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I've read in this forum a number of times that women decide whether or not they want to have sex with a man within only a few seconds. If this is true, why would you want to put it off? Are you afraid he'll think poorly of you if you have sex too soon? That he won't respect you? Or is it some kind of power play/head game? no way; because sex means something. I dont know who the heck that person is; have they slept around; do they have an std or are they carrying a viral std that they dont know or are too dumb to know about it? sex isn't a toy and we are not all dogs in heat. Love takes time and many are wanting love; sex is a part of that. If both are just into sleeping around, or living a sleazy lifestyle and hooking up with who ever then that's their thing as long as it's consensual. But acting like something is wrong with someone because they wont jump into bed when you first meet is bizarre. |
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me not me; If it wasn't for biz I would not be on my computer or cell phone that much. None of us are that important that we have to be so connected. Get outside and live. |
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Topic:
Dangers of Colorblindness
Edited by
mthom086
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Tue 01/15/13 11:38 PM
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Sadly this rhetoric leads people to believe racism in itself is purely a white issue. It also reinforces what I believe in that oppressed people become the oppressors and the cycle is perpetuated! Totally agree; it cracks me up when someone says they wont date a certain race, people lose their minds but if a black person says they will only date a white person, or another race will say something like that, then it's all good. I date people; not races; and some I am not attracted to. It's not peoples rights to date who they want; it takes two interested parties, not one. |
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Topic:
7th day Adventist Church
Edited by
mthom086
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Fri 01/04/13 01:21 AM
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Someone here on Mingle told me that the 7th day Adventist Church did not believe that Jesus was God and that they were still waiting for the arrival of the Messiah , so I googled that and apparently that is not true. They await his second coming like every other Christian. "In Common With Conservative Christians and the Historic Protestant Creeds, We Believe— 1. That God is the Sovereign Creator, upholder, and ruler of the universe, and that He is eternal, omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent. 2. That the Godhead, the Trinity, comprises God the Father, Christ the Son, and the Holy Spirit. 3. That the Scriptures are the inspired revelation of God to men; and that the Bible is the sole rule of faith and practice. 4. That Jesus Christ is very God, and that He has existed with the Father from all eternity. 5. That the Holy Spirit is a personal being, sharing the attributes of deity with the Father and the Son. 6. That Christ, the Word of God, became incarnate through the miraculous conception and the virgin birth; and that He lived an absolutely sinless life here on earth. 7. That the vicarious, atoning death of Jesus Christ, once for all, is all-sufficient for the redemption of a lost race. 8. That Jesus Christ arose literally and bodily from the grave. 9. That He ascended literally and bodily into heaven. 10. That He now serves as our advocate in priestly ministry and mediation before the Father. 11. That He will return in a premillennial, personal, imminent second advent. 12. That man was created sinless, but by his subsequent fall entered a state of alienation and depravity. 13. That salvation through Christ is by grace alone, through faith in His blood. 14. That entrance upon the new life in Christ is by regeneration, or the new birth. 15. That man is justified by faith. 16. That man is sanctified by the indwelling Christ through the Holy Spirit. 17. That man will be glorified at the resurrection or translation of the saints, when the Lord returns. 18. That there will be a judgment of all men. 19. That the gospel is to be preached as a witness to all the world." I know all the different denominations have their little differences, but I think if I'm not mistaken the only real difference bout 7th day Adventists is they celebrate their Sabbath on Saturday if I'm not mistaken. The only denomination/group that I can think of that doesn't believe Jesus to be specifically God's son is Jehovah Witness, they believe him to be just a prophet. Mormonism always try to come off as Christian but no way is it Christian. For one, they dont believe in one God, and they dont' believe that Christ alone can forgive sins. They also believe the Bible to be incomplete and that Joseph Smith's writings in the book of Mormon (along with 2 other writings which they say were divine teachings of God) filled in the empty places where the Bible missed. Mormonism changes like the wind to be more accepted. In 1970 when Senators threatened their tax exempt status for not allowing minorities to be in leadership roles in the church and for saying that black people were cursed by God, the Mormon leader at the time had an "epiphany" saying that God told him blacks were now ok to be in leadership. If the Senate went through with it, the Mormons would have lost billions of dollars over time losing their tax exempt status. There are many like the Unitarians, the Unification church, the Hare Krishna's, New agers; who are definitely not Christian but try to come off as it so that they can be more widely accepted as well. The Boston Church of Christ is the big scary one. They do NOT believe the same Christian doctrine as the Church of Christ. They believe in works and other ways to get to heaven. They also tell their members that if they are true followers of the church, they are submit fully to what the church wants them to do a la Jim Jones, David Koresh and many of the strict Mormon cults that are seen in Utah. They are targeting young college kids. They will meet up with you and then after a time or two they will invite you to church. They are very social and then the fun starts. They have a higher recruiter that starts to study with you and then they try to get you to be a member. The studies are mammoth sessions and you have a lot of homework. If you question them then you are arrogant and sinning. A classic cult that is growing. |
