I want somebody to inspire me, and having a long athletic history, I want someone who can challenge me and inspire me to making myself better and better in everyway. I dont get that from big women among other things...

I dont really like the phone, although special people have brought out a chatterbox in me. Overall, there is a lot more personal touch to a phone call, whereas a text feels dirty and shameful hahha well maybe not but its just casual, for me it kind of loses the whole "I'm-feeling-you vibe." Hard to feel love from a text, although possible. If she was a friend or really amazing girl, i wouldnt mind text, but if I was dating somebody, i'd wanna talk.

My dude, what you are experiencing is what I call a mental-makeover. Breaking up with somebody you really loved always sets a reflection on ones self, and its good you've stuck to the positive side of the scale. Your grass could be much, much less green.

well being 20, i can only date 2 years below and yet so high above. I dont really think I could date somebody ten years difference, i have no problem with it... i'd try but i'm skeptical. maybe when i'm 40 i'll feel differently haha

Sounds like a scheme on his part. Or he's atleast completely foolish

Mmmm I have never kissed a geek, but I wouldst challenge this claim!.. somehow...

Prefer it. Two mixed kids, couldnt image it differently.

RUBBISH! They are fools

I'm a parent and even though my kids dont live with me, plenty of women have avoided me for that reason. I do think there needs to be balance, and to love anybody there should always be compromises. But if any1 was under the impression the kids wouldnt come first or expect to be at the same level, I agree with Suzin, you are just ****ing selfish and ignorant.

You're a good man Griff, and thats all you need to be at the end of the day. It takes two afterall, does it not?

It may just be the approach you take

But again, I dont think that's somebody worth it if they wont even take the time to appreciate this care or acknowledge your attempts. The fact she didnt tell you about this until you were broken up gives me good thought that she just wasnt putting in as much as you and probably is too focused on herself to see what a good man you are.

There is a good book I think you could really really benefit from, it changed my life for sure.

http://www.miguelruiz.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=6:the-four-agreements&catid=13:books&Itemid=7

The whole book takes you through many different views on these issues and I think will help you see yourself clearly along with others.

Hey big guy, tough stuff here. I have been in this situation before, although probably a lot more intense. My X was always having bad days, and mostly because she put herself through the same ******** day after day even though she knew it was bad. I'd ask her if she was ok and she'd say yeah, but she was lying. If I kept asking,even with different queries, she'd blow up about me not believing her and to stop bugging her when all I wanted was to find the problem and solution, but she wouldnt give it. If I didnt try to ask her after the first, she'd blow up much later saying I didnt care and wasnt talking to her enough. She was always saying how she's a strong independent woman and she can take care of herself, but then say I never did anything for her. She was the type to lie to protect this image, and yet completely freak out days later with so much pain built up and blame me for her state.

I do agree there are better ways to ask somebody if they're ok... and the problem with most people and communication is they translate words without telling you their confusion or misunderstanding. Sometimes people dont get the hints at a second meaning and sometimes there's not one and they try to find one! most people just dont take the time to actually talk things out and listen, even if its something they dont want to hear or discuss... love must always keep the willingness to face problems together and sacrifice personal agenda to fully understand and support somebody. This was always the problem for me... I'd try to comfort her but she'd hear something negative so she could vent her anger n energy, and no matter how many times i tried to explain what I meant, it wasnt wanted, so it wasnt believed.

If somebody doesnt talk to you about something until you're broken up, they were not somebody worth being with. I think she let her personal issues rub off on you... not to say you aren't low in confidence... i dont know you enough. You may have come off that way, but without her communicating to you and listening to what you were attempting, it was her problems that created her decisions.

Intelligence, open-mind, desire for understanding, learning and creating happiness. A woman who can be sexy, but doesnt have to be or try. No makeup is very sexy to me, and something like sweatpants are comfortable for us both. Somebody who can be my best friend and love my typical guy aspects but also bring out a fire of passion, love and romance that pushes me to make her smile, take her places she dreams of, show her new things.

For me, I would do almost anything for a good person, especially a good woman. I'd want somebody with aspirations and strong-set values, and always willing to share time with me, even if its not her idea of a good time, but caring enough to be happy & content that it for me.

Some call it the golden rule or whatever, but people are so different and so many possible factors that make people who they are, you never know what types of things people need and want, so keeping doors open makes sense because there is always going to be something somebody loves the other doesnt really care for, so it is important to have the willingness and desire to sacrifice for another, to see another feel good.

Now I have spent my life wasteful, narrow-minded, and only looking to get high and by.... and it is complete ****. Yes, it is bad. But illegal or not, people will act irrational, just as there are plenty of alcoholics and drunks only living their life based on how full the JD is.
Being illegal does not change this aspect. This is based upon the human mind. I was drinking at age 12, and yet it was illegal to me and continues to be. Marijuana is illegal indefinitely, yet it is just as available as liquor, only difference is the safety in which it is purchased. Think about the courses they teach on alcohol... much more detailed than the courses on other things. Look at Amsterdam... and country that has it almost legalized yet has one of the lowest smoking rates in the world!

TALKIN ABOUT KIDS: If a kid cant have it (easily), then it is cool or desired by most. Given the proper knowledge, respect and regulations to it, I dont think it would be as appealing. Ofcourse we'll never know until we try something different.

Hey sounds like my everyday! Except it usually involves falling up the stairs.... how curious...

My own personal production bitchhhh. Ok, you're not a *****. But my music is too nice.

I definitely agree a couple pages back, waking up to the one you love, watchin her eyes open softly and smile ever so gently, and although our breath is both off-key, we manage a kiss before even thinking about getting up.

You are correct! May my heart keep beating, you have stunned me!

I always wanted to be a pirate... I now remember why