I agree, and I also think that if it comes to the point that the parent needs to hit their kids then the parent is to blame, not the kid.

I agree. If it gets to that point, the parent needs a time out. How can you possible expect to teach self control when you are not practicing it yourself.

My son was spanked (not for every little thing like being made out here) and he is my best friend. He is 24, responsible, friendly, and I've never worried about him getting into trouble. He had a good, fulfilled childhood. Even he is insulted at the posts here.

I don't try to shove my beliefs down anyone's throat. Show the same courtesy. Don't like it, don't do it

Geez people

It would be the same as me saying those that don't are raising unruly brats with no boundaries.

thank yellow for her input here,,, amazing

whats ignorant is the continued name calling by those who choose to 'ignore' all the positive feedback and results of those here who have spanked or been spanked,,,,and lumping EVERY physical assertion as 'hitting'

stop ASSuming to know how all spanking works(or doesnt) in every situation

its not about 'reaction' or 'frustration' for those who are in a balanced loving home,, its about discipline and instruction

its a PRESET set of rules and consequences that are discussed before and AFTER which makes it much less erratic than this singular suggestion that its a 'reaction to frustration'

I thought your use of the word ASSuming was a little childish.
I for one have simply given an opinion, I thought that's what topics where all about.
You think it's ok and I don't.
We disagree, but I don't have a problem with anyone who disagrees with me.

if the shoe doesnt fit dont wear it

there are several here calling names due to their ASSuming something about all spanking in every situation,,,

I dont have a problem either until it comes to the point of an opinion that is either directly or indirectly an insult,,,


I think there are many whose children could stand to get a spanking now and then,, but I dont have alot of negative stuff to say about their choice if they dont,,,if thats what ultimately is going to work in their job to love, support, guide and PREPARE Their kids in life,,,

OK, so I'll take it the shoes are not my size.
Good job, because you were heading for a spanking
Just a light one though

lol

I got tough skin,,,I can take it

Wow...I don't know what to say...
I never called anyone names or insulted anyone.
I expressed my opinion based on my experience and beliefs.

Wait!...Are you saying you sit down with the child and discuss the situation and then spank him? That just boggles my mind...I guess I presume my child is intelligent enough to understand the discussion with out having to strike it home...

I actually wasn't referring to you. I assure you my son is very intelligent and well balanced.

Are you saying you ground or put a child in time out without explaining? That boggles my mind.

I never specified who said what as I am not keeping tabs but these things were posted, which were insulting.

I Am saying my children and I , as I did with my parents, sit down and talk REGULARLY. We discuss right and wrong choices as well as why they are right or wrong. We also discuss consequences of crossing boundaries or making poor choices. We discuss their needs and wants and what plan we can work together to accomplish some of them. We discuss potential positive reinforcement for going above and beyond certain expectations.

When they exceed, I explain before their reinforcement why they are receiving it and if they understand and remember what we discussed.

When they cross boundaries, I likewise sit down and make sure they understand and remember what their choice is and what the consequence was going to be.

My children are VERY intelligent, thats why we discuss the good and the bad, to make sure they REMAIN that way and learn to use reasoning and logic behind their choices and they learn they can TRUST me to support them when they are right and correct them when they are wrong and to do what I Say I am going to do.

Unfortunately it's still legal, but once they are an adult, the assailant can go to jail. Children are still people and they won't learn anything of value through forms of violence.

You weren't. You were respective when you came into the discussion.

Who does that? Seriously? Who's azz are they pulling this out of that you have to talk about whether hitting/spanking a child is wrong? Of course it's wrong. Always has been, there's a reason why they do it behind closed doors, because they know deep down that it's shaming. Who's proud of that method? I wouldn't be. That is not how you treat a human being. Children are smarter than society gives them credit for. They will learn if you allow them to, not if you force them to using violent and damaging tactics.

that's what I've been doing wrong..
I just periodically give them a good whack.. on the back of the head..
and let them go off and figure it out on their own....
... if they say what was that for..
I just look at them and say you know what it is for.....
.... and wait for them to confess all their guilty sins..lol

no one said they speak about whether spanking is right or wrong.

what was said is right and wrong are discussed as well as CONSEQUENCES of right and wrong which may include spanking.

in contrast to the idea that people just haul off and 'hit' their kids out of frustration,,,,which would be abuse as the intent would be for the benefit of releasing tension and not for teaching the kid

yes , and so can they,, where someone may beat them, rape them taser them, slam them into a car ,,,etc

fortunately the worst consequence they face as a child is a few swats on a well padded behind,,,,

Why are you comparing people do to criminals in jail to what you do to your kids at home? Are you preparing them for jail or something?

Im preparing them for the consequences of breaking laws(known as rules also) and overstepping boundaries,,,

noone is gonna sit them down and try to understand them, once its determined there was knowledge of right from wrong,,,

If you're down to having to bully your kid to get them to behave, maybe it's time to switch to positive reinforcement to teach discipline.

Over here in the UK, if you get caught hitting a kid in any way, you are in trouble and the courts crack down hard on people who do get found guilty!