Janie doesn’t need to find love. Apparently, she can just brew it. Lol!

Hello Sweety the let down yes would be even greater once we’ve already stuck to the idea. But when two people meet the idea can’t be that easy to dismiss right? The idea had feelings that went with it and if that’s the case there was some reality to it too. Forgive me for being redundant lol . The times that we realise we are wrong are times that frustrations and disappointments cloud our sense of self. So I’m wondering could there be a long enough shortest time and not wait till forever to find out how love can be real online? Like chat for a month meet next month then that’s it go away or stay sorry I’m just in a certain mood right now

You have a good point Sceptical. I’d also rather find out sooner than later. Why waste time? Then again, you don’t want to rush a face to face with someone you don’t feel you have a good read on yet. It’s all so confusing! I’m so glad I’m not looking these days!

All you girls rock where are all the men who rolls? (Is that even correct? )

I feel you don’t need to

Thanks Jan you’re really a darling

You too Sceotical. I’m really enjoying everyone on the Mingle forums.

I do not think that you can know someone if there is no honest and sincere communication.

Glad to know that Jan ... enjoy and blessings to you

Yes...it can be possible online. Know a person , ask the right questions and just have the patience if you think the person is worth to get to know. Now if you like everything you know so far on line would you allow yourself to develop serious feelings? This is the major question. Thanks

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You can have an intense click online. To find out if it has real potential you need to meet in the flesh.
From what I've experienced, if this intense feeling is mutual, men want to meet up soon. They don't want to wait weeks on end to just chat online.
Yes, you can feel 'it' when you meet online, whether this 'it' is viable and sustainable will require meeting. But the sheer feeling of 'it' can be so strong that you're both on fire so to speak and want to meet as soon as possible. A man will express his desire to meet you quite fast, not after two weeks, or 2 months, but after a few exchanges, and will act upon it.

But you must remember that law of attraction is always involved and much depends where you are yourself. If you are not really ready for a quality relationship, you will not attract a man that can offer a quality relationship.
You cannot fake these things, it will exude from your profile text, your messages, the way you express yourself in general and hold yourself in conversation.
In my experience, there's plenty of men with whom you can have this "I like you, I think of you a lot" thing, but then it's not enough to actually make them want to meet you.
If a man really feels a click he won't wait very long, he'll be inspired, intrigued, passionate, wanting to meet you yesterday!
Mostly when they're more careful, as in "I think of you a lot, as for the rest it's wait and see" they likely aren't really 'on fire' for you and looking for someone who does ignite this passion in them.
Like us, men aren't looking for 'oh well, she's nice'. They're looking for someone who rocks their world. And they'll feel that quite fast, or not at all.
Quite fast is almost instant. My ex messaged me, was interested but felt the distance was too much. Some 3 messages later he'd decided he wanted to see me. That was within 24 hours. That click, that link, that passion, was there right away, on both sides.
Had it been 'just nice' he wouldn't have done that. Men don't want 'nice' and 'fond feelings'. Not when it comes to a life partner. And let's be honest: do we? I don't. You only put up with that when you're desperate.

By which I mean to say... if it looks like this guy isn't sure, keeping you at bay, dump him. It sounds like you're a nice option to him, not the woman a man wants to spend his life with. What he's said to you are the words of a man who has mild interest, has no intention to take it to the next level, but doesn't want to dump you yet because what you offer is nice.
I'd be careful. Remember you have to be the prize, the queen. A queen doesn't wait and sit around for a man to decide what he wants with her. That's what a maid does, not a queen. Nor would a man treat a queen (= a high value woman) like that, cos he'd want her, he'd be afraid to lose her to another, he'd want to conquer her because he knows she's worthy.

But I digress.
In answer to your question: yes it is possible to feel this WOW click, but you need a real life encounter to see if it has potential.
And if a guy isn't making effort to meet, he's not feeling it. He'll string you along for as long as what you offer is nice, then dump you when he finds a Queen.
From what you said, I gather you've been talking for some time and you've asked him what you are, what you mean. If that was his answer... he's not feeling it.
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Beautifully said Crystal... Thank you, that makes sense and helps answer some questions I've had concerning online interactions.

Distance I suppose could get in the way? I mean if they lived too far away and couldn't afford to come meet you or were too busy working. I guess that would be the guy who's just not feeling it?

I love what you said about being the queen, not the maid! I'll remember that, thanks.

Lots and lots of, emails, online chats, messages and telephone calls....
That's what does it for me...

Hello Crystal your thoughts on this topic is really quite motivating and helpful. An intense desire of a man to actually meet up does give a sign that what he feels is serious and real but if it just all words then yes he’s just stringing a girl on. My skepticism is based on my experiences and somehow I am not sure if I’ll ever be ready for that real lasting love if It hits me on the face, because of it. I’ve gotten used to disappointments in relationships that when my walls break they just go on higher after. I know this is not the way to be ready for that quality relationship and I guess loving myself more would be better. I have had connections with people on line and I feel that there are reasons for it wether the communication stops, continues or lasts. I have received an I love you message from more than one guy and I just wondered when will it ever be the real thing even before they have even met me, thus proving how skeptic I am. Meeting up yes would be the only answer. Thank you so much again dear and may I say I loved your readings on you tube and looking forward to seeing and hearing more

After lots and lots Rob , you can say that whatever feelings you have are not just on line? Can you come to a conclusion about it before even meeting up?

Love is real, But the way we understand it and channel it in our mental and physical lives may or may not be sane or healthy. Love is everywhere, and it does not always come from people. Two people in a relationship are each fragments of inspiration, so if they define love only in relation to each other, it restricts the meaning it can have to an infinitesimal fragment of reality. Relationship is not always needed for love. A woman may be a beautiful face of the future but relationship with them be oppressive and unreliable to the point that it they would even be better off for both to be single; that is, if they actually respect the woman.

As for “the one,” I myself would have to see them in a variety real life situations (not just a date) to make that determination.

I don't think that a man who really really really isn't willing to travel would even approach a woman who lives far away? After all, your profile will make that clear right away.
Like my ex, he didn't want someone who lived further away because he had been there before. But what I exuded inspired and intrigued him so much that he went for it regardless. He was thinking solutions.
I really think if a man feels that spark for you, feel there's something that could potentially be what he's looking for, he will move heaven and earth to get to meeting. And sure, that may mean it takes a month or maybe 2 depending what the obstacle is.

@ Sceptical, thank you :) I have done quite a lot of readings in a short time. I decided to take a break this weekend.
But I'm glad to hear you like them!

@ Sceptical, thank you :) I have done quite a lot of readings in a short time. I decided to take a break this weekend.
But I'm glad to hear you like them!