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Real is something that is backed up with several aspects in order for it to be labelled as such. Having an emotional chemistry with someone can always mislead us that it is love we feel when it is not. Love is unconditional but with the conditions that you know the true person behind all the chemistry and you accept it all , good and bad without trying to change the person. This is real love ... true love. One that also stands the test of time 
The test of time? Coming back to patience here, it needs time to build up trust, it needs time to get used to a person. And if there is strong feelings on both sides, there might be a forever match on the cards Time..something we donât have the luxury of. Patience takes practice too. I admire your optimism Larsi and faith that there is still a forever kind of love
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Real is something that is backed up with several aspects in order for it to be labelled as such. Having an emotional chemistry with someone can always mislead us that it is love we feel when it is not. Love is unconditional but with the conditions that you know the true person behind all the chemistry and you accept it all , good and bad without trying to change the person. This is real love ... true love. One that also stands the test of time
The test of time? Coming back to patience here, it needs time to build up trust, it needs time to get used to a person. And if there is strong feelings on both sides, there might be a forever match on the cards
Time..something we donât have the luxury of. Patience takes practice too. I admire your optimism Larsi and faith that there is still a forever kind of love
I am about to learn patience, because anything apart from it only puts more stress on me. Besides, my proposed forever love needs time, I am pretty sure there. So she will get all the time she needs 
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Ahhh Patience with a huge capital P is the key. LDR's are hard enough when they are within your own country. specially if it is a big country(like the US). Having a relationship with someone outside your country is even more difficult.
I can only speak from my experience with a girl from the Philippines. It started just as the OP stated,first on here with messages and progressed through Skype and phone calls etc. The problem is my country(the US) makes it almost impossible for Filipino's to come here even on a tourist visa never mind to immigrate here. Traveling back and forth can be quite expensive and time consuming, it is about a 24 hour trip each way with stops. One of the few ways to get her here is to marry her, then it still may take some time to get that visa. So one question both should ask themselves is how long or how much "patience" are they willing to accept BEFORE they can actually meet and second if and when they meet(and get along) do they have the resources and commitment to see it through all the loopholes they will have to navigate through. Good Luck 
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Ahhh Patience with a huge capital P is the key. LDR's are hard enough when they are within your own country. specially if it is a big country(like the US). Having a relationship with someone outside your country is even more difficult. I can only speak from my experience with a girl from the Philippines. It started just as the OP stated,first on here with messages and progressed through Skype and phone calls etc. The problem is my country(the US) makes it almost impossible for Filipino's to come here even on a tourist visa never mind to immigrate here. Traveling back and forth can be quite expensive and time consuming, it is about a 24 hour trip each way with stops. One of the few ways to get her here is to marry her, then it still may take some time to get that visa. So one question both should ask themselves is how long or how much "patience" are they willing to accept BEFORE they can actually meet and second if and when they meet(and get along) do they have the resources and commitment to see it through all the loopholes they will have to navigate through. Good Luck
Ok this has got me curious now but i dont want to pry. I just hope something good came out of your experience sir. Would you say you had the real thing back then? |
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There's no chance, soul! I'm above your age preference, well above it unfortunately. You could message me, but I couldn't write back.
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Ok this has got me curious now but i dont want to pry. I just hope something good came out of your experience sir. Would you say you had the real thing back then? Sceptical  First, you never have to worry about "prying", I'm an open book and will always try to answer questions asked of me
Second, I want to say something about you calling me "sir". This has to do with the great experience I have had with people from your country and it's culture. I have traveled extensively most of my adult life and I must say that the Filipino people are the friendliest, warmest, genuine and civil people I have ever met! After the long flight to Manila I was exhausted but still needed to get to the island of Mindanao, the southern most island. I was excited yet had some trepidation because the terror group abu sayyaf was still fairly active on that island. Anyway, once I finally got to my destination, a small town or barrio as they call them there, it was beautiful! Lush rain forest and simple homes. It was like going back in time. As many had electricity and the ones who had money also had modern things like T.V and laptops etc but a lot of them still bathed and washed clothes in the crystal clear streams and if you didn't have internet a walk to town had internet cafe's. But what really stands out is the beauty of the people. They have a deep human connection that a lot of western countries have lost because of high tech, materialism and immediate gratification expectations. Their morals, manners,honesty, integrity and civility toward each other and strong bonds of family was incredibly refreshing in a world that has left a lot of those values behind. In Short, I fell in love with the country and it's people! So to answer your question, a lot of great things came out of my experience(as stated above) and yes, I had the real thing back then, but then again there are things that can make being together very difficult. I wanted to message you and give you some tips and options about different visa processes etc but your filters don't allow that so I hope This helps you and anyone contemplating traveling or dating someone in the Philippines. 
