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Ok let’s start with an on line scenario: We both signed up in the same dating app. You checked out my profile then I checked out your account too  we post in the forums and at a distance we observe how each other is by the way we express our thoughts and by the way we communicate with others. We got more interested and one of us sends that first message which later turned out to be the start of so many more. Days go by we like each other even more we start to feel that elusive connection we both yearn for. Then suddenly messaging wasn’t enough we wanted to see each other and video was the next step. Gosh we liked each other even more . What we saw just made the attraction even better. We admit to each other that we like each other more. Then video chat would later on not suffice anymore. We want the real thing , yearn for the real thing.
So my question goes: Dear mingle men.....when and how do you know that what you feel is the real thing already when you haven’t even met the girl personally? Is there a time frame that makes you realise yes she is the one? When do you realise it’s more than infatuation? Do you sort of do a test to know your true feelings and hers too? Is there a certain level of love that you feel that makes you want to be serious with a girl and would want to spend happily ever after? Basically these questions are about the on line stuff which I know is quite different from the real world. I would appreciate your opinions and personal experiences without any judgements. Thank you all in advance 
It's very easy to get caught up in those feelings. You think they are real and in a sense they are. However, they are coming from inside you, not from the other person. Do not let those feelings, which you want to have and enjoy, impair your judgment, cuz they will if you let them. You want them so much that it's easy to have your thought process manipulated by your own heart. Continue on with your life as normal until the other person proves beyond the shadow of any doubt that they are feeling the same way and that they are a keeper, which cannot happen via video chat alone. Let them come to you and prove themselves. Otherwise, all you're really doing is setting yourself up for a heartbreak before anything truly real or significant has ever happened. Thank you for your post sir ... the signs of a keeper duly noted 
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Glasswoman
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Fri 05/11/18 11:58 PM
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Good question. And replies..
Sorry I have a question and hope it's not too off topic. New and dont see the answere or direction on where to get it. I've noticed profiles where thwy have pictures posted and in the corner it says "mingle 2" so does that mean some of our pics will become the websites property? Just wierd because the people have more then one or two pictures and not all of them say this. Is this a A.I. like a bot? Fake profile? On profile even had 6 pictures and two listed with another dating sites name along one pic with the mingle 2 site referenced. Thanks for your help and good luck on your quest. |
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it's just a flag of membership i think dating back to when just say hi became mingle 2 if you can catch them in the older sections of the forums you can see their join dates under their pics any pics posted after don't have it
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I'm new to all this so this all a bit heavy and sudden, the only messages I've had are from people a lot younger who want me to go on hangout or some website or email them, so much so that I've added to my profile not to do that, and that's generally only after I've messaged them by putting together the 1st and last letters and seeing who's been looking at my profile. Which I'm not going to do anymore, I did ask people to message me, as I can't see who likes me. I got my 1st 2 matches yesterday, no message even though I eagerly messaged them and 1 of thems profile had gone so I couldn't message them, I bet the others gone too. It would seem the scammers have changed tactics.I'd just ask to meet for coffee or a drink and take it from there.who knows where it would go.I'm gonna keep my fingers crossed but I'm not gonna hold my breath.
