the 'soft-serve' machine later on...

Great answer! Men use the prude word when they just being crude

Lol yeah leave out the kinky talk until you've at least put out.......for a cup of coffee

While attempting to discuss intimate details early in get acquainted messages is inappropriate, an attempt to understand a potential partner's attitude toward their sexuality as well as many other things is appropriate. They becomes especially critical when that initial meet is much more involved than a 10 minute drive and a couple bucks.

Also any reasonably close initial meet needs to be in the first couple weeks. If you can't even commit to a coffee or happy hour beer in those couple weeks, you just are not interested in ever meeting and a waste of my time!!

a two year old thread dug up from the dust bin.

Bring them on boys! At my age I welcome your weinie shots and nasty messages, oh yeah. I make copies of them for my special notebook. Cause I tell you on cold, rainy , windy nights when I'm tired of crocheting, I curl up in my rocking chair and open up that notebook and go through all those "special" messages, oh my in no time at all I'ma laughing at some poor desperate fools pee-pee , it lifts my spirits immensely just knowing there are men dumb enough to post pics .lol jk

This is why men bring up the subject earlier than you ladies like:

To take a closer look at sex and older women, Harder and her colleagues analyzed surveys filled out by 24,305 women, half of whom were 64 or older. The researchers chose to focus on 4,418 women who also filled out a comment section that allowed them to write down their experiences in more detail.

Just 22.5% of the women, whose ages ranged from 50 to 75, said they had had intercourse in the preceding month. Lack of an intimate partner was the most common reason women cited, at 34.7%, for giving up sex. Among the 65.3% of women who did have a partner, just 34.5 reported being sexually active in the preceding month.

If only 35% who have partners are sexually active, that means I have a 60+% chance of getting involved with a woman unwilling to be sexually active. Poor odds of finding a suitable partner!! I don't need a commitment to have sex with me ever but I do need to hear a positive attitude toward still being sexually active on your part.

ref:https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/health-news/sex-less-likely-and-less-satisfying-as-women-hit-older-age/ar-AAEbE6E?li=BBnba9O

On the other end of the spectrum, if we’ve been talking awhile
and sex didn’t come up, I’d be raising an eyebrow. There’s a
time for everything and I feel it depends greatly upon how much
sex in a relationship matters to both involved. Sometimes the
libidos match up, other times they don’t. Choose wisely.