That is an invalid argument since you don't answer questions.

I'm enoid people would even think bdsm is rape. It would only be rape if one was forced to do something they said no to. So how can two consulting adults be rape.

For people who have been raped this is ****ing annoying

Pot, meet Kettle. Kettle, meet Pot.

Some people who have been raped might be offended by the whole idea of BDSM.

I'm not offended by the idea of bdsm, I'm just saying it isn't rape if two adults have consented.

Some people who haven't may be offended by it. If it's not your thing, that's fine. But that doesn't mean that it is equivalent to rape or domestic violence. And the fact that you're offended by someone else's sexual practices, provided it doesn't hurt you at all, is not a reason to tell them it's wrong. You don't like it. Fine. Don't do it. Why is that such a hard concept for you to grasp? I don't like the idea of sex with another man. Guess what? I don't do it. Whether someone else does or not is none of my concern. But I bet if I said on this forum how bad it is because it doesn't appeal to me, you would be among those critical of that. Am I right?

You have a strange vision of things Estelle? I did Boxing in my teens, but i didn't go out at night and start fighting everybody that I saw, just because I was a trained fighter? Well people that's into BDSM, don't go out and rape people, or beat them up either!

Debbie some people are offended by it. That's the thing. Consented harm, violence, rape whatever is always wrong. Just like if someone consents to you shooting them in the head, if both partake in it, it's wrong, doesn't matter if it's consensual. The only difference is that BDSM is legal and I have noted that for this reason people are allowed to do it no matter if I think it's right or wrong. And again, some people who have been raped would be offended by BDSM and not by someone describing it as consensual rape. I never said it was rape, I said it was 2 people consenting to it. What is wrong with those people that they are turned on by rape? This is what someone who has been raped is thinking.

Have you paid attention to your own comments? And just being offended by it doesn't make it necessarily a bad thing. The very word "CONSENSUAL" means it is NOT rape. By definition, one CANNOT consent to being raped. And your assumptions about domestic abuse are exactly that. Assumptions. And once again, you are using the "I don't like it so you're an idiot if you do" argument. Just like on another thread you argued that you don't like guns so no one should have one. The fact that you don't like something is not a valid reason to take it away from everyone, especially when you are so blatantly oblivious to the facts and unwilling to accept another point of view. But letting pesky little things like facts influence an opinion is for the rest us idiots, right?

I think I would be more frightened to try it, due to my past. I don't think its my cup of tea due to my past. But I don't think its rape, when it's concented.

It's hard for me to comment much because i don't want to bring my past up

WOW

Remember the 1986 landmark case when the preppy, Robert Chambers, killed his lover, Jennifer Levin, and blamed it on rough sex? He even accused her of provoking him, like it was her fault. The scary part was that he showed no remorse for killing her.

Nobody can answer this?

so BDSM Is were your partner kicks you azz why having sex HMMMM

BDSM is also the name of a driving school not far from where I live in Scotland? Ha ha

I can ask the same question, changing it to misandrist instead of misogynist if the woman is dominant. And your question has been answered MANY times on this thread, but you refuse to accept anything other than, "you're absolutely right" because to you anyone with a different opinion is stupid, especially if that person happens to have a penis.

The OP was do people here think that a BDSM lifestyle is healthy or not! It is my understanding that anyone can post an opinion here on whether they believe it is or not! They are free to give those opinions on this site and they can have whatever opinion they choose. So, here goes my two cents worth!! I would never choose to be involved in any type of lifestyle which relinquishes my control totally into the hands of another person. Trust for another has nothing to do with it as there are much healthier ways to show your trust in someone. At the heart of the matter is a need for control over and base submission to another person which means power over another individual and not walking side by side and hand in hand with someone! Please note that this is my opinion and mine alone! I don't care whether someone else does it or not. The one thing I do know is that I would never be a willing participant in any lifestyle that demands one person be submissive to another to the point of being treated as a animal, regardless of whether there is physical harm done or not, and not an equal human being. Even if no physical hurt occurs, one or the other is certainly demeaned emotionally, in my opinion! If anyone else needs to do this to be satisfied in a relationship, that's their choice and their consequences to pay, if any.

Your right, I am offended that bdsm has been classed as rape.

I agree.

I won't waste anymore time on people who have nothing relevant to add here.