Good points but you left out one thing.... when you mention woman who have no appeal for men, well that goes both ways Maybe just maybe a woman isn't interested in the man, so then we get slandered with being called prudes, frigid, B's, C's yada yada yada

I hope that attitude is not the real you! It will certainly have a negative affect on any interaction with a man.

Really? Men who message inquiring about sex are just desperate ho's who don't have any self esteem and that's their way of picking the easy ones out of the herd . I mean who in there right mind is going to have sex with someone they don't even know? 90 hours is a good time to at least find enough out about that person, if they a psycho, a retard, or just wanting sex.

Really? Men who message inquiring about sex are just desperate ho's who don't have any self esteem and that's their way of picking the easy ones out of the herd . I mean who in there right mind is going to have sex with someone they don't even know? 90 hours is a good time to at least find enough out about that person, if they a psycho, a retard, or just wanting sex.

Please explain the "90 hours"?

If your date lasts one hour per week, then after 90 weeks
If it lasts two hours per week, after 45 weeks

If it lasts ten hours per day... after 9 days!

Rule #1 as a counselor 90 hours of face time before sack time, it is what almost any therapist would recommend, because after 90 hours the true nature of the other person will be revealed one way or another. My question is why the hurry, and there is nothing more fun then getting involved with a crazy person!!! Or getting involved in a co-dependent relationship. Toxic people can not follow the ninety hour rule. They need to validate themselves, often through destructive relationships.

Right the old "I ain't got time" go to excuse. Well maybe if you took the time , before wanting to show her your sausage then maybe you wouldn't have such a negative, whiny,demeaning opinion of women. Like I've posted before who knows what kind of person you really are like unless you take the TIME to know them, so talking about sex right from the start shows just what you are interested in, not them as a person just a object for your sexual gratification.

So if we spend a week of vacation together, sex should happen on day 4??? Or is that when we can start discussing the topic? Sorry but I don't have that much time to throw away to find out IF you have any desire to be sexually active. At an hour per week and 90 weeks, another 5 or 6 women and I'll probably be dead or no longer have any interest in a sex life.

In the context of looking for an actual relationship, and NOT a purely sexual thing......I am curious (to other women) what your reaction is when messages from a man turn sexually suggestive, and beyond? If you have been communicating for a little while, and talking about meeting.... At what point do you feel the conversation goes from playful curiousity, to the point where he has gone too far.
And men, if you are really looking for a LTR, and you are preparing to meet....do you go there? Is taking the conversation in that direction a sign that it is only sex that you are looking for?

The "SEX" issue ... let's not be too hypocritical. I will be happy to share my point of view, as a guy who likes sex.

But first, if someone plainly states that they are not interested in sex, then that should be all that is necessary to eliminate any such suggestions or discussions. However, I would not be interested at all in this person.

We are all grown-ups, so let's get over the shyness of talking about sex. Sex is a real part of a quality relationship, for most people, and without it, the relationship will most likely fail. There is a right way and wrong way to go about talking about sex. But, eventually, the sex topic must be addressed.

Many people just endlessly chatter ... never meet anyone. The sex topic should be one discussed when you meet, maybe waiting until at least the second date. But sometimes, if there is a real connection between two people, things can move along, quickly.

Speaking for myself, I would love to find "the One" - my life-long partner -, immediately. I don't know when or where she will come into my life. And when she does, then all my focus and passions will be centered on her. But, I also don't want to be lonely and not enjoying some quality companionship, for who knows how long. So, I am open to various kinds of relationships ... hangout, meetup, hookup, dating, more. Each is an individual circumstance to be handled and enjoyed, uniquely and appropriately.

I am a fully-functioning adult male, and I like fully-functioning adult females who are not embarrassed nor ashamed to spend some quality time, together, whatever that entails. But, each encounter must be of mutual benefit and consent. I find that nearly every female I meet is interested in the same things as I am when it comes to compassion, companionship, passion, sexual freedom and enjoyment, etc. Yet, rarely do we ever get to the stage of having sex, because the relationship just isn't strong enough to go there.

Now, I admit, there are some, guys and girls alike, who only want a sexual encounter with no commitments. Hooray for them! The problem lies when and sexually aggressive person pursues and conservative one. When this happens, it is simple enough just to terminate the conversation, as desired.

So, the bottom line is this ... I think we are all on these sites to find quality companionship, and sex is often an important part to that. It is not good or bad, just one issue out of many. Address it, appropriately, and move on, as needed. I will flirt, prompt, invite, and joke about the sex topic until I sense my partner is uncomfortable, then I will back off. To my surprise, however, most time my partner becomes much more playful, than me. It is all in fun, part of the exploration and discovery of learning about each other. Have fun with it, and see how it goes. Maybe you will experience one or more less lonely nights. And, if you are lucky, find a steady companion.

When does the sex topic go too far? When one of you becomes uncomfortable with the discussion, and it is your responsibility to properly let the other person know it. If is always best to be kind, until it is appropriate not to be.

Just being real, open, and honest...have been overcoming my shyness. :)

For those not interested in sex, at all, maybe you should join a card club.