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Ok this has got me curious now but i dont want to pry. I just hope something good came out of your experience sir. Would you say you had the real thing back then? Sceptical First, you never have to worry about "prying", I'm an open book and will always try to answer questions asked of me
Second, I want to say something about you calling me "sir". This has to do with the great experience I have had with people from your country and it's culture. I have traveled extensively most of my adult life and I must say that the Filipino people are the friendliest, warmest, genuine and civil people I have ever met! After the long flight to Manila I was exhausted but still needed to get to the island of Mindanao, the southern most island. I was excited yet had some trepidation because the terror group abu sayyaf was still fairly active on that island. Anyway, once I finally got to my destination, a small town or barrio as they call them there, it was beautiful! Lush rain forest and simple homes. It was like going back in time. As many had electricity and the ones who had money also had modern things like T.V and laptops etc but a lot of them still bathed and washed clothes in the crystal clear streams and if you didn't have internet a walk to town had internet cafe's. But what really stands out is the beauty of the people. They have a deep human connection that a lot of western countries have lost because of high tech, materialism and immediate gratification expectations. Their morals, manners,honesty, integrity and civility toward each other and strong bonds of family was incredibly refreshing in a world that has left a lot of those values behind. In Short, I fell in love with the country and it's people! So to answer your question, a lot of great things came out of my experience(as stated above) and yes, I had the real thing back then, but then again there are things that can make being together very difficult. I wanted to message you and give you some tips and options about different visa processes etc but your filters don't allow that so I hope This helps you and anyone contemplating traveling or dating someone in the Philippines.
I am glad to hear about your experience here in the Philippines and your impression of us quite true and flattering hopefully someday you can visit again and see the changes that has happened but with the people basically the same  long distance is really hard huh. Thanks for sharing your experience sir
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There's no chance, soul! I'm above your age preference, well above it unfortunately. You could message me, but I couldn't write back. Blessings to you sir
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Real is something that is backed up with several aspects in order for it to be labelled as such. Having an emotional chemistry with someone can always mislead us that it is love we feel when it is not. Love is unconditional but with the conditions that you know the true person behind all the chemistry and you accept it all , good and bad without trying to change the person. This is real love ... true love. One that also stands the test of time
The test of time? Coming back to patience here, it needs time to build up trust, it needs time to get used to a person. And if there is strong feelings on both sides, there might be a forever match on the cards
Time..something we donât have the luxury of. Patience takes practice too. I admire your optimism Larsi and faith that there is still a forever kind of love
I am about to learn patience, because anything apart from it only puts more stress on me. Besides, my proposed forever love needs time, I am pretty sure there. So she will get all the time she needs Being in your profession, patience is surely second nature already
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Ok this has got me curious now but i dont want to pry. I just hope something good came out of your experience sir. Would you say you had the real thing back then? Sceptical First, you never have to worry about "prying", I'm an open book and will always try to answer questions asked of me
Second, I want to say something about you calling me "sir". This has to do with the great experience I have had with people from your country and it's culture. I have traveled extensively most of my adult life and I must say that the Filipino people are the friendliest, warmest, genuine and civil people I have ever met! After the long flight to Manila I was exhausted but still needed to get to the island of Mindanao, the southern most island. I was excited yet had some trepidation because the terror group abu sayyaf was still fairly active on that island. Anyway, once I finally got to my destination, a small town or barrio as they call them there, it was beautiful! Lush rain forest and simple homes. It was like going back in time. As many had electricity and the ones who had money also had modern things like T.V and laptops etc but a lot of them still bathed and washed clothes in the crystal clear streams and if you didn't have internet a walk to town had internet cafe's. But what really stands out is the beauty of the people. They have a deep human connection that a lot of western countries have lost because of high tech, materialism and immediate gratification expectations. Their morals, manners,honesty, integrity and civility toward each other and strong bonds of family was incredibly refreshing in a world that has left a lot of those values behind. In Short, I fell in love with the country and it's people! So to answer your question, a lot of great things came out of my experience(as stated above) and yes, I had the real thing back then, but then again there are things that can make being together very difficult. I wanted to message you and give you some tips and options about different visa processes etc but your filters don't allow that so I hope This helps you and anyone contemplating traveling or dating someone in the Philippines.
