havent been with my daughters mother in 4 months and I still have dreams that were together and its painful...

bummer Why did yall break up?

aww...its gonna be tough but you'll make it :)

It's tough hang in their for your lil one.

Sounds like you are not over her- 4 months really isn't all that long- give yourself some more time to heal- are you sure the relationship is over?

That is a mighty cute baby you have on your lap in the picture- not very old either- is there any chance of reconciliation? Are you missing the relationship or the baby-

Its ok to be lonely but you need to be sure that your relationship is indeed over before trying to start to date again-

just my 2cents

Best of luck to you

That is very sad.... sorry to hear...

i had to break it off because she was too controling, to jealous, and wouldent try and work things out. Offered to go to counseling to get communication back but she was to bipolar to accept it. Feel bad because i know women can go through certain emotions after they have a child but it was to far out of control

Chin UP it is hard you have good days and bad but in time your heart will mend. Anna x

In time

Your heart will heal

Your dreams less vivid!!

I send love

Is she going through Post Partum Depression? if so she really needs help- it sucks!!! try to get her family to get involved if she wont listen to you- if not for her- for your daughter

she didnt think you acted the way she thought you should?

Very good point, and my thoughts exactly.

It's so easy to leave.....


and much more like strength to stay.

If your daughter's mother is so erratic....you left your daughter in her care?

Uhh hello?

I am wondering if perhaps you took the easy way out....not much to go on, in your posts....

i believe she is, she wont admit it and her family wont help. Unfortunitly she comes from a mother who raised her and her two brothers by herself so I think theirs alot of issues their. We are at the moment in the middle of a custody battle and so far it looks like I will be getting physical custody of the baby.

Ummm pardon my skepticism....but you've been separated how long?

And your child/baby is how old?

And you are on a dating site looking for a new relationship already?




Something don't smell right here.....

My my my... yes, you are doing the right thing... Been in same boat.. and finally have guts to run and never return...shut him off my life for good...

I hope it all works itself out for you and a big HUG for the baby very cute Anna x

4 months isn't really long enough in terms of time, especially as you were together at least long enough to create a life.

These things get better in time, and if she wont listen to you, speak to her family. Just by using a former councillors approach, you and her created your daughter between you. Whatever differences you may have on things between yourselves, they should be put aside for your daughter's sake.

I'm glad you felt you could talk about it here at least because a common phrase I like to use, is 'A problem shared is a problem halved'. Talking (or in this case typing lol), things out, to a number of people, will be more likely to assist you as you are made to feel better by the understanding knowledge of the variety of people that you meet on here for one, or in closer proximities to yourself (friends, family, work colleagues).

If ever you need a little extra support, (and yes, us guys do need it from time to time because like you ladies, we are also only human), my inbox is always open. You are never on you're own :D

> I have a son of nearly 5 years of age whom I haven't seen in almost 3 of them years because of a difference in attitudes between myself and his mother < so although its a different scenario (I miss my son like hell and it hurts worse than that), I have some understanding of still being in a sore spot after nearly 3 years.

Would she get back with you if you asked her to?

Not sure what happened between you both but it is a shame that something could not be worked out. If she is Bi-Polar then she needs to see a doctor or could it be Post Partum depression?


There had to be something there at one time to bad you both can not seem to recapture what you once had.....

we have been officially seperated for 4 months, the baby is about to be a year, me and my ex have been having problems ever since she first found out she was carrying our baby. I had no choice to leave the child in her care because we never were officially married, we have equal rights but the law says untill we work out custody I cant do much about it.