Sometimes though Jill, "I don't know" translates to "I don't understand". This child is only 9 years old, I think? She may very well be confused as to why she is feeling dislike towards this new "beau", especially if she has liked others before him like the OP stated. I agree that the child has no business controling any aspect of their parents personal life, however, they don't always understand why they feel a certain way.
In this case, I agree that giving her more time, considering she doesnt have a specific reason, and sitting down and talking with her like an adult, may very well be the best thing to do. If nothing else, it will show her that her mother values her opinion, and is willing to take her seriously, so long as she is willing to be serious on her part as well; a very major life lesson for all children.

I am making my world famous (or at least famous across two continents lol) meatloaf, along with trying turnips for the first time, and mixed peas and carrots for the veggie.

Not true queene, whether or not the picture was clothed has nothing to do with whether or not it is offensive.

I understand why some men would be offended, but I also understand the joke behind the post. Me, myself, I am not interested in the suggestions that this post gives, but some men ARE into that kind of thing.

Imagine for a second, if someone had come in and claimed the only reason you dated someone was because he was rich (not saying you would do that, just saying think about it for a moment). I trust you would be at least a little bit offended, right? Well, the same is true for some men, when it is suggested that they are only interested in physical "beauty" and sex.

Again, I can understand the joke behind the post, and personally think people coming in and complaining of being offended is a tad over the line, after all there was nothing "pornographic" or "innapropriate" for a public forum; but that is just my opinion as well, and as we all know, like an a$$, we all have one

I just looked quickly at the link, and all I can say is that so long as they are not hypocritical, and actually DO represent the defense of the constitution, and enemies both foreign AND DOMESTIC, completely and without disregard or prejudice, then I support them 100%. HOWEVER, I can not just except a few people saying that they are for the constitution, and bill of rights, etc. yet they make blanket statements involving willful disobedience and statements to the effect that they will not defend the constitution against another American, just because they are an American.

I see this organization, while being started morally and with good faith I am sure, as nothing more than a conduit for the dissatisfied and disgruntled; those who would rather march on Washington, or their state capitol, and overthrow the current person in office, whomever that may be.

during a moment of aggression, I agree that a soldier should not be able to be held liable for following an unlawful order, as he/she doe snto have the time to think about it first. However, let's say that you, me, and Ghandi were all soldiers at a prison camp. The prisoners were following directions, complacent, and exceptionally well-behaved. Our commander decides he wants to try and get more information out of them than they are telling, so he orders us to waterboard the prisoners until we hear what we want to hear. We follow orders without question, even though we know torture is wrong and illegal, because it was a direct order.

Do you think we should face punishment? Or just the commander giving the orders?

When will people quit making false statements just because they dont like a decision, or agree with said decision?

The order to go into Iraq was not unlawful in any regards. The President made an on the spot decision for immediate action, which he has the authority to do, and left the arguing to be handled by congress for a final decision to be made. Congress decided that the Presidents decision was in deed proper and correct, and formalized the actions withint he time period granted by the constitution of the United States.

IF the President of the United States did not have a legal reason to make such an order, then yes the soldiers in question would be duty-bound to disregard it. However, what you are conveniently forgetting, as so many do, that our soldiers (and I am a veteran myself) vow to protect against ALL enemies NO MATTER WHO THEY MIGHT BE.

Let's say I were to get an entire city to back me up in overthrowing the local government and my being put in charge. Basically I become a dictator. The Governor of the state has the legal authority AND OBLIGATION to activate the National Guard, to take back my city and arrest me if possible, kill me if not. This goes for the President of the United States as well, in similar situations.

Being an American does not automatically make you right. Nor does it automatically make you a non-enemy. Only your actions or non-actions make these decisions. So, to outright state that you refuse to follow any order that causes you to go against a fellow American no matter the reason, is nothing but pure treason (Mutiny if it is actually ordered and you refuse).


edit oops, lol. Sorry forgot to close the bold print earlier

I think either you typoed, or I am misundertsanding something. A soldier is NOT required to obey any unlawful order at any time. Yes, he/she may be arrested on the spot and court-martialed for disobeying said order, but they have their chance in military court to defend their actions, and decisions. If the order is found to have been unlawful, then the soldier is released from prison, and reinstated with everything they had prior, and actions are dealt against the person who issued the illegal order.

Does this happen a lot? Not as often as it SHOULD happen, but it does happen.

As a veteran of the United States Army, I garuntee you that the picture shown is nothing but nonsense. The only patches allowed on the Army uniform, are those directly related to the army/military itself, and the soldiers specific units. Special interest ribbons and badges are definitely not authorized.

In regards to people belonging to this special interest group(s) named, you will find them anywhere and everywhere; sadly, even in the military. Is it possible that it has spread through an entire unit, yes; likely? definitely not likely.

I for one, as a veteran, would like to find out WHO actually created this photograph, and false message, and see them court martialled for treasonous acts to the United States, which the direct refusal of an order is. I would like that to be done for EVERYONE who spreads dissent while in the military.

So, I assume you are gonna pick me up, as I have no registered vehicle right now, right? Also, I figure I should include a "true" pic of myself for you, so there's no confusion

In your case Lex, you get me, as I would choose you as my "mod for the night".

Maybe this would help...

http://mingle2.com/topic/show/250053

Good job! Sounds to me like you are stopping to think, in stead of sitting and demanding answers, and that means you will go far in life. Good luck and God bless the three of you, especially little Zoi.

Very well said! Thank You.

I just looked ta his profile; he is 23, and is in the healthcare profession which means at the least he is a cna or HHP.
If he started college at 17, the it is even possible that he is a certified doctor already, though not too likely I admit.
And the fact that he stated it looks as if he will receive permenant physical custody dictates that he IS seeing to his child. Coming on here and asking for advise is also a very big sign of maturity, and responsible thinking.

So how can you suggest he think of his child and education first? it is apparant htat he already has and does.

Very good attitude OP. SOunds like you have a good head on your shoulders.

YOU, my friend need to relax a bit, and not be so judgemental. Each person is different, and handles stress and difficulties in different ways. If he feels ready to go out looking for another relationship then all the power to him. Maybe it will help him get over being separated from his daughter's mother more easily. Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong with ANY single parent, being on a dating site, or looking to date, so long as their child(ren) are being taken care of.

He has stated that he is stuck right now with leaving his daughter in her mother's care; I am assuming he is working to change that, especially considering he has stepped to the plate and asked for advise and help. Do you think that this occupies 100% of his life and time? I can tell you it does not.

You claim that you are trying to be the overprotective mother here; what I see is you not being protective of the child, but trying to make this gentleman feel bad because he asked for help, and is seeking to find someone to have a relationship with, which will actually help the child MORE, if he is able to find somebody that he can spend time with as an adult, who will help him with his troubles and provide the comfort that HE needs as well. He is only human, and if he gets no support and comfort he may well snap eventually, and what will happen to the child then?

Try and be a little more compassionate and understanding, ok? I promise it goes a long way

Where do you live? most states, if you feel there is a danger to the child, and obviously you do if you state that it looks like you will get physical custody in the end, the you can go to the family court and petition for emergency temporary custody of the child, as her father (This is assuming you are on the birth certificate and everything). You will have to have proof of why you feel the danger is there, and i most cases, severe mental health issues, with the parent in question refusing to seek help is grounds enough to get temporary custody.

Go to your family court office first thing Monday Morning and find out what you need to do (and don't let them tell you that you are required to have a lawyer because they can not legally require you to get a lawyer), and then do what needs to be done.