I am glad to hear about your experience here in the Philippines and your impression of us quite true and flattering hopefully someday you can visit again and see the changes that has happened but with the people basically the same long distance is really hard huh. Thanks for sharing your experience sir
After re-reading what I wrote, I guess I did give the impression to some that All of the country was as described. I just want to point out to the readers that there are MANY modern cities like Manila, Cebu and Davao just to name a very few that have all the amenities of modern large cities.
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Ok letâs start with an on line scenario: We both signed up in the same dating app. You checked out my profile then I checked out your account too  we post in the forums and at a distance we observe how each other is by the way we express our thoughts and by the way we communicate with others. We got more interested and one of us sends that first message which later turned out to be the start of so many more. Days go by we like each other even more we start to feel that elusive connection we both yearn for. Then suddenly messaging wasnât enough we wanted to see each other and video was the next step. Gosh we liked each other even more . What we saw just made the attraction even better. We admit to each other that we like each other more. Then video chat would later on not suffice anymore. We want the real thing , yearn for the real thing.
So my question goes: Dear mingle men.....when and how do you know that what you feel is the real thing already when you havenât even met the girl personally? Is there a time frame that makes you realise yes she is the one? When do you realise itâs more than infatuation? Do you sort of do a test to know your true feelings and hers too? Is there a certain level of love that you feel that makes you want to be serious with a girl and would want to spend happily ever after? Basically these questions are about the on line stuff which I know is quite different from the real world. I would appreciate your opinions and personal experiences without any judgements. Thank you all in advance
Not a man but somehow I can relate  .. I found a lifelong friend through a dating site (so he's not the one). We just chatted and found a connection. We talk about anything and everything. He's always there for me. He's showing his care and concern though he's far. He always make me feel remembered and special. I met him already and this coming May 12, he'll be in the Philippines again. We'll meet ... I know that he likes me but I know that we'll never be more than friends (we're aware of that but we're both building a good memory) coz we know each other that much already. This November he'll visit again and we'll do lots of things...
You will know that he's the one if there's a connection and chemistry. If your feelings still don't change even after meeting him also if he feels the same... if you keep thinking about that person... if both are exerting effort to make the relationship grow/ last long |
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Ok letâs start with an on line scenario: We both signed up in the same dating app. You checked out my profile then I checked out your account too we post in the forums and at a distance we observe how each other is by the way we express our thoughts and by the way we communicate with others. We got more interested and one of us sends that first message which later turned out to be the start of so many more. Days go by we like each other even more we start to feel that elusive connection we both yearn for. Then suddenly messaging wasnât enough we wanted to see each other and video was the next step. Gosh we liked each other even more . What we saw just made the attraction even better. We admit to each other that we like each other more. Then video chat would later on not suffice anymore. We want the real thing , yearn for the real thing.
So my question goes: Dear mingle men.....when and how do you know that what you feel is the real thing already when you havenât even met the girl personally? Is there a time frame that makes you realise yes she is the one? When do you realise itâs more than infatuation? Do you sort of do a test to know your true feelings and hers too? Is there a certain level of love that you feel that makes you want to be serious with a girl and would want to spend happily ever after? Basically these questions are about the on line stuff which I know is quite different from the real world. I would appreciate your opinions and personal experiences without any judgements. Thank you all in advance
Not a man but somehow I can relate .. I found a lifelong friend through a dating site (so he's not the one). We just chatted and found a connection. We talk about anything and everything. He's always there for me. He's showing his care and concern though he's far. He always make me feel remembered and special. I met him already and this coming May 12, he'll be in the Philippines again. We'll meet ... I know that he likes me but I know that we'll never be more than friends (we're aware of that but we're both building a good memory) coz we know each other that much already. This November he'll visit again and we'll do lots of things...
