My single girlfriend and I were talking the other night. While she's rather bitter towards men, her comment was, that "a girl wants a man that will buy her nice things and take her places".. At my age, I think I agree.

I don't know about that.
Time and companionship would better illustrate that i matter to somebody.
But to each their own.

I have to admit that would be better than the guys who are having financial problems and only want to cuddle. At my age most people are traveling and enjoying life (if they can afford it). I dated a guy who took me out almost every day back in 2012. He would also buy me small gifts. It was nice. That is better than the guy who wanted to hang out on my sofa and eat up all my food.

I think I agree as well. And before men get all upset... for me it's not to do with the man having lots of money and paying for everything. It's more about him being able to take the initiative and knowing interesting things to do and where to go. It's an indicator he is still full of life and has a zest for life.
I don't mind evenings or weekends in together either, but I need more than just that. The last one seemed to have a problem with that, always needed to go out. That kind of restlessness is not what I'm looking for.

Gifts... yes. I don't them to be expensive all the time, nor should it become predictable, like getting roses every Friday.
But I do sure want to feel cherished and special.

Most of it is about that: a man being masculine and wanting to make an effort for his girl, having a desire to make her feel special, AND still having a zest for life.

This pretty much sums it up for me. For me it's not really about where we go and how often, or whether he gives me gifts and how often....

It's about the him having the desire to make me feel special and showing it... There's a huge difference in how any of us do things when we truly want to. We have more joy in doing it and more zest.

If we're doing something because it's expected of us or we feel obligated, then it becomes more robotic and lacks the heart felt desire that goes with it... becomes meaningless.

I want to feel the joy he has in simply being with me and when we are doing things together.

What century are we living in?

Why can't the woman buy the man nice things and take him places, also?

As long as men want to conquer, chase, win, compete, this will be the normal general dynamic between men and women. Women want to be conquered and cherished, men want to provide and protect, conquer, feel they're a winner and so on.
This is how we complement each other, can make each other happy, and create the chemistry that is needed to have a healthy, interdependent relationship.

It is sheer primal instincts, meaning hormones AND the way we are Divinely 'engineered' to live and survive and thrive as a species.

How about you tell that to the judge and some woman's attorney!!

Well good thing you added "and before men get all upset" because that made me read the rest..
Course I have to ad what about a woman doing a same thing for him?
And you said this
"As long as men want to conquer, chase, win, compete, this will be the normal general dynamic between men and women. Women want to be conquered and cherished, men want to provide and protect, conquer, feel they're a winner and so on."
I don't want to conquer, chase etc.
I really lose interest if she wants me to do that.

I want that because my Ex s. Did that. I like generous men because I like to spend my own money and don't want any stingy man.

My ex's always had woman they had no problem spending on woman they like !

Of course they were hard worker and kept full-time job.

Terrible with morals though, they were women chasers, no wait the women chased them!

I would imagine most men would do this anyway, or maybe I’m just old fashioned.

Then maybe you're more the type of guy for a more masculine energy woman.
Typically one carries the feminine and one the masculine energies in a relationship, even in same-sex relationships. I'm talking the overal energies and dynamic as with smaller things it can change.
I myself cannot be with a more feminine energy man. Nothing wrong with them, but they aren't a match for me as I'm very feminine.

Even tho I appreciate when a man takes me out to eat,movies ect and pays...it is not something I expect...

That is not what I'm looking for..myself I prefer one that takes the time to be with me,someone that I can connect with on every level... One that is willing to give to a relationship on a equal level..

I have no problem helping to pay for things we want to go do.. Why should either be responsible, to pay for all when both are in a relationship...

I can understand why many men will and do pay for all when they make much more at times...

But even then I have still picked up the bill once in a while when going out...

Sure it would be nice to have someone pay for all my stuff when going out if there is that connection there...

But...I will not and never have went out with someone just for a free meal or the gifts they could buy me... Not saying I have not had some nice things bought for me... But then we were together for a long time too... and was never expected...

Too many guys looking to get something for nothing. They all want what a woman has to offer but don't want to do anything in return. I just had a guy invite me to go hot tubbing. The hot tub is his exwifes. She will be out of town. To me this was so classless.

Women want to be conquered and cherished


Please explain that to your feminist sisters!! I don't think they will agree with you.

I've been thinking about how simple it is to plan a date, if guys just made an effort. Saturday, I took my daughter to green belt and walked. My only cost there was $2.50 to buy her an icecream. Later, we stopped at subway, it cost me about $10. Sunday, I took her to a state park. It was $5 to park. We went swimming. They also have walking trails and fishing. Before we left for the park, I put pork chops in the crockpot. The meal I prepared cost about $10. Guys who can't plan and pay for a simple date, deserve to sit home alone.

I cannot agree with this. It is not primal instinct. This is a learned behavior. The most primal of instinct is to procreate. This is why men and women get "baby fever". That has nothing to do with conquering and protecting. Men have left women to tend the household for the majority of history. Women are the protectors, the ones who protected their young while men were away at war. Women are providers (I am not talking financial), the ones who do the majority of the cooking, cleaning, clothing, teaching, soothing?

Men have done, for the majority of history, one thing ... provide the means in which a woman can do her thing ... financial support. And many women and men have been taught that this is how things should be.

I do not feel I have "masculine" energy because I no longer conform to the above mention ideal. I just feel that by no longer having "baby fever", I can now be my own financial support. I don't need a man to provide for me, but to be my partner .. my equal.

I'd do this, pack your case darling,
Ooooo where we going?
Any where you like!
P##s off!

I would let a guy do that for me as long as im sure its not coming out of my own pocket it would sure be nice to be spoiled once in a while because you know you are loved so much that the guy wants you to feel like his one and only queen and also not because he has ulterior motives for doing it lol