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eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Wed 07/04/12 01:02 PM
(I was letting that slide)

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Wed 07/04/12 01:13 PM
Be forewarned, this is a rant against those who are attatched to a penis Another one of my dear friends just told me she is getting divorced. Why you ask? Oh, because her husband of 25 years has decided he needs to dittle with a younger model. What IS it with these men and their stupid midlife crisis? In my world, everyone I know who is divorced has suffered this lifechanging situation at the hands of the man who promised to love and cherish her until death do you part. Not ONE woman I know initiated or perpetuated a divorce. UGGGHH MEN! Who needs em? I'm beginning to think we are better off without them. Why do we continue to expect anything different? The male species is clearly not meant for commitment. Ok..I will stand up and ask... Why the hell ain't you women hotter during my midlife crisis? Who needs men? Good question! My penis is big enough that I don't actually need a woman...Ain't nothing that you can do that I couldn't pay some skank $60 to do. now the question beomes...what have you got that is so special? PS....perhaps the problem with your friend getting a divorce is cause your friend has crappy taste in men.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 07/04/12 01:14 PM
(I was letting that slide) I tried sitting on my hands...one got out....

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Wed 07/04/12 01:16 PM
Ok..I will stand up and ask... Why the hell ain't you women hotter during my midlife crisis? Cuz we don't want Soufie to kick our azzes??

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Wed 07/04/12 01:23 PM
Ok..I will stand up and ask... Why the hell ain't you women hotter during my midlife crisis? Cuz we don't want Soufie to kick our azzes?? You goof....This got nothing to do with my b!*ch of love... I love you guys but, you gotta admit....a lot of chicks are border line retarded....(so are most guys.it evens out) I just try to love everyone...it has been successful so far.

BrokenAngel29 Joined Thu 06/28/12 Posts: 27	Wed 07/04/12 01:37 PM
0h..i 0bject..n0t all w0man were like them..its just happen that y0u are n0t lucky en0ugh to ch00se wh0m y0u'd married!!

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Wed 07/04/12 01:46 PM
0h..i 0bject..n0t all w0man were like them..its just happen that y0u are n0t lucky en0ugh to ch00se wh0m y0u'd married!! WHAT???? I ain't lucky enough to choose who I would marry? BWHAHHAHAHAHAHAHahahahahhaaaaa Maybe I ain't the one who is weak enough to let someone else make my desicions for me. Who will choose who you marry? (that is cro-mag tribal crap where I am from)

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Wed 07/04/12 02:05 PM
As I have said a number of times THESE ARE NOT MY THEORIES. This is evolutionary psychology 101. I answered your question about young men and older women in the post you quoted. Obviously you didn't read it. Everything else has already been covered sense that post. But it is your belief or your reasoning that is why I wrote it as "theory/belief/reasoning", is it not? So using that as a guideline, why would he choose me and not a younger woman as that theory states? I did read what you wrote, so I don't appreciate that you claim I didn't. I asked a question about why would a younger man be with an older woman in a COMMITTED relationship if that theory was true. Also what about the first part of my questions, I haven't seen any other post about a man who was with a woman who didn't want or couldn't have children and his staying faithful to her. According to what you have typed, those men should be out screwing around with younger women just because their partner is not capable, but yet they stay together and monogamous. Once again, you've come late to the party. All this has been covered and I don't care to repeat it.

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Wed 07/04/12 02:16 PM
I just asked you a specific question about my relationship and what is your thoughts are, in relationship to the theory you keep quoting and you haven't answered...So you won't be repeating yourself. And where does it say ANYWHERE in the forum rules that if you don't read this in the first few minutes, you are not allowed to ask or comment on anything?????

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Wed 07/04/12 02:25 PM
I just asked you a specific question about my relationship and what is your thoughts are, in relationship to the theory you keep quoting and you haven't answered...So you won't be repeating yourself. And where does it say ANYWHERE in the forum rules that if you don't read this in the first few minutes, you are not allowed to ask or comment on anything????? Trust me... as a man who has known you...for years....sometimes it is best just to sail on through. Believe me...none of us want a breakdown on how things are. Same applies to the ignorant newbies.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Wed 07/04/12 02:32 PM
I just asked you a specific question about my relationship and what is your thoughts are, in relationship to the theory you keep quoting and you haven't answered...So you won't be repeating yourself. And where does it say ANYWHERE in the forum rules that if you don't read this in the first few minutes, you are not allowed to ask or comment on anything????? There are any number of reasons why he has overcome his natural instincts to be with you. You know him well, right? Why do you think he choose you over a younger woman?

