I don't savor...I just file it all (good and bad) away and move on.

If I remember the good times then I'll miss the ex and feel miserable.

I'm new here.

It's nice to honestly have some good conversation with other adults.

I used to be on nightclub message boards, but they all are now a constant stream of douchebags and attention whores.

I went on some other sites like Askmen and PlentyofFish, but the forums there are so negative. I know there's some here too, but you all just seem very positive, happy, friendly, and fun.

If you like her or at least find her attractive, then go meet her.

What do you have to lose?

I believe in God.

I just don't think he will interfere in anything that happens on this planet. He simply watches and judges us when we die.

Never had that problem. Dunno what to tell you.

Any woman I've dated always had a nice sense of style.

Finishing up a Masters in Information Systems.

I more look forward to being able to learn "fun things". Like learning to play a piano, or to speak Greek, or a sushi class, or even martial arts.

Same deal. My life lately has just been work and grad school. Almost over though (school) so I can get my life back.

How's life treating u?

Usually they have boyfriends and they're with them most of the time, or hangin' with the girls at the local favored hangouts.

That or busy with school.

I'm not complaining...I love summer just to walk around downtown and enjoy the sights of so many beautiful women all over.

Well...if you could go and change them (but not abolish them), what would you do?

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I'd say I'm a 7.

It'll move up to 8 when I finish Grad School in July and can have my life back. 9 when I amass more financial savings and get more backup funds in case something goes wrong in life.

10 when I find true love.

Oh jeez...I guess then I posted a bad example then. Apologies.

The point was more trying to display the damage parents can do to a young girl when they raise her on the idea that her only goals in life would be to look pretty and find a husband. When they teach her the illogic that she should value her looks above everything else in life.

I think it might make her lose confidence, thinking her parents see her as ugly or untalented.

It's a tricky situation. I think if I had a daughter and she wanted to compete, then I'd support her and hopefully teach her that she should see them as fun, but not as a total judgment on if she's "beautiful" or "talented". So if she loses she won't think she's a failure in life, but to more see it as just a loss when other successes in life will come.


I don't know where I stand. I partially agree with you, and even feel too many young women today have the wrong role models. When they were idolizing people like Paris Hilton and Britney Spears...that was bad. Even women who idolize the cast of Sex and the City need to rethink their lives.

HOWEVER, lately there has been the complaints in society that men don't see women as "feminine" anymore. Too many women trying to take on roles traditionally looked at as male roles...and for some men it scares them because they see themselves losing power in life, but others look at these women and don't see them as "feminine" anymore.

I'm not saying women should be housewives, nurses, secretaries, etc...but even when I read the book "Unhooked Generation", author Jillian Strauss even mentioned women who did a 180 on the Women's Movement simply because they felt by trying to follow the Women's Movement, they will end up alone...that the ideas of Women's Lib meant men won't see them as marriage material.

It's a tricky thing, but I think even the beauty queen can grow up to be a strong good feminine woman. It really comes down to the parents and how they raise her. If they raise her to be a good girl, go to school, be the best she can be at what she does...then she'll be fine. If they raise her on the idea that if she's not a pageant winner then she's ugly and will end up marrying a truck driver, then she'll grow up under the idea that looks mean everything in the world.

This is why I tell all guys to make sure they have some good female friends. See what they do, learn from them, and also be their guide to men.




Thanks for the compliment.

One of these days she'll come along.

I think there is nothing wrong with the pageants, but I do think it's bad when we hear the stories of overbearing parents who are more pushing their daughters when maybe the daughters aren't as passionate about the affairs.

I'd say either let go of the idea of him as a BF for you and be his friend, or let him go completely if you can't see him as anything but potential BF.

I usually call once and leave a voice mail. From there it's on her to call me back. If a few days pass and we're already dating (not the phase where I just got the number and am trying to get a first date), then I'll try calling again.

No call back after that and I'm gone for good. With technology, caller ID, voice mail, etc...the excuse "I never got your call" is totally bogus now.

I'd say men and women should just take advantage of the idea that men can go more than once, and the second and third times will last much longer than the first.

Easiest thing women should do is give the man oral and let him blast quick, then he can pleasure you while his "soldier reloads". When he's ready for action again then he'll last much longer than the first time.

Plus regular sex with the guy will get better...so if maybe the first few sex sessions are "eh", there is a good chance things will improve as you both become more comfortable with one another as well as learn what gets the other person off.