That is basically the sum of things... they will find a way to do it. I dont know if i'd just brush it off, its too easy to find bad ways to do it and/or with bad people. I definitely think personal supervision or atleast a large discussion (and hopefully research) would be more efficient at helping steer the child to a better path, smoke or not.

Also, the problem with kids smoking and drinking early (which I started smoking weed at 11, drinking at 12) is that they are still growing and still learning who they are. If you just do nothing, you risk them finding acceptance in potentially bad crowds, and doing too much will give them no choice but to goto those crowds. By providing a safe-zone, even if you dont let them smoke in your house or bring it, having that trust and not letting the fact they smoke blind your perspective on who they are as people will make the difference between a drug-dealer/addict and a responsible young adult with the tools to make safer, more intelligent decisions.

HAMMER! Freakin awesome.

Yes sir, I agree completely. To clarify my previous statement, my intention was to break the thought of seeing things only two sides. It is more like a tree, branching out everywhere, each branch very different from the others. It is definitely all about self-awareness, awarneness of surroundings and the will & desire to learn, understand and respect the many lines that make up the "complexity" of the mind. You're the man F&L, because as i said, it is only simple once you have seen through the complications. I believe you have.

There will always be two sides to a scale, even if they are tipped more towards one way, but people are too complex to look at as one or another. There are varying levels of commitment, and various different opinions on what commitment really means. Forget about simple answers... nothing worth knowing is simple until its already been complicated. Jus talk to your partner exactly what you're looking for and what it means to you... its not rushing if you're just talking about it, right?

"...not only would I call the cops but CPS too "

Woah... totally F'd up. The only lesson he or she will learn is to not respect you as a person or a parent.

Y'all are puppets if your only reason is because it's illegal.

Where I come from, it is a sacred herb and a spiritual guide in life. Most everybody did it, but if not, they did not judge you or interfere with your life because of their feeble opinion. Nobody will learn anything unless they do it for themselves and play life by the *****. If you try to speed up the process, you will only further the damage. Cannibus should not be legal, and if you look at how it first was illegalized, it was all based off of lies and fear.

When my parents found out about me smoking and/or drinking, they both did differently. My mother yelled at me, called me an alcoholic & drug addict, and tried to force her belief on me just as she did with God. I grew up my whole life almost hating her because she never once looked at me, why i did it, and how it affected me... only how she had it in her memory. Still to this day, she tries to tell me the "FACTS" of her knowledge and experience, yet she wont take 2 minutes to look at real scientific research.
My father, on the other hand, knew I would be pushed away, and although he didnt like me doing it, he supervised me and made sure I didnt stray from my responsibilities as a person. He drank with me and taught me how to be responsible, how to function and even taught me philosophies from all around the world. I saw how well he acted and the strength he carried and learned then and there I did not need it and ever since, it has not effected my judgment, reasoning or cognitive skills and coordination.

I still smoke now and then, mostly when I'm with good people with good energy and am just relaxing... not causing trouble, just as somebody would have a beer after work. The lack of knowledge, understanding and wisdom about the substance itself along with how life works will forever keep you in fear, anger, and even hatred. I respect those who can let it be and post rules for their home. Thats cool, and I hope anybody (smoker, drinker or not) can respect that just as I would hope you do in return.

And yes, I am a parent. I wouldnt want my kids to do anything harmful to themselves or others, but I would never take away the right to learn and make mistakes just as any person does. Instead of telling somebody no, why dont you try to tell them BOTH the good and the bad, and help the understanding of what exactly it means, and what reactions their choices will have.