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Topic:
7th day Adventist Church
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Someone here on Mingle told me that the 7th day Adventist Church did not believe that Jesus was God and that they were still waiting for the arrival of the Messiah , so I googled that and apparently that is not true. They await his second coming like every other Christian. "In Common With Conservative Christians and the Historic Protestant Creeds, We Believe— 1. That God is the Sovereign Creator, upholder, and ruler of the universe, and that He is eternal, omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent. 2. That the Godhead, the Trinity, comprises God the Father, Christ the Son, and the Holy Spirit. 3. That the Scriptures are the inspired revelation of God to men; and that the Bible is the sole rule of faith and practice. 4. That Jesus Christ is very God, and that He has existed with the Father from all eternity. 5. That the Holy Spirit is a personal being, sharing the attributes of deity with the Father and the Son. 6. That Christ, the Word of God, became incarnate through the miraculous conception and the virgin birth; and that He lived an absolutely sinless life here on earth. 7. That the vicarious, atoning death of Jesus Christ, once for all, is all-sufficient for the redemption of a lost race. 8. That Jesus Christ arose literally and bodily from the grave. 9. That He ascended literally and bodily into heaven. 10. That He now serves as our advocate in priestly ministry and mediation before the Father. 11. That He will return in a premillennial, personal, imminent second advent. 12. That man was created sinless, but by his subsequent fall entered a state of alienation and depravity. 13. That salvation through Christ is by grace alone, through faith in His blood. 14. That entrance upon the new life in Christ is by regeneration, or the new birth. 15. That man is justified by faith. 16. That man is sanctified by the indwelling Christ through the Holy Spirit. 17. That man will be glorified at the resurrection or translation of the saints, when the Lord returns. 18. That there will be a judgment of all men. 19. That the gospel is to be preached as a witness to all the world." It's not as easy as that. it's a deep question because some SDA's think there are additional writings of theres that are extentions of the Bible, and some dont. There are also some deep evangelical differences that some SDA have that others dont. I live near Angwin; which is a huge SDA area and I've gone to their churches and asked the leaders what they thought and I got different answers. I personally would not follow their strict lifestyles such as being vegetarians and other things; but to be honest I really am not the Christian police and I dont' care much. I wouldn't be one. The problem I have with SDA is it is very controlling. I mean even the hospital in Angwin will not serve meat or bacon, and everything is based on being a vegetarian. And just try finding coffee. Not my thing. |
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a list of religious questions that may arise during a debate that are either ignored, pushed aside, tabooed and/or can not be explained away with faith or passages from the bible or the eternal phrase that "God works in mysterious ways" and the question generally collapses the bible in layman's term.....these are questions that believers either can't answer or are not allowed to answer or forbidden to even think about answering so they play like the questions "don't exist" (no pun intended) if a "religious question" on the list can be answered (un-convoluted-ally of course) then it will be removed....if not... it will remain a fixture so if you have a "religious question" that never get answered then place it here If you dont believe in God, NOTHING anyone will say will make you believe otherwise so this forum is pointless. If you believe you believe; if not, then your mind is closed and nothing will change it. it's not my worry to make everyone believe as I do. I love God and I'm not going to battle someone that doesn't. |
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we all sin; big or small;
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Topic:
Your a real man if...
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That you dont care that many women like players and rich powerful guys, and many men like the sleazier women.
You still act classy, with manners, and respect and choose good people to date. |
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arrogance, bad temper, being pretentious, looking down on people, moodiness, disrespect others, doesn't listen.
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Topic:
Is practical a bad thing?
Edited by
mthom086
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Fri 01/04/13 12:37 AM
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What did your friend mean by practical and grounded? I'm practical when I climb stuff, because if not I fall on the ground. And it hurts. But seriously, help me out, what does that mean? It's hard to explain. First off I am not very emotional at all, at least when people can see me. This is great during crisis because I am always the voice of reason. That very same quality is I think what he is talking about I tend to be the voice of reason on most things. I have a very if it isn't broke don't fix it attitude. According to my friend I can be hard to joke with when people first meet me because I am so logical and serious. Thanks for your honesty. I think you are right; in crisis those are great traits to have. In every day life though, your personality may come off as a lack of passion or even being boring. For me, I always ask myself am I fun to be with? Am I supportive? Do I listen? Do I come on too strong? those are things to think about. Fun people are very attractive to most. If you are not fun to be with; and with all that is going on it's kind of sad that so many say how bored they are all the time; then that would be attractive. you may want to try opening up more and be a little more outgoing. |
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 In your search for this,What is the strength or weakness you look for in a Man?