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Wed 07/04/12 02:40 PM Edited by eileena9 on Wed 07/04/12 02:42 PM
I just asked you a specific question about my relationship and what is your thoughts are, in relationship to the theory you keep quoting and you haven't answered...So you won't be repeating yourself. And where does it say ANYWHERE in the forum rules that if you don't read this in the first few minutes, you are not allowed to ask or comment on anything????? There are any number of reasons why he has overcome his natural instincts to be with you. You know him well, right? Why do you think he choose you over a younger woman? I know him very well, Spider and I know why he chose me. I just wanted to hear from TS why he thought Jon did, because according to what he keeps quoting, Jon should have no interest in me what-so-ever. But since an answer is not forthcoming, I am walking away from this topic.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48947	Wed 07/04/12 02:42 PM
As I have said a number of times THESE ARE NOT MY THEORIES. This is evolutionary psychology 101. I answered your question about young men and older women in the post you quoted. Obviously you didn't read it. Everything else has already been covered sense that post. But it is your belief or your reasoning that is why I wrote it as "theory/belief/reasoning", is it not? So using that as a guideline, why would he choose me and not a younger woman as that theory states? I did read what you wrote, so I don't appreciate that you claim I didn't. I asked a question about why would a younger man be with an older woman in a COMMITTED relationship if that theory was true. Also what about the first part of my questions, I haven't seen any other post about a man who was with a woman who didn't want or couldn't have children and his staying faithful to her. According to what you have typed, those men should be out screwing around with younger women just because their partner is not capable, but yet they stay together and monogamous. Once again, you've come late to the party. All this has been covered and I don't care to repeat it. Translation: You falsified the version of evolutionary psychology theory that he supports.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Wed 07/04/12 02:47 PM
I just asked you a specific question about my relationship and what is your thoughts are, in relationship to the theory you keep quoting and you haven't answered...So you won't be repeating yourself. And where does it say ANYWHERE in the forum rules that if you don't read this in the first few minutes, you are not allowed to ask or comment on anything????? There are any number of reasons why he has overcome his natural instincts to be with you. You know him well, right? Why do you think he choose you over a younger woman? I know him very well, Spider and I know why he chose me. I just wanted to hear from TS why he thought Jon did, because according to what he keeps quoting, Jon should have no interest in me what-so-ever. I don't believe so. He is talking about basic human instincts. Instincts can be overcome by choosing different behaviors. He is talking about the main motivating factor behind cheating, not generalized behavior which can be applied to all men. While our instincts might try to drive us towards more fertile women, it is our character which causes us to resist. In the novel "Dune", children were tested with pain, to see how long they could hold their hand in a box. If they held it there long enough, they could be considered human. The idea is simple, a human can control his or her instincts, rather than simply reacting like an animal. It sounds to me like Jon is a human.

tautologic Joined Sat 10/01/11 Posts: 77	Wed 07/04/12 08:10 PM
What it all comes down to is that we (men and women) don't really need each other anymore. That's why I'm starting to think love and long term committed relationships are outdated concepts. What if we just decided to be happy on our own and didn't put any expectations on each other? What if we stopped caring about what each other did? We could spend time together doing what we do and then leave each other alone to do whatever. Because humans have an inherent need to be connected to another. It is a natural attatchment we all possess. That is why we keep seeking and searching and NEED that interaction with others.

tautologic Joined Sat 10/01/11 Posts: 77	Wed 07/04/12 08:12 PM
My mother and father were married for 60 years, until my mother died. I don't know why or how they stayed together other than force of will. They both decided to commit to each other and stuck to their word. I also know a few happy couples today. But, it doesn't seem to be working for a lot of us. I've recently come to understand that I'm really happiest on my own. I don't like the chaos that relationships seem to bring. That's just it...your parents are examples of ethical commitment. They WORKED to make their marriage WORK. People, especially men in my opinion, do not value that standard today. As for your own personal feelings about relationships, fine...be alone. But you need to be upfront about that when dating other women. Seek out those who are like minded and leave the women who desire long, lasting, faithful relationships alone!

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Wed 07/04/12 08:46 PM
My mother and father were married for 60 years, until my mother died. I don't know why or how they stayed together other than force of will. They both decided to commit to each other and stuck to their word. I also know a few happy couples today. But, it doesn't seem to be working for a lot of us. I've recently come to understand that I'm really happiest on my own. I don't like the chaos that relationships seem to bring. That's just it...your parents are examples of ethical commitment. They WORKED to make their marriage WORK. People, especially men in my opinion, do not value that standard today. As for your own personal feelings about relationships, fine...be alone. But you need to be upfront about that when dating other women. Seek out those who are like minded and leave the women who desire long, lasting, faithful relationships alone! I was going to be offended by that, but then I realized I don't date men. Your generalization could be right. Maybe many men don't want to put the work into a relationship. I honestly don't know. I can say that I'm not that guy. I work my tail off to make a relationship work. If the relationship fails, it won't be for lack of trying on my part.

