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CHEATING
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once; so sick of people downplaying cheating.
I'm not going to be jealous or chase them around or worry about them. But if they cheat, they are erased. they chose to break our bond, I didn't. I move on. |
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blind dates
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I dont do it.
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Cell Phones
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I personally turn off my phone or put it on silent in front of the person on a date. This usually has them do the same.
If someone is that disrespectful, self important, and rude to think that the world will end if they dont answer a "how are you?' text or call is a little pathetic to me. Unless there is work, or a sick family member to deal with, turn the stupid phone off. |
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the best way?
be yourself; be real; be loving, sensitive, and fun and listen. Communicate and try to read someone's mind. |
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Sugar Daddy's
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it's called prostitution and no you shouldn't do it.
People are sick in todays world. I'm glad you moved on. Pick better guys to be around. That guys a tool. |
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I disagree totally. If you are in a relationship being on a dating site isn't going to help it or make you closer. With so many cheating they are just asking for trouble.
want to talk in a forum while you are in a relationship? Ask friends and family and not people on a dating site. |
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Exclusive?
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If the relationship has such poor communication that you have to wonder or see signs when it's exclusive is dysfunctional in my mind.
If a couple can't even tell each other when they are exclusive, they shouldnt' be dating. Mind reading, assumptions, and signs are not a part of good relationships. |
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Unwillingness to forgive?
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spoken like a true woman; the "people can change" or I can change him stance. Sorry but I'm not going to risk it.
I mean would you hire a guy that has a theft problem? or someone who abuses kids to babysit your kids? I mean, people can change. Sure people can change but you also damage a relationship. It's not the right of the person that knowingly hurts someone else to get another chance. Why do men cheat on some women over and over? Because the woman thinks he can change. will he? odds are no way. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Be it credit, or jobs, or relationships. If you cheat or lie, I'm not going to allow you to do that to me again. IT's called respect. And I'm not going to let someone take advantage of me again. Sick of people that hurt others thinking it's their right to be trusted again so easily. |
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Unwillingness to forgive?
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If someone cheats I'll forgive them but I will move on. Cheating is a deal breaker. Problem is the one doing the bad thing has the gall to judge the other person for not forgiving them completely.
If you screw up; and that is whatever you do; it's not your right to get a do over. Some things are deal breakers. I'll forgive but I'll also move on. |
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So, is there a downside?
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Lex's thread got me thinking "is there a downside to being alone?". Ok, I'm 52 and finding out that I'm a lot younger than I thought I would be at 52. Life in many ways is starting over. Not in nursing home over, but in wisdom and appreciation. Maybe because my life has been full of adventure it has provided me with a bigger than life outlook. I see living in broad strokes and don't have time or desire for the petty things. What has changed, I ask myself. Am I finally learning who I am as an independent? To be honest my last 2 relationships didn't even make a dent in this new independent self I have become. True both of them were far younger than me and it could be argued that I should see someone my own age, but the reality of it is I am enjoying who I am and if they are not on my page and allow me to be on theirs I have no problem saying so long. Living in Vegas you get asked out a lot. I would imagine it is 10 fold for the gals but us guys are asked out constantly as well. If a person wanted to they could arrange a revolving door of dates but my date desire meter is on zero. A woman would have to literally walk into my life and point out to me that we were "meant to be" is how I am feeling. So, is there a downside to being alone? What am I missing? AND, who am I missing it with? You bring up some great points. I think sure there is a downside. Statistics show that married people live longer. You dont have that bond with a wife who knows you and who will be there for you through thick and thin. I think everyone is different though. I've been single for a bit now and Its fun not to worry about stuff. i even throw my clothes on the floor sometimes. lol; there are downsides I think but it's not all bad. |
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Love at first sight.
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Do u believe in love at first sight? Does it really work? Some sample opinion says it work and some says it does not. What is your view everybody. Not really; I think there is lust at first site but not love. |
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Lost in translation...
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I went on a date the other day...although I thought that the date ended a little prematurely and despite the fact that his explanation seemed plausible, I kinda assumed that this was his way of politely backing out. That was until he said that he was glad we met and started asking if my weekends were free, then I changed my mind and thought he was interested after all but it’s been almost a week with no contact... Granted, I didn’t think that I’d met the love of my life but it (him/the date) wasn’t hideous...and although not devastated, I was looking forward to seeing him again and am more than a little annoyed that I was unnecessary and deliberately given the impression that he was interested when he clearly isn’t. Am I jumping the gun? Or do you think something get lost in translation? never assume anything. Women have a habit of trying to interpret a mans actions or even read his mind. Many times they are wrong. The best thing to do is to communicate. I would just say, I had a good time, I didn't think you seemed to be that interested. It will clear the air. Maybe he's shy or insecure. Again, communication is the key :) |
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Topic:
SINGLE or TAKEN? - part 21
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single
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life..
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If you want your LIFE to be better, you can. If you want your life to be worse, you also can. Life is what you make it. There are those that take and those that give, those that sit in anger and those who forgive, nobody gives you a chance, you gotta take chances. It is a choice you must make. I agree; I like to take chances and it's fun to see the outcome :) |
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life..
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If you want your LIFE to be better, you can. If you want your life to be worse, you also can. Life is what you make it. There are those that take and those that give, those that sit in anger and those who forgive, nobody gives you a chance, you gotta take chances. It is a choice you must make. I agree; I like to take chances and it's fun to see the outcome :) |
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you cant fix your mistakes.
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You cannot travel back in time to fix your mistakes, but you can learn from them and forgive yourself for not knowing better. The TRUTH is out there, your task is to remove everything that does not bear light, so that the truth can shine forth. I agree totally. It's called accountability and being responsible. Living your life as if everything you do is ok because it molds you is ridiculous. I dont do drugs; I dont sleep around; I take of my mind and my body. Why? because I dont need to do those things to mold me. My parents and family molded me. |
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you cant fix your mistakes.
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Hmmmmm, not sure why I would need to forgive myself for my mistakes. They have made me who I am. I learn and move on. No worries. No offense but I think your statement is the very reason why people cheat so much. They have no conscious. NO ACCOUNTABILITY! What if you were dating a guy and he cheated with several women and had kids with them. He says,"no worries honey; this happened for a reason and I live with no regrets! This will make you into the person you are supposed to be". I think your statement is utter nonsense. With your quote you are perfect, live a perfect life, and if you hurt people it's all good. People that live this way are selfish arrogant and narcissistic. I have regrets. I kick myself in the butt for making a mistake and learn from it so I won't do it again. I dont want to hurt me or anyone else. |
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for sure; why do you think so many women especially; stay with a guy that is obviously a dog. He could be cheating with a million women but the girl says,"but I love him". Or the best one, he said he loved me.
If you have self esteem you dont let people hurt you or take advantage of you. First time shame on them, second time shame on me. |
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brokenhearted
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it hurts sometimes but the key is to always look at the actions of someone.
Especially young women will say,"but he said he loved me...". Forget what a man says. Look at what he does. Cracks me up on Maury where men will cheat with dozens of women; including the night before the show with the planted girl in the waiting room; but then they say they love their girl. No they love the sex, the attention, the money the woman spends on him but they dont love the girl. Love isn't cheating. Remember; the actions always trump the words. The actions show who someone is, their words try to fool you into thinking they are something they are not. |
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cheating is doing something that you would not do if your significant other was there.
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