You know what? I think all of us "fat girls" should be proud of ourselves. We should all try to see HOW FREAKING AWESOME WE TRULY ARE.

Btw....like Prince said, I'M A SEXY MOTHERF*****!

I was almost 8 months old...so I'm thinking I was either:

a) sleeping
b) eating
c) pooping

But then, that's just a guess...

The personal preferences aren't what makes him shallow. I personally prefer a man who is taller than me...which is all fine and well. It's when I start limiting my dating pool by superficial qualities that the shallowness kicks in. Ya see...if I don't get to know the man...tall or short...I don't know WHO he is, just WHAT. Do you honestly think that successful LTR's are based PURELY on apperance? No...in fact, absolutely not.

Now then, if I happen to meet a man who meets my prefences physically who ALSO stimulates my mind, shares my interests, shares my family values and treats me with the respect I deserve...then bonus for me. However, if I meet a man who is shorter than me who stimulates my mind, shares my interests, shares my family values and treats me with the respect I deserve...well, I'm damn lucky.

Maybe we all should refresh ourselves on the meaning of the word PREFERENCE.

Preference (also called "taste" or "penchant") is a concept, used in the social sciences, particularly economics. It assumes a real or imagined "choice" between alternatives and the possibility of rank ordering of these alternatives, based on happiness, satisfaction, gratification, enjoyment, utility they provide. More generally, it can be seen as a source of motivation. In cognitive sciences, individual preferences enable choice of objectives/goals.


Okay...let me point out one sentence in particular: It assumes a real or imagined "choice" between alternatives and the possibility of rank ordering of these alternatives, based on happiness, satisfaction, gratification, enjoyment, utility they provide.

See...preference is which alternative you would CHOOSE first...not that you eliminate all the alternatives to your preference- which is what seems to have fanned the flames on this topic.

I have to agree though that your maturity level probably has something to do with this.

There is no way of "letting them of easily" when you're judging the worth of someone as a potential mate on what they look like.

Yes, you are shallow. That coupled with being naive means you might just miss out on the person that completes you.

By that reasoning Jim Jones would be a serial killler...which is SO not the case. His followers were more than happy to drink the Grape Flavor-Aid. They were more than happy to have thier kids drink it. Hundreds of people were killed that day... but Jim Jones ain't no serial killer.

Oh not enough money printed for me to clean out a fridge...

Oh ick...

Sure...because I've been exact;y where you are and I know how friggin' hard it is. You feel like it's all uphill, but trust me there is a point where it all falls in line. Something clicks and it doesn't seem like such a battle. You're not dreaming the impossible dream. You will succeed. Everything in due time.

Oh I'm gagging for ya. Nothing worse than trying to figure out what the hell that thing at the back of the fridge used to be.

Let me tell you that I am absolutely living proof that it can be done. I used to weigh 400lbs. I was miserable. I couldn't lay down to sleep because I couldn't breathe laying down. I couldn't wear a swimming suit...I couldn't keep up with my friends...and I felt so UGLY.

The breaking point came when I was 22 and I was admited to the hospital with blood poisoning. The doctor told me that I had a 15% chance at surviving and walking out of the hospital. He didn't sugar coat anything...if I survived I had better make some drastic changes...and I did.

I knew that a lot of the time I was just mindlessly eating. I didn't even think about it...just cramed as much as I could in my mouth. That had to change. I had to start THINKING about what I ate...and why. I promptly put signs on the fridge and cupboards that said, "Are you REALLY hungry?" I forced myself to answer the question each and every time I went for food.

There is a huge differance between mindless eating and thoughtful eating. When you actually think about the food you slow down. You enjoy each bite. It's not about denial...it's not about forbidding some foods in lieu of others...and it's not about anyone but you. Trust me, I know about temptation. I know how hard it is to watch someone eat an entire box of Twinkies...or devour a carton of ice cream. After a while though, you just stop caring about what other people do and you start concentrating on just you. You focus on how good you feel...how proud you are of your accomplishments...how far you've come.

It's been 10 years since that doctor gave me a death sentence. 240lbs. thinner...a hell of a lot healthier...and so much happier. I still indulge in ice cream, just not a pint. The house still has junk food but I've learned how to enjoy it without going overboard. I can enjoy the taste of chocolate without eating a king sized candy bar. In fact, one Hershey's Kiss is enough to satisfy a chocolate craving...if you do it right.

Don't give up on school...and don't give up on you. Life is measured in baby steps. Live life one day at a time...and if that's too hard, the live it one hour at a time. Remember that you are a strong, smart and beautiful woman...and you can do ANYTHING- no matter how hard it may seem.

And if you ever need an understanding ear..I'm here.

damn...why not???

Wanna wear mine for a bit???

*checks her vital signs*

yeppers..breathing and a pulse. When do we go see Elvis in Vegas??

*l* particles falling???

I wear black eyeliner and have since high school. Can't leave home without eyeliner and mascara...although putting on a full face is better for me.

We're all different though...I can't leave without perfume either... not even for grocery shopping. That's just me tho'

Oh why not nekkid??? We could do it tandem...

wrong on so many different levels...an no, not salty

Yeah...kinda...not like pudding...thicker...

Oh no...they're yummy...especially when you suck the head..

Not that I'm for anyone becoming a junkie...however, you do know that there are a muriad of communicable diseases that the cook could have even if he's not slamming dope. And what if they are from the cook and he's a diabetic?

And I'm not surprised that the police didn't do anything considering that there truthfully was no crime committed. While it is illegal for a licensed institution to dump medical waste, police would be hard pressed determining exactly who those needles belong to. Then there's the whole "proof beyond a reasonable doubt" to obtain a conviction. And proving that the needles were placed there with malicious intent.

Is it immoral? Sure. Irresponsible? Absolutely. Dangerous? Of course. And it should scare each and every one of us to some point. Maybe this is what it takes for parents to talk to their children about the danger of this world and quit sticking their heads in the sand.

one thing you've always wanted to do but haven't yet?



Mine is skydiving nekkid...