if you had broken up with someone say over 6months ago as it was due to him pulling you away as he states he had issue to deal with, dont you think if you were together the relationship should be equal and be sharing the issue together and not apart, and then he dats someone else for a breif and does the same to her, but then he contacts you(me) and states his problems are fine now. but as where your feelings towards him are so confused you know you should move on which you have tried to, and then he comes out of the blue contacts you....
i love this guy but he has hurt my emotions so much that i used to think i could trust him and now i dont know..

Queene,
Sometimes people find it hard to open up to others. For whatever reason. They think it's a sign of weakness, they operate better dealing with things by themselves.. Whatever tha reason, tha's tha way they are.. And tha's a trait that is extremely hard to reverse. Once someone is so shut in within themselves, it takes alot for them to open up and let you into that part of them..
There are a lot of factors in this.. If you get back with him, and he happens to come across another problem, is history goin' to repeat itself? Or is he goin' to learn from his past mistakes and let you in? Fear keeps us from doin' ALOT.. It's paralyzing..
If you love this guy maybe you guys could work on gettin' to know each other again.. You can take time and not be in a hurry to call it whatever it is.. Be friends, see if he's changed at all and if he's willing to give you what you need.. If he is, go from there.. If not, chalk it up to an experience.. None of us could ever tell you why he's contacted you again. It can LOOK like alot of things but tha reality of it all is, we don't know him.. We don't know his intentions.. If you get back in contact with him, take it slow and become friends first.. If he's in too much of a hurry for that, then you know where you stand. Either way, good luck and I hope it turns out for tha best.. Either way..
- Sissy

There is an old saying, popular among psychologists, that goes: "The most accurate predictor of future behavior is past behavior."

Not to say that people can't change -- just that they don't, usually, UNLESS they have a strong, internal motivation. And, even in those cases, relapses are not at all uncommon....

I agree with Lex, my Dad says that all the time about past and future behavior and he's a bona fide headshrinker.

Yes, Virginia, lunacy is hereditary...

sorry to hear about your issue there queen

Its a shame you feel so attached to this dude...but it seems to me hes just playing!

He still has issues to deal with...like maybe find out who he is and what he wants in life!

I wish you luck...I personally think you ought to move on! There is someone out there that wont play you!

sorry to hear about your issue there queen

Its a shame you feel so attached to this dude...but it seems to me hes just playing!

He still has issues to deal with...like maybe find out who he is and what he wants in life!

I wish you luck...I personally think you ought to move on! There is someone out there that wont play you!

oops...didnt mean the double post there

Queene,
I think you need to really need to think about possibly having this person break your heart again. Will you be able to stand the pain again? I'm not saying he won't change, but are you strong enough to withstand, if he hasn't changed? It might be better to get to know yourself and discover that you are able to be happy with or without this person.

I'm not sure any of that makes sense, but I wish you the the best of luck!!! :)

uhhhhhhh Red flag waving in ya face!!! If you enjoy having people treat you this way, then go for it. Again......and Again.....he sounds like a complete waste of time to me. Go out and find someone new.

THanks Lex and She.....you blew my secret. Now no one will date me

Queen, not trying to make light of your thread, just that they are right...once a user, always a user. Doesn't matter why, just that it's the way it is......

He was checking to see if the pasture was greener on the other side.....My suggestion, RUN very fast in the opposite direction of him!