That's right Bay. And it's real.

His email to his female best friend and lover for over 2 yrs:

morning ------,

I'm off to work :( hope your having a great weekend so far, keep cool!!
Just so you know , I went out with that girl and that seemed to go well. I am going to pursue this and see how it goes. I won't say no more bout it unless you ask cause I know it may be painful to you.
love you and TTYL,
-----!


Her Reply:

Just so YOU know. I think you're a fool for not realizing what is right in front of you. But. You go and be happy and I will be happy for you. -----


His response to her reply:

I probably am a fool but i must find out how big a fool I am.



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Why not just ask for $50.00 to cover the cost of a credit report (you can learn A LOT from how well someone pays their bills). If all checks out OK, the $50.00 will go towards the first date

INTEGRITY. INTEGRITY. INTEGRITY. INTEGRITY.

You're not alone. It happens A LOT!!! And not just here......chin up, though. It might be a blessing.

"Strangers don't meet accidentally in public life at my age."


Sure they do!!! It does happen!

Good for you, sassy.

A nice guy will check on his EX's dad who is ill
A doormat, will take time off from work (4 days) to stay with ex's dad while she is with her new boyfriend

A nice guy will offer to find the ex's dad's dog a home when the ex's dad passed away
A doormat will not only take the ex's dad's dog, he'll also take the ex's dog because the 2 were 'buddies'

My best friend of 27 yrs have "played lesbian" on several occasions! It works great most times....sometimes the guy is even more turned on!

Plus the fact, you could be screwing yourself out of a great relationship......scenario: She sees you out somewhere, she thinks 'hey! he's cute (or whatever)' then she gets a glimpse of that gold around your left finger and she's gone forever....

You don't really think a wedding ring will deter any woman who just wants a bigger tip, a free drink, or a favor do ya? It won't!!!

I don't know about the rest of you but "RECENTLY DIVORCED" and those who are only seperated and the divorce isn't final, are a bit NO-NO for me..

Disagree.....my last ltr, his actions said 'yes' his words were always 'no'.......

Integity. That speaks volumes.

Count your blessings that you learned this before you'd invested anything real......

I just delete chain letters!

If feelings are not yet dealt with, then that is my point!!! You're not ready. Deal with that FIRST.......my son is the most important thing in my life, however, I realize he will be grown and gone soon and where does that leave me! All things in moderation! If I'm totally consumed by the kid, there is no room for anyone else.........be realistic is all I'm saying and no head games!!!

He was checking to see if the pasture was greener on the other side.....My suggestion, RUN very fast in the opposite direction of him!

Me, me, me.......Harley Girl all the way...49 Panhead, 68 EG, 04 UG

When a profile (all dating sites, not just this one) includes things like we split cause 'she/he cheated on me' 'married for 20 faithful yrs, she/he just wanted out', my children are priority #1, etc, etc.... that is a BIG OLD RED FLAG. You are not ready to 'get back out there'. You're still carrying around the baggage. AND if your kids are #1, then where in the Hell-o does that leave a potential mate? Now, I'm not saying our children aren't important, they are, but you get the point.....I met a man on another dating site a few years ago, all he talked about was his ex wife. How bad she treated him, she was a terrbile mother, she cheated, yada, yada...Guess what! They got back together. So, what does that make him?..... If you're not ready, don't force it. Some of us have stored our baggage in the attic and are ready to move on.....Take a good long look at yourself and be sure before you take on this responsibility........Just my 2 cents.