You will know that he's the one if there's a connection and chemistry. If your feelings still don't change even after meeting him also if he feels the same... if you keep thinking about that person... if both are exerting effort to make the relationship grow/ last long Im happy you found a lifelong friend angel... good for you
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So what are you looking for?
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So what are you looking for? If this was for me... im looking for real lasting love |
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So what are you looking for? Perhaps her question wasn't meant to be personal, but for all of us as well .. however, as such topic already exists, she might want to take a look, what people are looking for .. https://mingle2.com/topic/545442 |
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How do I know it is the real thing? Normally takes about five dates for me to figure it out. By that time, I have a good feel for if she is a crazy biatch.
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Men are visual .. It's common sense ... If we like what we see ... we go after it ..... If your personality works for both your partner or friend .... Then why question it ? Just go with it ... Are you getting any younger ? ;D Go with the flow...I was thinking there were deeper feelings involved and how is it realised as a serious thing.? And yes I am old and complicated lol I would sure why not .... what are you afraid of besides fear & gravity ? I don't know how serious you are with the mystery person . Only you know that .. You're old & complicated tsk tks .... i may look in my 20's .... i can assure i am not .... 37 next month & you're 47 ...... Ten years difference ..... where's the connection ? LOL That was just a scenario and you are right the age doesnât have to do anything with the topic. My curiosity was about how men feel and why they say I love you even before they actually meet a girl physically. That is all. I donât want to judge thatâs why I ask lol
There are a lot of stupid men out there. There are a lot of desperate men out there. There are a lot of men that will tell you anything to get into your pants. There are a lot of stupid men out there that are desperate and will tell you anything to get into your pants. lol. Some men, all they can think about is sex and where their next lay is going to come from. Online you can only learn so much about someone. If someone will tell you online, that you've never met, that they love you, you might should run just as fast as you possibly can away from them. Something is wrong one way or the other. If you allow yourself to fall in love with someone online that you've never met, you are falling in love with an illusion. An illusion of what you think they are. You can't love someone you don't know. Real life is not a Hollywood movie.
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How do I know it is the real thing? Normally takes about five dates for me to figure it out. By that time, I have a good feel for if she is a crazy biatch. That is another topic : how to find out if shes a biatch thanks goof
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Men are visual .. It's common sense ... If we like what we see ... we go after it ..... If your personality works for both your partner or friend .... Then why question it ? Just go with it ... Are you getting any younger ? ;D Go with the flow...I was thinking there were deeper feelings involved and how is it realised as a serious thing.? And yes I am old and complicated lol I would sure why not .... what are you afraid of besides fear & gravity ? I don't know how serious you are with the mystery person . Only you know that .. You're old & complicated tsk tks .... i may look in my 20's .... i can assure i am not .... 37 next month & you're 47 ...... Ten years difference ..... where's the connection ? LOL That was just a scenario and you are right the age doesnât have to do anything with the topic. My curiosity was about how men feel and why they say I love you even before they actually meet a girl physically. That is all. I donât want to judge thatâs why I ask lol
There are a lot of stupid men out there. There are a lot of desperate men out there. There are a lot of men that will tell you anything to get into your pants. There are a lot of stupid men out there that are desperate and will tell you anything to get into your pants. lol. Some men, all they can think about is sex and where their next lay is going to come from. Online you can only learn so much about someone. If someone will tell you online, that you've never met, that they love you, you might should run just as fast as you possibly can away from them. Something is wrong one way or the other. If you allow yourself to fall in love with someone online that you've never met, you are falling in love with an illusion. An illusion of what you think they are. You can't love someone you don't know. Real life is not a Hollywood movie.
^^^^^ this totally agree with
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