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Men are visual .. It's common sense ... If we like what we see ... we go after it ..... If your personality works for both your partner or friend .... Then why question it ? Just go with it ... Are you getting any younger ? ;D Go with the flow...I was thinking there were deeper feelings involved and how is it realised as a serious thing.? And yes I am old and complicated lol I would sure why not .... what are you afraid of besides fear & gravity ? I don't know how serious you are with the mystery person . Only you know that .. You're old & complicated tsk tks .... i may look in my 20's .... i can assure i am not .... 37 next month & you're 47 ...... Ten years difference ..... where's the connection ? LOL That was just a scenario  and you are right the age doesn’t have to do anything with the topic. My curiosity was about how men feel and why they say I love you even before they actually meet a girl physically. That is all. I don’t want to judge that’s why I ask lol There are a lot of stupid men out there. There are a lot of desperate men out there. There are a lot of men that will tell you anything to get into your pants. There are a lot of stupid men out there that are desperate and will tell you anything to get into your pants. lol. Some men, all they can think about is sex and where their next lay is going to come from. Online you can only learn so much about someone. If someone will tell you online, that you've never met, that they love you, you might should run just as fast as you possibly can away from them. Something is wrong one way or the other. If you allow yourself to fall in love with someone online that you've never met, you are falling in love with an illusion. An illusion of what you think they are. You can't love someone you don't know. Real life is not a Hollywood movie.  ^^^^^ this  totally agree with  Aye. Lots of truth in it. But maybe there is exceptions from the rule? I did not meet one of my ex partners on social media, and both relationships ended in total disaster. What I'm trying to say is, after a while of chatting and phone calls and stuff, why not meet in person, all dangers ruled out of course. Maybe there might be more than friendship? We never know. But ruling out someone, just for the mere fact, that we met that person on social media, is a bit cruel. JMO |
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nothing wrong with meeting on line lars but the point was if that is all and you have fallen you are only falling for part of them or more likely the illusion you have filled in on your own. it takes the endless calls and actually meeting more than once to really learn about some one. by the same token whirlwind romances in real life are the same. bottom line it takes lots of time to truly learn about someone and find compatability
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nothing wrong with meeting on line lars but the point was if that is all and you have fallen you are only falling for part of them or more likely the illusion you have filled in on your own. it takes the endless calls and actually meeting more than once to really learn about some one. by the same token whirlwind romances in real life are the same. bottom line it takes lots of time to truly learn about someone and find compatability I fully agree. Before you can say the L word from the bottom of your heart, you have to see, hear, feel, etc the other person, spend some time together and spend some time apart ... because one deciding factor for me is, to miss a person dearly. Or as we say in Germany, he/she who truly loves you, will always come back 
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How do I know it is the real thing? Normally takes about five dates for me to figure it out. By that time, I have a good feel for if she is a crazy biatch.  That is another topic : how to find out if shes a biatch thanks goof In all fairness, both a man and a woman do try to figure out if the other has their stuff together, is a nut job....you can't just fall for someone and not try to figure that out. However, love will make you do crazy, sometimes stupid things. But that is just a part of life eh? |
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nothing wrong with meeting on line lars but the point was if that is all and you have fallen you are only falling for part of them or more likely the illusion you have filled in on your own. it takes the endless calls and actually meeting more than once to really learn about some one. by the same token whirlwind romances in real life are the same. bottom line it takes lots of time to truly learn about someone and find compatability Ive been married 10 years and when i got out of it he was like a complete stranger to me like i didnt know him at all. And to think we dated 3 years before getting married too
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nothing wrong with meeting on line lars but the point was if that is all and you have fallen you are only falling for part of them or more likely the illusion you have filled in on your own. it takes the endless calls and actually meeting more than once to really learn about some one. by the same token whirlwind romances in real life are the same. bottom line it takes lots of time to truly learn about someone and find compatability I fully agree. Before you can say the L word from the bottom of your heart, you have to see, hear, feel, etc the other person, spend some time together and spend some time apart ... because one deciding factor for me is, to miss a person dearly. Or as we say in Germany, he/she who truly loves you, will always come back Im not surprised then Lars. I havent seen even a shadow of someone coming back but i am cool with it  . It is also good that a man takes the L word seriously. For me its been overrated and overused that it has lost its true meaning. That the skeptic in me speaking.
