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Also, a BDSM relationship? Does that mean the relationship is abusive or that the relationship is just abusive sex? BDSM is not about abuse... It's two consenting adults having a non-vanilla relationship and sex. (Vanilla is what is considered 'normal', so non-BDSM.) Whether it's just the sex or part of the entire relationship, varies. Some only enjoy BDSM when they're intimate, others live it in day to day life as well. Before people engage in such a relationship, they typically fill out a checklist so they both know what can and cannot be done. This checklist is the guideline and everything that's checked "NO" by either party, is really a "no". So everything that is done, is within the borders of "Yes" and "Maybe". Normally couples use a safe-word as well that can be used by the bottom (= the not dominant party) when things get too much. If that safe-word is used, everything stops immediately. |
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. I don't have a safe word..
. oh mama... give daddy a spank spank.lol |
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Sounds like consensual domestic violence to me.
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If it is consensual between two adults, what is the problem?
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Oh... where do I begin?
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Oh I don't know......maybe by stating facts that makes it domestic violence if it is between two adults who consensually agree to participate??
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Sat 02/21/15 03:27 PM
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Saying BDSM is consensual domestic violence
Is like saying having 2 kids by different fathers is child abuse because neither will ever feel whole.... They are both ludicrous and one has nothing to do with the other. |
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Oh I don't know......maybe by stating facts that makes it domestic violence if it is between two adults who consensually agree to participate?? Pink, i'll take the handcuffs off of you....when YOU are damn good and ready to have them removed....and not a moment sooner, i promise....K ? |
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that's not what..bondage discipline. dominance and submission...is all about... it about giving yourself. safely over.. to someone else.. it's about trust.... there's no... browbeating.... diminishing of someone else's self respect... and there's no violence.... at least not in the sense you mean.... now come here slowly.. and start unbuttoning your blouse... slowly....lol..jk
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Oh I don't know......maybe by stating facts that makes it domestic violence if it is between two adults who consensually agree to participate?? Pink, i'll take the handcuffs off of you....when YOU are damn good and ready to have them removed....and not a moment sooner, i promise....K ? Works for me.....because I consented to it and we are comfortable enough with each other to know how far we can go.......don't forget the blindfold and the whips......... 
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that's not what..bondage discipline. dominance and submission...is all about... it about giving yourself. safely over.. to someone else.. it's about trust.... there's no... browbeating.... diminishing of someone else's self respect... and there's no violence.... at least not in the sense you mean.... now come here slowly.. and start unbuttoning your blouse... slowly....lol..jk . I agree 
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Edited by
Estelle79
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Mon 02/23/15 12:43 PM
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I think this article pretty much sums up what I think..
https://liberationcollective.wordpress.com/2013/01/27/bdsm-is-violence-against-women/ |
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wow ...is this Jerrids Game ... haah...
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Sounds like consensual domestic violence to me. Does that make regular intercourse "consensual rape?" And there are different degrees of BDSM that do not include the pain that is so often associated with it. |
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Sounds like consensual domestic violence to me. Oh Estelle, please I just wanna worship you please. Then you can beat me up 
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Sounds like consensual domestic violence to me. well after reading some of your posts on men in general, I am sure you would give your guy the "cat of 9 tails" just for not throwing the garbage out fast enough |
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Sounds like consensual domestic violence to me. Does that make regular intercourse "consensual rape?" And there are different degrees of BDSM that do not include the pain that is so often associated with it. No regular intercourse is consensual sex. Consensual rape is perverted just like BDSM, I think it's actually part of the idea. Sex should be between 2 people who love each other and what does rape bondage domination and sado masochism have to do with love? Asking to do those things or allowing them is not love and shouldn't be part of sex ideally. |
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Oh... where do I begin? I think you just want a spanking. |
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Sounds like consensual domestic violence to me. Does that make regular intercourse "consensual rape?" And there are different degrees of BDSM that do not include the pain that is so often associated with it. No regular intercourse is consensual sex. Consensual rape is perverted just like BDSM, I think it's actually part of the idea. Sex should be between 2 people who love each other and what does rape bondage domination and sado masochism have to do with love? Asking to do those things or allowing them is not love and shouldn't be part of sex ideally. If it's not right for you, that's fine. Don't engage in it. But many people, for whatever their reasons may be, enjoy it. Perhaps you do things others don't approve of sexually. To some people anything other than missionary with the lights off is a perversion. If they aren't hurting you, why do you care? It's none of your business how other people have sex. |
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Sounds like consensual domestic violence to me. Does that make regular intercourse "consensual rape?" And there are different degrees of BDSM that do not include the pain that is so often associated with it. No regular intercourse is consensual sex. Consensual rape is perverted just like BDSM, I think it's actually part of the idea. Sex should be between 2 people who love each other and what does rape bondage domination and sado masochism have to do with love? Asking to do those things or allowing them is not love and shouldn't be part of sex ideally. If it's not right for you, that's fine. Don't engage in it. But many people, for whatever their reasons may be, enjoy it. Perhaps you do things others don't approve of sexually. To some people anything other than missionary with the lights off is a perversion. If they aren't hurting you, why do you care? ******** It's none of your business********** how other people have sex. suppose i told you it's none of your business to tell someone else that it's none of their business to post their personal viewpoint on a public forum ?? why not just avoid the negative criticism of others .....and post your own views in a positive light |
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