you seem to me to see something positive, even agree with it at times, then put your own spin on it to make it seem negative or not let it end

Not my fault you were having trouble understanding, Ese.

Not quite sure what was negative about what I wrote though. I'm simply talking about my preferences. If you'd like to never use punctuation again, by all means, go for it.

Lex, I just read your profile, well at least half of it. Dude it's a book within its self. I enjoyed reading if though. My wish for you is that you meet a woman who stimulates your creativity, and someone you can connect with in every area. And if you don't want a relationship with kids in it then that's ok too. Don't give up!

I think the only thing I can really do is wait for my last ex to come back around. She was the only one I ever met who fit my parameters.

Of course, it would be nice to find someone like her who ALSO understood the concept of sticking to a commitment, but you can't have everything.

what are the things that were more important than sticking to a commitment?

I would prolly just tell him to call me...if it had gotten that far along

but I generally refuse offers of texting partly cuz of the expense but also the issues that u have identified as well

1.) She's the most intelligent person I've ever known.

2.) She's extremely creative.

3.) She's been married once and doesn't want to do that again.

4.) She absolutely totally doesn't want kids. She's the only one I've ever met who I can legitimately say that about.

5.) She doesn't drink or do drugs.

I'm not saying those things are necessarily more important than sticking to a commitment, but I wouldn't have any interest in a commitment with someone who didn't meet those qualifications.

OK, I think I see, maybe a little difficult for me to totally comprehend because the commitment part would be pretty far up on that list - like # 1 or 2 - but that's just me

I actually don't mind if I am smarter than my guy because other things like being nice and honorable & loyal & cute are more important to me

but the guys get pissed if I'm smarter

If I can't understand what he is saying on here, I'm not going to give him my phone number. I tend to be picky about who I give my number to.

Well, the commitment part was huge, yes. But as long as I've known her, she will make the "permanent commitment" and then change her mind 8 months or a year down the road. I've been through this 4 times with her already, and it's getting a little tedious.

My point about the other criteria is that the concept of a commitment doesn't even enter the picture until such time as I'm convinced this is someone I want to be with. And the relationship usually doesn't last long enough to get to that juncture, anyway. So the idea of a commitment is, for me at least, strictly a hypothetical until I feel there's something to build a commitment on.

OK yes that seems logical enough from a application standpoint

I think as I am getting to know someone though I would be assessing their attitude towards commitment - in general - their attitude about keeping their word, friendshp fidelity, along with other criteria on the "list"

including whether as a friend - commitments & respect were part of the initial friendship

because I doubt a person is going change significantly, magically become someone else just because we decide to "take it to the next level" or talk about doing that

if that is understandable

Oh my gosh, where did this come from...

Honestly have you looked into things lex has written, I havce only been on here for 10 months, and there have been many times when I have felt down or lonely and lex's comments chear me up, not because he is all happy but because his dry sense of humour makes me laugh.

yep he speaks his mind.
Yep he has things he doesnt like, but dont we all.

yep his profile is pretty specific, but wouldn't it be much easier fi everyone was, then we wouldnt waiste so much time on peole who just are not suited to our lives.

Gosh if I wasnt madly in love with someone, Didn't have 6 kids, didnt live 10 000 miles away, was more intelligent and could put together a sentence without forgetting to put in punctiation and spelling my words wrong, I would have grabbed him in a second.. Seee so technically Lex saved me heaps of time by saying those things..

Read between Lex's lines, he is just a man looking for someone to love him for wqho he is, without the rubbish, He's just more honest about it then most.

Oh Lex you would just die in Australia, we have very few words that we actually use correctly, most of our words are shortened or run together, Biscuit (bikky) Breakfast(Brekky) , What are you doing (watchya upta Good day G'day . the most confusing for poor anaconda was when we sent him outside to check something out and he came in and my son said ""YES Dwayne". Well anaconda had no idea what he was talking about, it was obvious to us that my son was asking him what he thought about what we had sent him to look at, but he just stood there dumbfounded. thinking that my son was answering a question that he had aked earlier, But to us yes doesnt always mean yes it can be a question if you say it right with the right facial expressions. another was if we are crook, we are sick, if we are going crook we are angry, so I guess we are pretty good at taking the english language and murdering..

People attack what they can't understand.

Exactly. I've seen this happen in other threads as well. Some don't like it when others are direct, honest and question what they say. They take personally for some reason, when most times, it isn't.

It's a little different though, when you're talking about regional variations. I mean, I watch British shows on PBS and there are times they use a word and I have no idea what they're talking about, but I assume they're using it properly, whatever it means!

When I was married, I once sat through a long droning rant my mother-in-law gave about something she called TOE-ERS. On and on. I had no clue. After about a half hour, I realized she was talking about the tires on her car. Jeez, those people talked funny.

I was afraid of her. She was three times my size, and really mean.

Yeah, regional differences are hysterical. Culverts are twanged out and sound like cow-berts. LMAO!!

Whoa now Nellie. I know I'm a little late on adding my two cents to this topic, but I had to bring up a tiny little fact here. I contacted you and I not only have superb literacy skills, I had a first email that was damn near the length of your profile! Now I realize it's been years since you first heard from me, but you can't REALLY say that NOBODY with any creativity has bothered to contact you on here.

Okay, so maybe I wasn't a prospective romantic interest because I've dared to use my birth canal, but my "child" was a whisker away from being out of the house and on his own (which he is now!) and I think we hit it off pretty well as far as understanding each other. While I won't go so far as to say I was the woman of your dreams, I would like to think that I at least gave you pause for a brief moment in time. And although I'm thrilled that we've established a fantastic friendship over the years, it really gets my goat when you rant on and on about no potential interesting contacts. What the hell was I? Chopped llama droppings?

I hear ya! I know the Lex laws better than anyone! I failed on rule number one...no kids. At the time, I didn't drink...hadn't for years and years so I was comfortable stating I was a non-drinker. Since the kid flew the coop, I've opted to resume an occasional drink or two so I changed that on my profile recently.

As for the creativity streak and my intellect, Lex is quite aware of my capabilities and has actually been quite instrumental in trying to spur me to pursue my writing on a serious level. He's read some of my work and had nothing short of a glowing review for it. I'm sure he'd agree that I certainly meet his qualifications on those two domains.

I just wanted him to admit that someone cool and creative contacted him on here. I didn't say I wanted a marriage proposal or anything. We're actually the best of friends now...hell, I drove nearly 1,000 miles to lend him my truck for three weeks last Christmas. Like I said, I'm not the woman of his dreams but I do think I came pretty damn close! Maybe I'm just more delusional than my imaginary shrink thinks I am!