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Topic: Being Upfront
Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 06/15/09 12:02 PM
Maybe the sound of her voice is so grating to him at the moment that he is choosing ignore as a better option than homicide... or going out and getting drunk and meeting a floozy... I was just telling someone that when I was younger, at moments like those, I'd say to my lady friend: "Can't you think of a more constructive use for your mouth?"

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 06/15/09 12:04 PM
i think being open minded is important to, for one is not always right, some things should be met in a happy middle actually most things should be, sometimes that is impossible, everyone is different. shoot sometimes one is wrong and needs to change their mind too not cause they are told to, but because they didnt realize before the communication and now they are open to move to the other side. if you dont agree and its a very strong subject <not him leaving his socks on the bedroom floor> then you have to decide if you can live with it or move on ..

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/15/09 12:05 PM
i think being open minded is important to, for one is not always right, some things should be met in a happy middle actually most things should be, sometimes that is impossible, everyone is different. shoot sometimes one is wrong and needs to change their mind too not cause they are told to, but because they didnt realize before the communication and now they are open to move to the other side. if you dont agree and its a very strong subject <not him leaving his socks on the bedroom floor> then you have to decide if you can live with it or move on .. HMMM ya had to agree with Waterloo by meeting in the middle

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 06/15/09 12:07 PM
Maybe the sound of her voice is so grating to him at the moment that he is choosing ignore as a better option than homicide... or going out and getting drunk and meeting a floozy... I was just telling someone that when I was younger, at moments like those, I'd say to my lady friend: "Can't you think of a more constructive use for your mouth?" omg if i was angry at you and you said that i know id laugh! then maybe mad again... maybe lol... but some women may want to take you up on that offer and decide that its a tough piece of meat they put in their mouth so they have the need to chew harder

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Mon 06/15/09 12:08 PM
I think adj just wants to argue. i think he is trying to communicate his feelings is all I was joking, for the most part . you mean like i was on my first post where the multiple laughing emoticons were in the post and yet it was taken to heart my first post in this thread does this not mean that not all but a lot (actually most - your word) of the confrontations must be brung to the forefront by the female in the mix then after all if most mean do not want to be confrontational and do not want to tell you something because it may bring on a confrontation it is obvious then that most confrontations must be initiated by the woman then never thought i would see teh day two women would admit this in such a short time frame less than 3 minutes apart honesty what a breath of fresh air thank you ladies

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 06/15/09 12:11 PM
i think being open minded is important to, for one is not always right, some things should be met in a happy middle actually most things should be, sometimes that is impossible, everyone is different. shoot sometimes one is wrong and needs to change their mind too not cause they are told to, but because they didnt realize before the communication and now they are open to move to the other side. if you dont agree and its a very strong subject <not him leaving his socks on the bedroom floor> then you have to decide if you can live with it or move on .. HMMM ya had to agree with Waterloo by meeting in the middle lol i would say that was agreeing with you too because as being a confronter at times they are in the wrong too not always right...

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/15/09 12:17 PM
i think being open minded is important to, for one is not always right, some things should be met in a happy middle actually most things should be, sometimes that is impossible, everyone is different. shoot sometimes one is wrong and needs to change their mind too not cause they are told to, but because they didnt realize before the communication and now they are open to move to the other side. if you dont agree and its a very strong subject <not him leaving his socks on the bedroom floor> then you have to decide if you can live with it or move on .. HMMM ya had to agree with Waterloo by meeting in the middle lol i would say that was agreeing with you too because as being a confronter at times they are in the wrong too not always right... the heck with right and wrong, make love not war

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/15/09 12:18 PM
Maybe the sound of her voice is so grating to him at the moment that he is choosing ignore as a better option than homicide... or going out and getting drunk and meeting a floozy... I was just telling someone that when I was younger, at moments like those, I'd say to my lady friend: "Can't you think of a more constructive use for your mouth?" omg if i was angry at you and you said that i know id laugh! then maybe mad again... maybe lol... but some women may want to take you up on that offer and decide that its a tough piece of meat they put in their mouth so they have the need to chew harder Never knew chewing canmake it harder

