O.k. here I go once again proving I DID NOT read how to make friends and influence people


This is such a touchy subject. Personally I think age is a number and irrelevant in a relationship as long as the two people involved find a common meeting ground and are happy with each other. That being said I think it is all about personal preferences. In my own experiences and preferences I acclimate better dating gentlemen younger than me simply because of my interests. I am very very active and into some pretty extreme sports and not to generalize but it has been very hard to get the over 50 crowd to do these things with me (not saying that some wouldn't I am sure I just haven't found them YET)~


I think that stating your personal preferences straight out is great although some people could benefit from a course in tact and diplomacy. And should use the filtering options as to who can contact them instead of insulting people.


Only YOU know who and what will aid your happiness so don't let anyone's conception of what should make you happy cloud your decisions when it comes to whom you date or build your life with.


Best of luck to us all and may we find our perfect fits~


Destiny

Welcome back fallen!!!!!!!! *bangs counter where's my coffee you 2 are slacking *

I would think baby or no that finding out what kind of snake it is would be the way to go first. Ground rattlers are only 6 inches long or so full grown and are deadly. Caution before kindness~

I have to agree this sounds like it is not about your lover at all but that you are finding fault with yourself and feeling unfulfilled and depressed. You expect more from yourself so you think he does as well. Ask yourself what it would take to make you feel better and more productive. Getting a job, working on your education, Etc...Then talk to him about it and see if you can decide on a course that will get you there. In the mean time take pride in what you do. There is pride in being able to maintain a home and cook meals. It takes work and is in no way demeaning.


Best of luck~

Nudging is fun....and the kick in the butt comes in handy for people that don't answer mail, return nudges, etc....

I think it all depends on how it is handled. With tact or with no regard for your significant others feelings. Face it everyone looks. That is what beauty is for to behold. And if my guy notices a pretty girl and walks on, no biggie. If he turns around and his tongue hits the ground, the rest of him is likely to follow.

For me unless I see something posted in a forum that I would like to discuss, I don't contact guys first simply because I don't go to the search option and hunt for guys, I am not a profile peeker unless someone says something in a thread or peeks at me first then I may or may not go look. I have been accused of not being here to actively seek someone and in ways that may be true but only to the extent that I am old fashioned about the way I prefer relationships. ~shrugs~ this may explain why I am single I am not in the least stuck up or unfriendly and I do answer all my mail. I just had rather be the pursue-ee to being the pursuer.

I think we all run into this from time to time, it isn't just you. People seem to not want talk they want action, if you aren't an action quickly type person "oh well" . Or they say they want to talk and then don't listen, especially if you are saying something they don't particularly want to hear. Point in case, a very dear friend, great guy, someone I care loads about, but I am not interested in dating them. They flirt outrageously with anything in skirts and that is a no go with me in a significant other. But they keep pushing for more. "sigh" and people wonder why you just talk about the weather. I have every intention of finding someone to meet and date. But it won't be after the first time I chat with them here. That's just me. But I feel for you~

So I have been told.

We are supposed to perve profiles? Geezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz~ new rules abound....Someone lend me their copy of mingle for dummies.....

45
5'9
130 lbs (give or take 2 lbs on a binge day lol)

irish coffee for me please minus the irish. in other words a double latte with whipped creme.

my guy has that look in his eyes that says I am the one for him ~ doesn't matter who else is around his focus is on me. That drop dead dreamy smile and heated stare that says "just wait til I get you home"

I will not date anyone who is a flirt with all and sundry. Who is a liar. Who is an abuser in any shape, form, or fashion. Who is insincere, fake, or phony. (is this enough to insure I never date again or do I need to list more?)

While I agree generalizations are never a good thing, the guy in question did in fact act childish. And while I have nothing against a booty call if both parties are willing, he should have been honest upfront that that was all he was interested in. And since he wasn't not only was he dishonest, he's a sleeze and a user. As to the op after he had mistreated you badly in the past I have to ask why you would go down that road and give him another opportunity to hurt you?



Be careful what you ask for as you sometimes get it~



Better luck in the future~

Welcome back~

Never propose to more than one woman in the same forum~

Never do anything that you aren't prepared to take the consequences for........


This came from my grandfather and truer words were never spoken.....

Um I am thinking I have never had a meal that was good enough that I wanted to tip someone with sex......So who's cooking tonight?

Pen.....speaking of one of the people that makes the world go round......