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Thu 07/05/12 05:46 AM
My mother and father were married for 60 years, until my mother died. I don't know why or how they stayed together other than force of will. They both decided to commit to each other and stuck to their word. I also know a few happy couples today. But, it doesn't seem to be working for a lot of us. I've recently come to understand that I'm really happiest on my own. I don't like the chaos that relationships seem to bring. That's just it...your parents are examples of ethical commitment. They WORKED to make their marriage WORK. People, especially men in my opinion, do not value that standard today. As for your own personal feelings about relationships, fine...be alone. But you need to be upfront about that when dating other women. Seek out those who are like minded and leave the women who desire long, lasting, faithful relationships alone! First of all, I don't believe my parents "worked" at their relationship. I think they simply accepted each other as they were. I can remember only once when they disagreed. But, they had very clear rolls in the relationship. He worked and made the living, she stayed home, kept the house and raised my sister and me. I don't understand why a committed, sexual relationship should be work. I don't work at any of my other relationships. I think the more work you do, the more compromises you have to make, the more likely it is you're with the wrong person. I can get along with anyone that wants to get along. I'll do my part. All the same stuff I do as a single man (dishes, laundry, cooking, cleaning). But, once the nagging starts, once she starts telling me how SHE wants me to be, I start packing my bags. She's no longer a benefit to me and has become a source of stress. So, I tell her, don't let that door hit your butt on the way out. BUT, THEY NEVER LEAVE They just keep nagging until I finally become angry enough to throw them out.

tautologic Joined Sat 10/01/11 Posts: 77	Thu 07/05/12 08:00 AM
First of all, I don't believe my parents "worked" at their relationship. I think they simply accepted each other as they were. I can remember only once when they disagreed. But, they had very clear rolls in the relationship. He worked and made the living, she stayed home, kept the house and raised my sister and me. I don't understand why a committed, sexual relationship should be work. I don't work at any of my other relationships. I think the more work you do, the more compromises you have to make, the more likely it is you're with the wrong person. I can get along with anyone that wants to get along. I'll do my part. All the same stuff I do as a single man (dishes, laundry, cooking, cleaning). But, once the nagging starts, once she starts telling me how SHE wants me to be, I start packing my bags. She's no longer a benefit to me and has become a source of stress. So, I tell her, don't let that door hit your butt on the way out. BUT, THEY NEVER LEAVE They just keep nagging until I finally become angry enough to throw them out. You don't think it requires effort to be accepting? Perhaps they "worked" at shielding and protecting you and your sister from their disagreements by dealing with them privately. Rolls are a good thing. I think in todays day and age the traditional "rolls" have evolved/changed whatever you wish to call it, and frankly it doesn't matter who stays home or works, but I do agree that a family where at least one parent is home with the kids is best. Unfortunately our economy doesn't always allow for that. Also, you do work at all other relationships. You work at being peacable with friends, coworkers and strangers do you not? You accept other peoples failings and disappointments when propriety calls for it do you not? That requires effort. That requires patience. That requires time and emotion. As for compromise, life is full of it. Why should interpersonal relationships be any different? To fail to compromise makes one a very shallow person. Which by your last comment seems to be the case. How sad for you to be so selfish and deny another persons needs or desires. Perhaps you have experienced nagging because you failed to be giving in your relationships. One one point I agree with you, you are better off alone.

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Thu 07/05/12 08:35 AM
First of all, I don't believe my parents "worked" at their relationship. I think they simply accepted each other as they were. I can remember only once when they disagreed. But, they had very clear rolls in the relationship. He worked and made the living, she stayed home, kept the house and raised my sister and me. I don't understand why a committed, sexual relationship should be work. I don't work at any of my other relationships. I think the more work you do, the more compromises you have to make, the more likely it is you're with the wrong person. I can get along with anyone that wants to get along. I'll do my part. All the same stuff I do as a single man (dishes, laundry, cooking, cleaning). But, once the nagging starts, once she starts telling me how SHE wants me to be, I start packing my bags. She's no longer a benefit to me and has become a source of stress. So, I tell her, don't let that door hit your butt on the way out. BUT, THEY NEVER LEAVE They just keep nagging until I finally become angry enough to throw them out. You don't think it requires effort to be accepting? Perhaps they "worked" at shielding and protecting you and your sister from their disagreements by dealing with them privately. Rolls are a good thing. I think in todays day and age the traditional "rolls" have evolved/changed whatever you wish to call it, and frankly it doesn't matter who stays home or works, but I do agree that a family where at least one parent is home with the kids is best. Unfortunately our economy doesn't always allow for that. Also, you do work at all other relationships. You work at being peacable with friends, coworkers and strangers do you not? You accept other peoples failings and disappointments when propriety calls for it do you not? That requires effort. That requires patience. That requires time and emotion. As for compromise, life is full of it. Why should interpersonal relationships be any different? To fail to compromise makes one a very shallow person. Which by your last comment seems to be the case. How sad for you to be so selfish and deny another persons needs or desires. Perhaps you have experienced nagging because you failed to be giving in your relationships. One one point I agree with you, you are better off alone. This is a personal attack. I see no reason to defend myself to you as I've done nothing wrong. And there's simply no benefit in it for me. I'm done. Best wishes.