I think it's fine for him to try to date up. But when the woman only shows up for shopping trips and cancels when it's a movie at home, he knows it it's going to end well. He should end it instead of spending more money for another shopping trip. Trying to go back to the average woman after treating her bad is wrong. She didn't take him back.

I've been told I'm easy to please. I don't think I try to date out of my league. Too many guys want to skip dating and sit home for sex.

But I bet he's a really nice guy

too many guys? come on
where are you encountering these guys.

maybe you're doing something that is attracting them, look, I go this gym in my city but I go there in the morning because when I used to go at night I used to get all the mortadelas bugging me, they were there to meet men

The women in the morning are there to work out, not socialize or get hit on and that is way I like it.

my point people will hit on you no matter where you are, and men hitting on you wanting you to go their homes happens but if it keeps happening to you then you need to reevaluate what it is that youre doing to attracts these humps?

Like I had to figure out why its best to go in the morning vs night at the gym.

I've planned a date with a guy that asked for a real date. Dinner and ride on his motorcycle. He is employed and no kids. He has his own home. But today he said he has saved every text message I've ever sent him. Said he has been going back through and is in April 2017. That's weird. I'm not even sure if normal exist anymore.

okkkkk, so have you met this guy in person?

Nope.

He should have stayed married.

then he is a weirdo , I don't text with people I haven't met and to tell you that he has kept every text

he is either a stunad or your picker is out in left field.

Yep. She left him. He is 49 and she is 38. She married a guy with a 6 figure income. He must be broke because she has put him out now and dating another guy. The guy had too much drama. He has been married twice since her.

I understand your point. But at the same time, he might be a romantic type. I do find it odd though that the messages go all the way back to 2017. It's been a while. Me personally, If I was interested, I would have asked for a date in 2017. Save me a lot of texting.

He has been friend zoned for a year.

I dont understand , if you friendzone him for a year why are you going out on date with him?

This makes no sense.

I guess this is why some of these self proclaimed nice guys who get friendzone thinks they have a chance with the girl who is the object of their affection or obsession .

I was seeing a guy.

That would have been a deleted, or blocked, phone number a long time ago for me

so you kept him on the hook incase the guy you were dating didn't pan out

hmmmmmmmm

eric, you know if we did that ,they would roast our balls for dinner

No. I told him I was seeing someone.

yet you kept texting with him

When he would ask how I was doing. I would say fine or busy or whatever was going on. Some times he wouldn't text for months. I don't cut myself off from the world because I'm dating someone. Do you? If I meet him and there isn't a spark, he will go back into the friend zone. It will be his choice to be a friend or not.

Relatively recently someone demanded that she take me out to get a new suit. It had to be versatile (business meeting, funeral, graduation, holiday party, etc.).

Granted: Monetarily it was her treat (THIS time). That was appreciated but what was touching was the care and interest given in picking out the shirts, ties, blazers, and slacks. It was that special woman's touch (the colors that look good) and thoughtfulness to make me do something that I had been dragging my feet on for months.