I feel that until you spend a good deal of quality time with a person face to face in real life situations, you are only in love with an idea. If it goes on too long, this idea can cloud your judgement. I believe genuine friendships can cultivate, but romance requires a good deal of personal instinct that cannot be clearly felt online, or over the phone. That’s been my experience anyway.

Yes, I agree. I wouldn't give in totally to love either unless we met face to face. At least not now, lol.

Here's to finding that connection that turns out to be real

Blessings to you too Sis

I feel that until you spend a good deal of quality time with a person face to face in real life situations, you are only in love with an idea. If it goes on too long, this idea can cloud your judgement. I believe genuine friendships can cultivate, but romance requires a good deal of personal instinct that cannot be clearly felt online, or over the phone. That’s been my experience anyway.

Don't kid yourself with chats and video, go meet up in person and see how you two connect.

Some of us are at an age where we are not willing to spend several months or more communicating with someone before meeting. It doesn't matter if I think you might be a good partner; that you can't figure out in cyber land. If you aren't interested in meeting IRL, then why are you on a dating site???

Ummm because this isn't just a dating site. It is a social site too

Very true...how is an idea long enough to make you think it’s clouded your judgment ? Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Ok so I asked someone how do you know what you feel is real? His answer was a simple : the opposite of real is fake. I cannot fake how I feel for you. My feelings are real as I don’t think about it and make it up. Now the intensity...that one is still to be figured out. But you keep me awake most nights because I think of you. Thoughts of you make me happy and that is real for me.
And I replied: you’re acting like a teenager lol . And he just laughed more

It was real enough for me to watch her be with and marry other men over more than 25 years, and I hoped she would tire of a'holes, and want to be really loved by me one day, but no, she always preferred a'holes - always. I gave up on her, and haven't seen her for 15 years, but still can't stop thinking about her. I need someone else to love.
From my point of view, my 'in love' with her was true and real from the start.

In fact I first saw her and was very attracted to her many years before, when she was about 10 and I was about 14 and we met while camping at a small coastal town, but back then in the mid 70's she was way young, and I was a shy awkward unpopular (ugly) teen.
On the phone at work with our first chats, I didn't know it was her, but we had a connection.
Damn my mangled heart.

I just think that the longer you allow an idea to brew, the stronger it gets. I just compared ideas to coffee. Lol!

That is incredibly sweet, definitely worth meeting to find out Sis

You think so Sis? I’m hoping this is not a phase I’m hoping I can see better now with my mind , my heart has always been I just see it as things will happen if they are meant to. If not then it’s not as if it hasn’t happened before lol. The heart is the toughest organ of the human body

I speak as a woman longing to hear those words, perhaps not as a rationally minded woman, lol.

Only you can decide that Sis. When the time is right, if it is right, I believe you will know. You're a wise woman

Here’s to more coffee and stronger brews although coffee makes me palpitate I really can’t do without a morning dose thou. Same as I know loving can break me I just can’t forget how it can also make me feel alive . Cheers

That’s why we’re mingle sisters we both speak with our hearts thanks sis I will make it a mantra to think I am a wise woman till I get the much needed confidence I’m glad things are going well in your life and I know it can only get better my hugs and kisses to you

Sorry, it was kinda rude for me to add my two cents to a question asked if Sweetie pie.

I agree with her response though and would add BUT, I do think you can have real affection for someone online. It would just be difficult to know for certain to what extent is it for the person or the idea.

Didn’t see any rudeness there jan I enjoy reading your posts and appreciate your thoughts. So keep writing them please

Very true...how is an idea long enough to make you think it’s clouded your judgment ? Thanks for sharing your thoughts.