That’s a kind thing to say Sceptial.

I enjoy your threads and posts too.

I know Sweetie pie. And when she sees this, she’ll At least online I can’t cut her off.

I mean that it’s going to be harder to discover how you really feel when you finally meet them in person if you’ve already convinced yourself you feel a certain way the whole time you’ve been chatting online.

The longer you’ve felt that way, the more you’ll want to believe it’s true. If it turns out not to be, it will be an even bigger let down.

Hello Sweety the let down yes would be even greater once we’ve already stuck to the idea. But when two people meet the idea can’t be that easy to dismiss right? The idea had feelings that went with it and if that’s the case there was some reality to it too. Forgive me for being redundant lol . The times that we realise we are wrong are times that frustrations and disappointments cloud our sense of self. So I’m wondering could there be a long enough shortest time and not wait till forever to find out how love can be real online? Like chat for a month meet next month then that’s it go away or stay sorry I’m just in a certain mood right now

You have a good point Sceptical. I’d also rather find out sooner than later. Why waste time? Then again, you don’t want to rush a face to face with someone you don’t feel you have a good read on yet. It’s all so confusing! I’m so glad I’m not looking these days!

That’s a kind thing to say Sceptial.

I enjoy your threads and posts too.

I know Sweetie pie. And when she sees this, she’ll At least online I can’t cut her off.

You too Sceotical. I’m really enjoying everyone on the Mingle forums.

I do not think that you can know someone if there is no honest and sincere communication.

Yes...it can be possible online. Know a person , ask the right questions and just have the patience if you think the person is worth to get to know. Now if you like everything you know so far on line would you allow yourself to develop serious feelings? This is the major question. Thanks

You can have an intense click online. To find out if it has real potential you need to meet in the flesh.
From what I've experienced, if this intense feeling is mutual, men want to meet up soon. They don't want to wait weeks on end to just chat online.
Yes, you can feel 'it' when you meet online, whether this 'it' is viable and sustainable will require meeting. But the sheer feeling of 'it' can be so strong that you're both on fire so to speak and want to meet as soon as possible. A man will express his desire to meet you quite fast, not after two weeks, or 2 months, but after a few exchanges, and will act upon it.

But you must remember that law of attraction is always involved and much depends where you are yourself. If you are not really ready for a quality relationship, you will not attract a man that can offer a quality relationship.
You cannot fake these things, it will exude from your profile text, your messages, the way you express yourself in general and hold yourself in conversation.
In my experience, there's plenty of men with whom you can have this "I like you, I think of you a lot" thing, but then it's not enough to actually make them want to meet you.
If a man really feels a click he won't wait very long, he'll be inspired, intrigued, passionate, wanting to meet you yesterday!
Mostly when they're more careful, as in "I think of you a lot, as for the rest it's wait and see" they likely aren't really 'on fire' for you and looking for someone who does ignite this passion in them.
Like us, men aren't looking for 'oh well, she's nice'. They're looking for someone who rocks their world. And they'll feel that quite fast, or not at all.
Quite fast is almost instant. My ex messaged me, was interested but felt the distance was too much. Some 3 messages later he'd decided he wanted to see me. That was within 24 hours. That click, that link, that passion, was there right away, on both sides.
Had it been 'just nice' he wouldn't have done that. Men don't want 'nice' and 'fond feelings'. Not when it comes to a life partner. And let's be honest: do we? I don't. You only put up with that when you're desperate.

By which I mean to say... if it looks like this guy isn't sure, keeping you at bay, dump him. It sounds like you're a nice option to him, not the woman a man wants to spend his life with. What he's said to you are the words of a man who has mild interest, has no intention to take it to the next level, but doesn't want to dump you yet because what you offer is nice.
I'd be careful. Remember you have to be the prize, the queen. A queen doesn't wait and sit around for a man to decide what he wants with her. That's what a maid does, not a queen. Nor would a man treat a queen (= a high value woman) like that, cos he'd want her, he'd be afraid to lose her to another, he'd want to conquer her because he knows she's worthy.

But I digress.
In answer to your question: yes it is possible to feel this WOW click, but you need a real life encounter to see if it has potential.
And if a guy isn't making effort to meet, he's not feeling it. He'll string you along for as long as what you offer is nice, then dump you when he finds a Queen.
From what you said, I gather you've been talking for some time and you've asked him what you are, what you mean. If that was his answer... he's not feeling it.
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You can have an intense click online. To find out if it has real potential you need to meet in the flesh.
From what I've experienced, if this intense feeling is mutual, men want to meet up soon. They don't want to wait weeks on end to just chat online.
Yes, you can feel 'it' when you meet online, whether this 'it' is viable and sustainable will require meeting. But the sheer feeling of 'it' can be so strong that you're both on fire so to speak and want to meet as soon as possible. A man will express his desire to meet you quite fast, not after two weeks, or 2 months, but after a few exchanges, and will act upon it.

But you must remember that law of attraction is always involved and much depends where you are yourself. If you are not really ready for a quality relationship, you will not attract a man that can offer a quality relationship.
You cannot fake these things, it will exude from your profile text, your messages, the way you express yourself in general and hold yourself in conversation.
In my experience, there's plenty of men with whom you can have this "I like you, I think of you a lot" thing, but then it's not enough to actually make them want to meet you.
If a man really feels a click he won't wait very long, he'll be inspired, intrigued, passionate, wanting to meet you yesterday!
Mostly when they're more careful, as in "I think of you a lot, as for the rest it's wait and see" they likely aren't really 'on fire' for you and looking for someone who does ignite this passion in them.
Like us, men aren't looking for 'oh well, she's nice'. They're looking for someone who rocks their world. And they'll feel that quite fast, or not at all.
Quite fast is almost instant. My ex messaged me, was interested but felt the distance was too much. Some 3 messages later he'd decided he wanted to see me. That was within 24 hours. That click, that link, that passion, was there right away, on both sides.
Had it been 'just nice' he wouldn't have done that. Men don't want 'nice' and 'fond feelings'. Not when it comes to a life partner. And let's be honest: do we? I don't. You only put up with that when you're desperate.

By which I mean to say... if it looks like this guy isn't sure, keeping you at bay, dump him. It sounds like you're a nice option to him, not the woman a man wants to spend his life with. What he's said to you are the words of a man who has mild interest, has no intention to take it to the next level, but doesn't want to dump you yet because what you offer is nice.
I'd be careful. Remember you have to be the prize, the queen. A queen doesn't wait and sit around for a man to decide what he wants with her. That's what a maid does, not a queen. Nor would a man treat a queen (= a high value woman) like that, cos he'd want her, he'd be afraid to lose her to another, he'd want to conquer her because he knows she's worthy.

But I digress.
In answer to your question: yes it is possible to feel this WOW click, but you need a real life encounter to see if it has potential.
And if a guy isn't making effort to meet, he's not feeling it. He'll string you along for as long as what you offer is nice, then dump you when he finds a Queen.
From what you said, I gather you've been talking for some time and you've asked him what you are, what you mean. If that was his answer... he's not feeling it.
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Lots and lots of, emails, online chats, messages and telephone calls....
That's what does it for me...

Beautifully said Crystal... Thank you, that makes sense and helps answer some questions I've had concerning online interactions.

Distance I suppose could get in the way? I mean if they lived too far away and couldn't afford to come meet you or were too busy working. I guess that would be the guy who's just not feeling it?

I love what you said about being the queen, not the maid! I'll remember that, thanks.