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I'm new to all this so this all a bit heavy and sudden, the only messages I've had are from people a lot younger who want me to go on hangout or some website or email them, so much so that I've added to my profile not to do that, and that's generally only after I've messaged them by putting together the 1st and last letters and seeing who's been looking at my profile. Which I'm not going to do anymore, I did ask people to message me, as I can't see who likes me. I got my 1st 2 matches yesterday, no message even though I eagerly messaged them and 1 of thems profile had gone so I couldn't message them, I bet the others gone too. It would seem the scammers have changed tactics.I'd just ask to meet for coffee or a drink and take it from there.who knows where it would go.I'm gonna keep my fingers crossed but I'm not gonna hold my breath. Good luck to you sir 
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Why thank you madam, and the same to you
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Real is something that is backed up with several aspects in order for it to be labelled as such. Having an emotional chemistry with someone can always mislead us that it is love we feel when it is not. Love is unconditional but with the conditions that you know the true person behind all the chemistry and you accept it all , good and bad without trying to change the person. This is real love ... true love. One that also stands the test of time I cant believe i said this .... hello to me 
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So my question goes:
Dear mingle men.....when and how do you know that what you feel is the real thing already when you haven’t even met the girl personally? Is there a time frame that makes you realise yes she is the one? When do you realise it’s more than infatuation? Do you sort of do a test to know your true feelings and hers too? Is there a certain level of love that you feel that makes you want to be serious with a girl and would want to spend happily ever after? Basically these questions are about the on line stuff which I know is quite different from the real world. I would appreciate your opinions and personal experiences without any judgements. Thank you all in advance
It's very easy to get caught up in those feelings. You think they are real and in a sense they are. However, they are coming from inside you, not from the other person. Do not let those feelings, which you want to have and enjoy, impair your judgment, cuz they will if you let them. You want them so much that it's easy to have your thought process manipulated by your own heart. Continue on with your life as normal until the other person proves beyond the shadow of any doubt that they are feeling the same way and that they are a keeper, which cannot happen via video chat alone. Let them come to you and prove themselves. Otherwise, all you're really doing is setting yourself up for a heartbreak before anything truly real or significant has ever happened. The thought process can be manipulated by the heart because of its yearning to find that one true and lasting love. So online is just online nothing real till proven real 
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.when and how do you know that what you feel is the real thing already when you haven’t even met the girl personally? Is there a time frame that makes you realise yes she is the one? When do you realise it’s more than infatuation? Do you sort of do a test to know your true feelings and hers too? Is there a certain level of love that you feel that makes you want to be serious with a girl and would want to spend happily ever after? Basically these questions are about the on line stuff which I know is quite different from the real world.
I missed this one when it was started. My answer is, that the whole process just isn't scientific or as entirely sequentially logical as the question implies. Despite years of trying to figure out how to figure out whether someone might work or not, I never developed either a process, or found any key experience or sensation that works to make me decide between "this is it!" and "better luck next time," or "maybe we can be friends," and so on. There are plenty of the opposite. It's easy to point to something that felt like a hand grenade going off in our midst. That sort of moment is easy to notice and recall. But for everything else, I experience it as more of an unguided discovery process. Online, I've had a few situations where I started talking to someone just to be friends, and it never crossed my mind that they or I would decide later to try for something more. I've done the same thing in offline situations a number of times as well. But I get the sense from the way this question is worded, that you are talking about people who have a definite plan for how to find a good mate, who conduct dating as a sequence of experiments and tests, with candidates chosen by appearance and locality and other factors. The only people I've known who actually conducted their relationships that way, were what often gets called the "player" types. People who thought of relationships as being short term self-serving entertainments, and not as life-length endeavors of any kind. Basically, the kind of people who expect from the beginning of every relationship, that it will "run it's course" after a year or so, and require replacements. |
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Actually,everybody who's need seriously,want to real in every relationship,the person as it really sincerly,but anytime what they want,never be realized...only feel disappoint in their heart...
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.when and how do you know that what you feel is the real thing already when you haven’t even met the girl personally? Is there a time frame that makes you realise yes she is the one? When do you realise it’s more than infatuation? Do you sort of do a test to know your true feelings and hers too? Is there a certain level of love that you feel that makes you want to be serious with a girl and would want to spend happily ever after? Basically these questions are about the on line stuff which I know is quite different from the real world.
