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I received mail from someone who asked me to ignore his current profile because he would fix it later. ???? Then he pretended and suggested that we talk later as if he was certain I would respond back.  I needed to vent.
Lex, you're screwed, man. 
I know, it's just pathetic. Although I have to say that the vast majority of profiles I've read are, in fact, easy to ignore. Because they don't actually say anything worth reading.... 
yes, i don't even remember his profile except for that it was bad. "I'll fill this out later" is immediate disqualification. but I have to say you are very fortunate that expressing yourself in writing comes easy to you. some people really struggle with that, but I suppose they shouldn't set up their account until they're ready. Sure, some people have more of a facility for words than others. And I'm not looking for a great piece of literature when I read a profile -- I've seen a handful that were brilliantly done, but I wonder if maybe the effort, in the end, isn't wholly wasted. Because it seems the overall readership probably doesn't appreciate the quality of the work. On the other hand, a dating site is pretty much entirely a written communications venue -- whether you're talking forums or e-mail or IM -- and I believe that, in a written medium, the goal should be to make oneself as clear and comprehensible as possible. So, when I see the profiles full of third-grade spelling/grammar/punctuation errors, it doesn't do much for me in terms of "Oh, here's someone I might be interested in." Because if she's not going to clean it up enough for it to get past Mrs. Krabappel (yes, I know Bart's in fourth grade, stay with me here) then how I am I supposed to take anything they have to say seriously? -- assuming, of course, I can even understand it to that extent. I'm not looking for profiles written by Shakespeare here. Neither am I looking for profiles written by a dyslexic ocelot. Just give me something that tells a little bit about the person who wrote it, without endless strings of cliches about Prince Charming and long walks on the beach, and that won't set your spellcheck on fire, and things will be good.... Yes, yes, I understand. Of course. You have to also believe what you're writing. Everything is transparent. In order for me to write something I feel I have to be in the mood. This is also true for school projects. I don't even know how to write a paper unless I find an interesting subject or an attractive perspective if the subject is already chosen for me. It's the same here and requires self reflection before you can relay your message to someone else. When I'm not in the mood I wait with writing until I'm inspired. Yeah, I learned that the hard way. Either it's flowing or it's not. And I found out that I can't force it when it's not -- otherwise, what comes out is the biggest pile of sludge ever. Just horrible stuff, just useless. So there are days I don't even try to write anything at all because it just ain't happening! What happened? Was there a specific incident that you recall? Just a few attempts to "force" it when I wasn't really feeling particularly creative that day. You learn from your mistakes in a situation like that. |
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minglefortwomenwhoneverhadorwantedkids.com !! I found a childfree dating site a couple years back. It was set up by a divorce lawyer, I think he's from New Jersey. Anyway, I set up an account, and then I did the obligatory "search for locals" thing. And I think there were three women in what could loosely be described as my "area." As I recall, none of them were actually childfree, it was more like "I've had mine and I don't want any more." OK. I figured, well, the site is new, people don't know about it yet, it will grow over time. And perhaps it will, in the same way that old bones and leaves and detritus are eventually crushed down into forming coal after 250 million years. And I think that's probably about the time frame for me to plan on finding anyone on that childfree site. this is apparently not the site you need. instead it will have to be never_ever_wanted_or_had_kids_really_now_i_mean_it_not_joking.com! 
a better solution for you might be a billboard on the local freeways. of course if you did that then you would probably find the most amazing potential mate who was just visiting the area from new zealand and was going back in 3 days. but you still might get a date out of it.... 
Sooner or later, someone will contact me. Someone who isn't from Ghana. |
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I take great exception to this entire thread.
 I am not a scammer or cannot be proved to be a scammer. I have emailed you on several occassions just to connect. No sex, no relationship, using more than one syllable and never have asked "Can I know u?".
Care to retract your original statement that other than scammers, no one emails you? 
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MeChrissy you are truly dazzling. This thread was placed in the Dating & Relationships thread because Lex is referring to those who have potential to be classified as such. He has said that he is quite grateful for the friends he has made on here but frustrated by the lack of potentials who meet his requirements. Your tally: kids drinks ghana noop.
Sorry K, missed that nuance. I get the kids, like a drink occassionally but what is ghana? Sorry, cluess in Virginia.
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MeChrissy you are truly dazzling. This thread was placed in the Dating & Relationships thread because Lex is referring to those who have potential to be classified as such. He has said that he is quite grateful for the friends he has made on here but frustrated by the lack of potentials who meet his requirements. Your tally: kids drinks ghana noop.
Sorry K, missed that nuance. I get the kids, like a drink occassionally but what is ghana? Sorry, cluess in Virginia.
Ghana is what we call anything past 5 blocks.
Ah, got it. I thought it was some new fangled drug addiction. I have never been in the running for Lexicon. I like Llamas. 
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I take great exception to this entire thread. I am not a scammer or cannot be proved to be a scammer. I have emailed you on several occassions just to connect. No sex, no relationship, using more than one syllable and never have asked "Can I know u?".