For women, they have to pick better men; and men have to be better men. I know men and women that have very little standards but they want high standards for who they date. Many are dating multiple people behind their backs, or are cheaters but they want an honest, respectful person. People say they want one thing but they go for another. The hot celeb guy throwing hundreds around will have 50 women around him. The big chested young girl with a skirt 2 sizes too small will always have a hoard of horny guys around them. Fewer and fewer people are into class, manners, and a respectful person. |
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Topic:
Breaking up...
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i don't think we are talking about real love, if u are in real love with ur partner ,then everything ll b perfect , lol; well I respectively disagree. Love takes a lot of work and patience and there is no perfect love. We all make mistakes. |
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Topic:
Breaking up...
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Breaking up, for decent people anyhow, is probably not an easy thing to do when its not a mutual desire to do so,,, When you are in a relationship, are you proactive or reactive? do you take responsibility for what you want and what you can give and communicate that with the partner or do you conform to what you think your partner wants and can give? I think a healthy amount of the first and the occasional dose of the second is a good idea,, but it never works without honest two way communication of what each needs to receive/has to offer,,,, ,,,,are you a good communicator, is it important for a partner to be a good communicator? First of all what I've seen with the internet, most people have huge issues communicating. Just read the posts here with so many people; especially women; asking forum posters what the person they are dating is thinking, or asking to decipher someone's actions and what their actions mean. People breaking up via email, texting and just not being confronting. No one is perfect but as long as you try to do your best and you are always trying to get better, then it's all you can do. Like one poster said though, if you are communicating with someone that doesn't care anymore or who is cheating with someone else, not much you can do. |
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Topic:
WOULD YOU DATE YOURSELF?
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I would not date a person like myself because I'm attracted to someone that is more shy than I am.
I can't speak for anyone else but I like who I am, have no problems getting dates and I'm constantly trying to improve who I am. |
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Topic:
how to handle breakup?
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It's hard; most people that move on quick are those that jump into another relationship and that isn't good.
I do agree with most that you just need to be social again. Get out there and meet people and have fun. Almost all of us romanticize what we had into thinking it's this magical thing and we miss it so. Many times in reality it wasn't so magical and if it was, obviously it wasn't magical to one person or you'd still be together. Just deal with the reality, remember the good times and dont' dwell and move on. |
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Topic:
What do you dislike?
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nothing really; I like women better than men. Men do almost all of the evil in our world and should not be trusted easily.
I just shake my head when women get in relationships. Almost all of them worship the ground the guy walks on and he could be a cheater, a thief, a drug user or whatever, and they will stay. They lose who they are and their self esteem and they stay in relationships that obviously are doomed! |
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Topic:
The Mind
Edited by
mthom086
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Fri 01/04/13 12:16 AM
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sure; in our shallow society many people date others just because they are physically attracted to them.
I've met avg. looking women who are beautiful to me because they are smart, funny, clever and have an amazing way of looking at life. My friend who is really good looking dated and married his wife who is a little overweight and avg. looking. But when you get to know her she's amazing and it makes her very attractive. |
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Edited by
mthom086
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Mon 12/24/12 03:21 PM
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something is fishy; this guy either has a history of cheating or something else.
Also look at some women in business. they are dressed more to party in vegas than professionally working in an office. I did a meeting the other day and the girls top was so low cut even she started pulling up her shirt and eventually wore someone's coat. |
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Topic:
Playing hard to get-research
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I agree with many; I dont play games. I dont go by rules, I just act like myself.
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My husband and I were married for 17 long years. and Yes, 12 of those years were absolutely wonderful! but the last 5...I'd rather have been somewhere else. He's a good man, but He is lacking in a lot of areas that are too numerous to list. which is why it was time to end our marrriage. He was hurt and angry, which I totally understand. Now, 6 months later he has come around to my way of thinking. We are NOT reconciliing... We are simply staying " Legally" married until we can sell our house ..THAT'S IT. My question to the group: WHY aren't my eventual ex husband and I free to date? We are no longer intimate... and I don't want to see him alone. i thought I just read a post where you are sleeping with your husband and also being with an ex boyfriend? that's why I never mess with separated women. According to statistics, 25% don't break up with their husbands. Dysfunctional I think but it doesnt' matter to me. Things dont happen for a reason, they happen because of our actions. |
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