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see ss nothing is fool proof even face to face with all the body language an such right there in front of us
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How do I know it is the real thing? Normally takes about five dates for me to figure it out. By that time, I have a good feel for if she is a crazy biatch. That is another topic : how to find out if shes a biatch thanks goof In all fairness, both a man and a woman do try to figure out if the other has their stuff together, is a nut job....you can't just fall for someone and not try to figure that out. However, love will make you do crazy, sometimes stupid things. But that is just a part of life eh? Yes it is part of life for a couple to know what makes each one tick as the clock goes tick tock tick tock. We never know the outcome or end till we hear the fat lady sings her tune. We all just have to make the best of it and try to enjoy the adventure of exploring nowhere land to somewhere land  the real thing is very different for each real person
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see ss nothing is fool proof even face to face with all the body language an such right there in front of us And i agree 101% SN. It really takes a lot of time and a lot of patience
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yep tho i think sometimes ton is right and we put way too much into it trying to control steer or create it where it isn't found naturally
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yep tho i think sometimes tom is right and we put way too much into it trying to control steer or create it where it isn't found naturally
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yep tho i think sometimes tom is right and we put way too much into it trying to control steer or create it where it isn't found naturally If we put effort in steering and controlling then it is really not natural. But when you let go and just go with the flow it may lead to somewhere you dont want to go. So which way to go? Either way could lead to the real thing |
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yep tho i think sometimes tom is right and we put way too much into it trying to control steer or create it where it isn't found naturally If we put effort in steering and controlling then it is really not natural. But when you let go and just go with the flow it may lead to somewhere you dont want to go. So which way to go? Either way could lead to the real thing |
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yes but choosing to not go where you don't want when letting it happen naturally is way easier than all the effort of trying to steer it and winding up in failure land anyway
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yes but choosing to not go where you don't want when letting it happen naturally is way easier than all the effort of trying to steer it and winding up in failure land anyway Well i agree with you its really easier
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There is even two versions of the L word used in Ireland. 'I love you' is used for close family members, close friends and soulmates, even for your pets. But 'I am in love with you', that's when matters get serious, and this is the one, not to be used on line or only after a short period of time.
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NO IT ISN't.......j/s
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Ok let’s start with an on line scenario: We both signed up in the same dating app. You checked out my profile then I checked out your account too  we post in the forums and at a distance we observe how each other is by the way we express our thoughts and by the way we communicate with others. We got more interested and one of us sends that first message which later turned out to be the start of so many more. Days go by we like each other even more we start to feel that elusive connection we both yearn for. Then suddenly messaging wasn’t enough we wanted to see each other and video was the next step. Gosh we liked each other even more . What we saw just made the attraction even better. We admit to each other that we like each other more. Then video chat would later on not suffice anymore. We want the real thing , yearn for the real thing. So my question goes: Dear mingle men.....when and how do you know that what you feel is the real thing already when you haven’t even met the girl personally? Is there a time frame that makes you realise yes she is the one? When do you realise it’s more than infatuation? Do you sort of do a test to know your true feelings and hers too? Is there a certain level of love that you feel that makes you want to be serious with a girl and would want to spend happily ever after? Basically these questions are about the on line stuff which I know is quite different from the real world. I would appreciate your opinions and personal experiences without any judgements. Thank you all in advance  It's very easy to get caught up in those feelings. You think they are real and in a sense they are. However, they are coming from inside you, not from the other person. Do not let those feelings, which you want to have and enjoy, impair your judgment, cuz they will if you let them. You want them so much that it's easy to have your thought process manipulated by your own heart. Continue on with your life as normal until the other person proves beyond the shadow of any doubt that they are feeling the same way and that they are a keeper, which cannot happen via video chat alone. Let them come to you and prove themselves. Otherwise, all you're really doing is setting yourself up for a heartbreak before anything truly real or significant has ever happened. |
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There is even two versions of the L word used in Ireland. 'I love you' is used for close family members, close friends and soulmates, even for your pets. But 'I am in love with you', that's when matters get serious, and this is the one, not to be used on line or only after a short period of time. Thanks for the info Lars
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NO IT ISN't.......j/s Isnt real? 
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