One of my friends told me the other day that he thought I would never find a woman because I was to practical and grounded. I have to agree I am a very grounded person. Is this something that turns women away?

This may depend upon whether you still live
at home and your parents have grounded you.

What did your friend mean by practical and grounded?

I'm practical when I climb stuff, because if not I fall on the ground. And it hurts.

But seriously, help me out, what does that mean?

Nah I own my home haven't with my mother since I was 18. LoL

It's hard to explain. First off I am not very emotional at all, at least when people can see me. This is great during crisis because I am always the voice of reason. That very same quality is I think what he is talking about I tend to be the voice of reason on most things. I have a very if it isn't broke don't fix it attitude. According to my friend I can be hard to joke with when people first meet me because I am so logical and serious.

Well, I'm pretty logical and serious too, I guess. But I'm also sort of a lunatic, so it all balances out for me. I think. Kinda.

Basically, you can either be comfortable with who you are and the way you're acting and hope that a girl will appreciate that and find it attractive, or the second option is to try to present yourself differently.

Being pragmatic isn't bad. My experience is that everyone appreciates an individual (guy or girl) who understands what to do and when to do it, and can take command of a situation.

The issue is looking cool while you do that.

Well they, your friends may have a bit of a point. If you are so serious about dateing or life in general that people don't at least get and initial inviting maybe happy or fun vibe they ma take that as you don't like them.

Sometimes when you have it so together it is like a tiny bit of a judgement if the other person doesn't.

Or if you are so togehter maybe they really don't feel needed in your life.

You mention if it ain't broke don't fix it...well why are you dateing then? Probably, hopefully, because you want more than to get laid. If you don't get that accross then you are kind of dead in the water.

I know I have had a couple guys tell me over the years it was like "what do you need me for?" I had a house, car, business, and the kids were ok, figured I could get laid anytime I wanted; so they didn't see where they fit in.

And I know more of you single guys than realize it do make yourself kind of invisable. You dress like old married dudes, hang out like old married dudes, and probably have forgot how to flirt so how are us gals to know you are single. I am amazed at the number of single guys who still wear the ex wife's ring wheather divorced or widowed. I mean come on at least get rid of the under shirt that says "I'm with her". lol

Thanks guys and gals, you have given some things to think about.

All ya gotta do is find a chick who is sort of like you and then you'll hit it off, have fifteen babies, white picket fence, and a mini van.

I'm not sure that practical means you are emotionless. You can still be a voice of reason, but show emotion as well. Perhaps that's the part they're talking about. It's tough to deal with people who show no emotion at times, as it's hard to figure out what they're thinking and feeling. They're very closed off.

We both have the same problem as this is the way I am and because of this I will never meet a man either.

Hmm fifteen babies is a little much,and the mini van would mean me getting rid of my 75 nova... on second thought I would just make multiple trips for the kids lol.

You have a good point there.

You look stunning and from what I have seen of your posts you seem to have a caring heart . Any man would be lucky to have a woman like you. Keep looking your man is out there.

a logical and serious lunatic?..........I'm still pondering that......

hmmmmmmmmm......maybe like........the white rabbit?

no those are good qualities to have. A lot of women are tired of flakes, cheaters and losers who don't think.....so there you are ready for them!

with 15 babies he'll need a school bus

Thanks now if only when I was there for them I didn't end up in the friend zone.

the friend zone is too oft maligned. I seldom get involved with a man any more if he has not first been one of my friends. Also remember your females friends have OTHER female friends who could meet you too!

Don't sweat the friend zone..it could well be called the "test zone"

(this is female top secret I shouldn't be telling you this news) but....a lotta gals friend zone guys to see if they will stick around and really be friends or if they were just trying to get in their pants. that is how we eliminate the losers & users

I have always heard that the best relationships start as great friendships.