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Mon 06/15/09 12:19 PM
i think being open minded is important to, for one is not always right, some things should be met in a happy middle actually most things should be, sometimes that is impossible, everyone is different. shoot sometimes one is wrong and needs to change their mind too not cause they are told to, but because they didnt realize before the communication and now they are open to move to the other side. if you dont agree and its a very strong subject <not him leaving his socks on the bedroom floor> then you have to decide if you can live with it or move on .. HMMM ya had to agree with Waterloo by meeting in the middle lol i would say that was agreeing with you too because as being a confronter at times they are in the wrong too not always right... the heck with right and wrong, make love not war i can get down with that were you at

salvatore35 Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 3173	Mon 06/15/09 12:20 PM
I believe I am very upfront Singmesweet!Sometimes the woman will find it a bit too much too take and question how I can feel and say the things i believe! Too some it may appear creepy...but to most it paves the way to better relationship!

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 06/15/09 12:20 PM Edited by buttons on Mon 06/15/09 12:21 PM
omg lol i think like a tough steak it would make it soft real quick easier to swallow though

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Mon 06/15/09 12:21 PM
like my best friends says sometimes it's easier to bullsh1t then to tell the truth

salvatore35 Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 3173	Mon 06/15/09 12:22 PM
You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard. BTW...this can also be true about a woman!

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/15/09 12:23 PM
i think being open minded is important to, for one is not always right, some things should be met in a happy middle actually most things should be, sometimes that is impossible, everyone is different. shoot sometimes one is wrong and needs to change their mind too not cause they are told to, but because they didnt realize before the communication and now they are open to move to the other side. if you dont agree and its a very strong subject <not him leaving his socks on the bedroom floor> then you have to decide if you can live with it or move on .. HMMM ya had to agree with Waterloo by meeting in the middle lol i would say that was agreeing with you too because as being a confronter at times they are in the wrong too not always right... the heck with right and wrong, make love not war i can get down with that were you at I'm down here

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 06/15/09 12:25 PM
You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard. BTW...this can also be true about a woman! I'm sure it can. I don't have issues like this with women, which is why I was speaking specifically about men.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/15/09 12:26 PM
I'm sorry OP (singsmesweet) for taking this topic off course but it was all Buttons fault and Waterloo - my mind just wandered right into the gutter.

salvatore35 Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 3173	Mon 06/15/09 12:28 PM
You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard. BTW...this can also be true about a woman! I'm sure it can. I don't have issues like this with women, which is why I was speaking specifically about men. Well then the answer is simple.Some people have a hard time saying what they feel! Not everyone can be so honest and forth comming.It is sometimes up to us to read the signs and make a change..not waiting around for an answer or decision from the other!After all...we are all responsible for ourselves...the minute we wait for answers from a significant other...we give them the power!

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Mon 06/15/09 12:29 PM
Maybe the sound of her voice is so grating to him at the moment that he is choosing ignore as a better option than homicide... or going out and getting drunk and meeting a floozy... I was just telling someone that when I was younger, at moments like those, I'd say to my lady friend: "Can't you think of a more constructive use for your mouth?" that is kinda a compromise if she goes down some you will come up some is that what yer saying waterloo

tngxl65 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6189	Mon 06/15/09 12:30 PM
The people I have been around that complain about this are so confrontational and 'offensive' that their partners simply avoid the conversation because the consequences are two high and they realize from experience that they will lose any argument anyhow. And I don't blame either one of them. People need to find compatible partners.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 06/15/09 12:32 PM
You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard. BTW...this can also be true about a woman! I'm sure it can. I don't have issues like this with women, which is why I was speaking specifically about men. Well then the answer is simple.Some people have a hard time saying what they feel! Not everyone can be so honest and forth comming.It is sometimes up to us to read the signs and make a change..not waiting around for an answer or decision from the other!After all...we are all responsible for ourselves...the minute we wait for answers from a significant other...we give them the power! I didn't say anything about waiting around for answers. I just said it would be nice to see more being upfront.