I missed this one when it was started. My answer is, that the whole process just isn't scientific or as entirely sequentially logical as the question implies. Despite years of trying to figure out how to figure out whether someone might work or not, I never developed either a process, or found any key experience or sensation that works to make me decide between "this is it!" and "better luck next time," or "maybe we can be friends," and so on. There are plenty of the opposite. It's easy to point to something that felt like a hand grenade going off in our midst. That sort of moment is easy to notice and recall. But for everything else, I experience it as more of an unguided discovery process. Online, I've had a few situations where I started talking to someone just to be friends, and it never crossed my mind that they or I would decide later to try for something more. I've done the same thing in offline situations a number of times as well. But I get the sense from the way this question is worded, that you are talking about people who have a definite plan for how to find a good mate, who conduct dating as a sequence of experiments and tests, with candidates chosen by appearance and locality and other factors. The only people I've known who actually conducted their relationships that way, were what often gets called the "player" types. People who thought of relationships as being short term self-serving entertainments, and not as life-length endeavors of any kind. Basically, the kind of people who expect from the beginning of every relationship, that it will "run it's course" after a year or so, and require replacements. Love knows no logic ?  igor this is something new from you or at least I think so. I read you like an analytical ,thought processing kind of guy but now i think you have so much deeper thoughts about love being real. I do hope you can share how at one point in time if you ever did feel real about a person on line. If you felt the nervousness, excitement and sadness too. Thanks and blessings to you sir
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Actually,everybody who's need seriously,want to real in every relationship,the person as it really sincerly,but anytime what they want,never be realized...only feel disappoint in their heart...
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my sentiments exactly ss
i have read it 4 times now and i'm still  
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For the future heartbreakers ,may it be intentional or not :
Don't Say You Love Me The Corrs I've seen this place a thousand times I've felt this all before And every time you call I've waited there as though you might not call at all I know this face I'm wearing now I've seen this in my eyes And though it feels so great I'm still afraid That you'll be leaving anytime We've done this once and then you closed the door Don't let me fall again for nothing more Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real or take it all away I've caught myself smiling alone Just thinking of your voice And dreaming of your touch It's all too much You know I don't have any choice Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real or take it all away, yeah We've done this once and then you closed the door Don't let me fall again for nothing more Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real (make it real) or take it all away Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real (make it real) or take it all away Take it all away Or take it all away
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For the future heartbreakers ,may it be intentional or not : Don't Say You Love Me The Corrs I've seen this place a thousand times I've felt this all before And every time you call I've waited there as though you might not call at all I know this face I'm wearing now I've seen this in my eyes And though it feels so great I'm still afraid That you'll be leaving anytime We've done this once and then you closed the door Don't let me fall again for nothing more Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real or take it all away I've caught myself smiling alone Just thinking of your voice And dreaming of your touch It's all too much You know I don't have any choice Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real or take it all away, yeah We've done this once and then you closed the door Don't let me fall again for nothing more Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real (make it real) or take it all away Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real (make it real) or take it all away Take it all away Or take it all away
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well it's all about destiny
let's go back to the beginning before you sign up on mingle did you know that you'll end up on mingle talking on the forums ? no did you think that you'll find a woman and start a conversation with her ? no have you planned to fall in love with a woman just because something inside you tells you that she's the one ? no well,no one knows how or when the right one shows up but one thing is sure no matter where or how or when you find her and you have that feeling that she's the one don't let her go. or something like that |
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For the future heartbreakers ,may it be intentional or not : Don't Say You Love Me The Corrs I've seen this place a thousand times I've felt this all before And every time you call I've waited there as though you might not call at all I know this face I'm wearing now I've seen this in my eyes And though it feels so great I'm still afraid That you'll be leaving anytime We've done this once and then you closed the door Don't let me fall again for nothing more Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real or take it all away I've caught myself smiling alone Just thinking of your voice And dreaming of your touch It's all too much You know I don't have any choice Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real or take it all away, yeah We've done this once and then you closed the door Don't let me fall again for nothing more Don't say you love me Unless forever Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real (make it real) or take it all away Don't tell me you need me If you're not gonna stay Don't give me this feeling I'll only believe it Make it real (make it real) or take it all away Take it all away Or take it all away
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well it's all about destiny let's go back to the beginning before you sign up on mingle did you know that you'll end up on mingle talking on the forums ? no did you think that you'll find a woman and start a conversation with her ? no have you planned to fall in love with a woman just because something inside you tells you that she's the one ? no well,no one knows how or when the right one shows up but one thing is sure no matter where or how or when you find her and you have that feeling that she's the one don't let her go. or something like that What does one feel when they think they found the one person for them? So intense to the point of not letting them go. I guess im asking about clues and proofs to find out if on line feelings are just temporary and superficial. |
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Thanks Stu ... thanks Lars
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my sentiments exactly ss i have read it 4 times now and i'm still Maybe six times is the charm SN?
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