Care to retract your original statement that other than scammers, no one emails you?
Shhhhhh. I'm in character here. |
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MeChrissy you are truly dazzling. This thread was placed in the Dating & Relationships thread because Lex is referring to those who have potential to be classified as such. He has said that he is quite grateful for the friends he has made on here but frustrated by the lack of potentials who meet his requirements. Your tally: kids drinks ghana noop.
Sorry K, missed that nuance. I get the kids, like a drink occassionally but what is ghana? Sorry, cluess in Virginia.
Ghana is what we call anything past 5 blocks.
It's also an anagram of "Ah, nag." There are subtle forces at work here. |
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minglefortwomenwhoneverhadorwantedkids.com !! I found a childfree dating site a couple years back. It was set up by a divorce lawyer, I think he's from New Jersey. Anyway, I set up an account, and then I did the obligatory "search for locals" thing. And I think there were three women in what could loosely be described as my "area." As I recall, none of them were actually childfree, it was more like "I've had mine and I don't want any more." OK. I figured, well, the site is new, people don't know about it yet, it will grow over time. And perhaps it will, in the same way that old bones and leaves and detritus are eventually crushed down into forming coal after 250 million years. And I think that's probably about the time frame for me to plan on finding anyone on that childfree site. this is apparently not the site you need. instead it will have to be never_ever_wanted_or_had_kids_really_now_i_mean_it_not_joking.com!
a better solution for you might be a billboard on the local freeways. of course if you did that then you would probably find the most amazing potential mate who was just visiting the area from new zealand and was going back in 3 days. but you still might get a date out of it....
Sooner or later, someone will contact me. Someone who isn't from Ghana. http://youtu.be/B3aTwlwAnXc 
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minglefortwomenwhoneverhadorwantedkids.com !! I found a childfree dating site a couple years back. It was set up by a divorce lawyer, I think he's from New Jersey. Anyway, I set up an account, and then I did the obligatory "search for locals" thing. And I think there were three women in what could loosely be described as my "area." As I recall, none of them were actually childfree, it was more like "I've had mine and I don't want any more." OK. I figured, well, the site is new, people don't know about it yet, it will grow over time. And perhaps it will, in the same way that old bones and leaves and detritus are eventually crushed down into forming coal after 250 million years. And I think that's probably about the time frame for me to plan on finding anyone on that childfree site. this is apparently not the site you need. instead it will have to be never_ever_wanted_or_had_kids_really_now_i_mean_it_not_joking.com!
a better solution for you might be a billboard on the local freeways. of course if you did that then you would probably find the most amazing potential mate who was just visiting the area from new zealand and was going back in 3 days. but you still might get a date out of it....
Sooner or later, someone will contact me. Someone who isn't from Ghana. http://youtu.be/B3aTwlwAnXc
It did, but I was on the "catch-and-release" list.... |
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MeChrissy you are truly dazzling. This thread was placed in the Dating & Relationships thread because Lex is referring to those who have potential to be classified as such. He has said that he is quite grateful for the friends he has made on here but frustrated by the lack of potentials who meet his requirements. Your tally: kids drinks ghana noop.
Sorry K, missed that nuance. I get the kids, like a drink occassionally but what is ghana? Sorry, cluess in Virginia.
Ghana is what we call anything past 5 blocks.
Ah, got it. I thought it was some new fangled drug addiction. I have never been in the running for Lexicon. I like Llamas.
I like llamas more than practically anybody. Except maybe Michael Jackson, but I'm not really sure what was going on there. |
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MeChrissy you are truly dazzling. This thread was placed in the Dating & Relationships thread because Lex is referring to those who have potential to be classified as such. He has said that he is quite grateful for the friends he has made on here but frustrated by the lack of potentials who meet his requirements. Your tally: kids drinks ghana noop.
Sorry K, missed that nuance. I get the kids, like a drink occassionally but what is ghana? Sorry, cluess in Virginia.
Ghana is what we call anything past 5 blocks.
It can be up to 8 blocks if it's nice out. |
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So, I turned off my IM today. The last couple dozen IMs I've had were all exactly the same -- they have a script out there for scammers to use when they IM people. They're trying to get organized, so I suppose I have to give them credit for that, but it's a little counterproductive when I know the next line that's going to show up on the screen even before "she" types it in.
But when they write stuff like "I loved your profile! Where are you and what do you do?" it's sort of a tell. If they had actually read the profile, they would already know the answers. (This is the third line, by the way. The first two are "Hello" and "How are you today?") I never really thought I would ever turn off my IM. It seems wrong, somehow, to close an avenue of communication. But the scammers are the only ones using the avenue, and I just don't want to be bothered with them anymore. |
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Thank God I get NO mail.
OOOOPS, I just did. I wonder if this is the business opportunity I've been waiting to realize. |
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Thank God I get NO mail. OOOOPS, I just did. I wonder if this is the business opportunity I've been waiting to realize. If not, you can always flatten your stomach in 17 weeks. |
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