In my opinion talking on the phone would tell you more about a person than any online communication, other than the appearance of the person of course. I think people would be more relaxed and be themselves on the phone, at least after a few calls.

Yes the sound of a persons voice can actually give us an idea as to how he could be in person. But you must agree that it’s not enough.

Yes the sound of a persons voice can actually give us an idea as to how he could be in person. But you must agree that it’s not enough.

I certainly agree that's not enough, I just think short of meeting that it's the best thing.

Yes to that too

So the real thing... if she looks better in video and pictures after youve actually seen her, a feeling of disappointment only proves that what you felt was not real. Feelings can really be misleading sometimes but we cannot fake it right? It clouds our judgement and makes us think about labels when there are none Maybe a friendship turning into something romantic would be more real rather than starting with the sparks and trying to keep it sparking

I don't know that I could get a sense of LOVE online .. Now I may like what I see but for me I would have to get a REAL sense of the person by being around them like.how she carries herself ..if I can see my future in her eyes,how she treats me and others.. on and on There are so many factors that goes into the Tombs love .. before I can say that she is the one and that I love her ..but that's me and not everyone is like me..

so Tombs love takes more than a few chats and actual dates . So from what I understand saying i love you is not something you would ever say on line then. You would and could never feel real love here never ever ?

Alright, now me...

If you meet on social media and you find someone, you really like, start with small steps. Do not rush into things, one step after another. Sure phone calls or video chats are a good option, especially if the person you like lives at the other end of the globe. And you never know, if both give each other time, friendship can turn into more.

There is always good and bad days as well, so always accept, there might be days without sparks, but they will come back, if both give each other support in hard times and appreciate each other.

Very well said . No rushing yes. But do you think you could really fall in love on line my friend?

It's hard to say. You can always fall in love online, even if I am very careful. Sparks in your own heart don't mean, they fly both ways. And all your feelings have to be transfered into real life. I think, certainty only comes, when you look into each other's eyes.

Yes and i agree cheers to that

Glad that you agree with me. Thanks

A song that gives clues about the real thing :

"The One You Love"
(feat. Kate Miller Heidke)

We’re all looking,
That’s what she said,
For someone to share our thoughts,
For someone to share our beds.

But if you find someone that doesn’t try to change you,
If you find someone that doesn’t have to blame you,
If you find someone you don’t need to explain to,
You’ve found the one you love.

We’re all searching,
Thats all I know,
For someone to keep us warm,
When the rain soaks through our clothes.

But if you find a hand to hold when the night comes,
To be there when you’re old and your frightened,
If you find some one who loves you with the lights on,
You’ve found the one you love.

So hold it near,
Cos love it comes so quickly and then it goes,
And be careful my dear,
Cos the very thing that makes you,
Could be the thing that breaks you,
You know.

If you find someone who doesn’t undermine you,
If you find someone who doesn’t drag behind you,
If you find someone that loves you just like I do,
You’ve found the one you love.

She is absolutely right

Quoting from Ed Sheeran:

So don’t call me baby
Unless you mean it
Don’t tell me you need me
If you don’t believe it
So let me know the truth
Before I dive right into you

Quoting from Larsi:

I mean, everything I said

Is that a german trait ?

Real is something that is backed up with several aspects in order for it to be labelled as such. Having an emotional chemistry with someone can always mislead us that it is love we feel when it is not. Love is unconditional but with the conditions that you know the true person behind all the chemistry and you accept it all , good and bad without trying to change the person. This is real love ... true love. One that also stands the test of time

The test of time? Coming back to patience here, it needs time to build up trust, it needs time to get used to a person. And if there is strong feelings on both sides, there might be a forever match on the cards