it is always wonderful to be happily surprised and feel appreciated .. but I prefer when it comes from the heart

as it always should be

When a man goes overboard with the gift giving, I feel like he’s trying too hard to impress me or thinks he can buy my affection. This can and has driven me away.

I’m with Blondey. If it’s from the heart, I will love it. And I will know. A woman always knows.

now if only we could peek at the rule book and we'd know when we are getting near to much

Don’t show up at her doorstep with a new, state-of-the-art computer on the third date.

Wait...should have kept the computer and lost the guy.

note to self just send the puter

inside dodo inside

Omg
My thoughts buy your own stuff and stop expecting the man to do it. No wonder why guys have second thoughts.

If anything it should come from both parties without any expectations.

Thanks Annie, that's basically the point I was trying to make. If it's expected, it becomes meaningless. It should be from the heart when they want to and from the heart when we want to... Better to give than receive kind of thing... from both. And even with that, it's more about how we treat each other than what material things we give to each other.

Thanks for the zest for life and showing appreciation clarifications ladies!

The title at face value sounded like little more than thinly veiled prostitution at first.

Making me giggle ... Thinly veiled prostitution .. does that involve photoshop

well that all depends doesn't it blondey

yes shy .. a woman does always know

haven't heard that saying in a long time .. but beach is quite right in its use

Totally agree with you.
The men should feel appreciated and respected too.
It doesn't have to cost anything. It could be helping each other around each other's homes or in what the other one likes to do.

I tend to like women that like being with me. It doesn't matter to them where we go or what we do, or if we do anything. We are together. These are the kind of women I gravitate towards. No elaborate dates required. It doesn't matter about money. Whether you have a little or a lot.

We are spontaneous. We don't plan. We do. And we do it together. To me, this type of woman is fun to be with. A man doesn't have to feel like he's on the spot all the time. No pressure. Just fun with each other.

The woman I've been seeing here lately, I bet I haven't spent 50 bucks on her this month. But, I've spent a lot of hrs with her. And we've had a ball. There are a lot of women out there that only want your respect, free time and attention. That's what I look for.

I've been with women that all they wanted was for a man to pay for everything while they made bills to be paid, and left them for me to pay while they blew their money everywhere else. I don't do that anymore. It's been a long time since I've been that dumb. My X was that way. Then after her, I went through two or three other women that were that way before I wised up.

To me, the women that only require my respect, free time and attention are the best dates.

This is interesting and common sense

I chalk this up as woman with value

vs a gold digger and a materialistic person.

Awesome Charles. Im very happy for you.

There is no way you can have deep seated affection for a woman and you would not want to buy her nice things or do ,say things that will put smiles on her face. I pray never to lack to give and be responsible. I pick the bills or buy nice things even if she is a millionaire. Except I don't have.
Can I recieve from a woman? Yes!
The best job I had so far in life-a woman gave me the connection. Have recieved gifts too.
Giving is living! A woman must cost you something. They are pearls of great value.