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Edited by
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my definition of a good relationship is... two people working together to both be happy with each other, not one person being happy and the other one miserable.. if you loce someone you would not like the other person to feel miserable and at least try to do something a bit different so that both are happy
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Sometimes, silence is the best communicator, when you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. 
Exactly. But what if only one party thinks there are issues? The other party is perfectly fine with things continuing how they are, what then? Isn't that why it's better to be able to talk about things? Otherwise, one will wondering if something's wrong. but that's my question - one person has a problem the other does not why drag me down with you and your problem (hypothetically speaking of course) Why does it have to be dragging someone down? Can't it be discussed like adults? |
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silence is golden
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Edited by
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Mon 06/15/09 11:38 AM
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but you asked why men avoid confrontation....not why men can't have a conversation. I believe it was clarified later in the thread by me and others. yep you changed direction in mid thread then accuse the poster for their posts of not understanding when you did not understand what you posted if you did you would not have had to I believe it was clarified later in the thread by me and others. Well, I explained what I meant, since some were not understanding. that does not change the conversation we had nor the things you said to me |
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And some women can talk a thing to death. It isn't all that complicated. They say what they mean not some underlying dig that we need to psycho analyze at every turn. When we realize that when a man says "Baby pass the remote" it means simply he is going to watch his game. Not, as we would think it, OMG what have I done that he doesn't want to talk and share and be with me yadda yadda yadda. |
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And some women can talk a thing to death. It isn't all that complicated. They say what they mean not some underlying dig that we need to psycho analyze at every turn. When we realize that when a man says "Baby pass the remote" it means simply he is going to watch his game. Not, as we would think it, OMG what have I done that he doesn't want to talk and share and be with me yadda yadda yadda. You need to be cloned... Seriously! |
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And some women can talk a thing to death. It isn't all that complicated. They say what they mean not some underlying dig that we need to psycho analyze at every turn. When we realize that when a man says "Baby pass the remote" it means simply he is going to watch his game. Not, as we would think it, OMG what have I done that he doesn't want to talk and share and be with me yadda yadda yadda. You need to be cloned... Seriously! 
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Sometimes, silence is the best communicator, when you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.
Exactly. But what if only one party thinks there are issues? The other party is perfectly fine with things continuing how they are, what then? Isn't that why it's better to be able to talk about things? Otherwise, one will wondering if something's wrong. but that's my question - one person has a problem the other does not why drag me down with you and your problem (hypothetically speaking of course) and the one with the problem is the one that starts the confrontation and that is not the person not talking I must have this all wrong (surprise surprise) 
I understood the person with the question was the one with the problem as he/she was looking for answers. The other party remained quiet, did not partake in conversation, upsetting 1st party. Therefore the 1st party is upset, looking for answers started confrontation |
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I think adj just wants to argue.
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And some women can talk a thing to death. It isn't all that complicated. They say what they mean not some underlying dig that we need to psycho analyze at every turn. When we realize that when a man says "Baby pass the remote" it means simply he is going to watch his game. Not, as we would think it, OMG what have I done that he doesn't want to talk and share and be with me yadda yadda yadda. You need to be cloned... Seriously!
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Edited by
Unknow
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Mon 06/15/09 11:46 AM
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Maybe the sound of her voice is so grating to him at the moment that he is choosing ignore as a better option than homicide... or going out and getting drunk and meeting a floozy...
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Edited by
adj4u
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Mon 06/15/09 11:48 AM
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Sometimes, silence is the best communicator, when you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.
Exactly. But what if only one party thinks there are issues? The other party is perfectly fine with things continuing how they are, what then? Isn't that why it's better to be able to talk about things? Otherwise, one will wondering if something's wrong. but that's my question - one person has a problem the other does not why drag me down with you and your problem (hypothetically speaking of course) and the one with the problem is the one that starts the confrontation and that is not the person not talking I must have this all wrong (surprise surprise)
I understood the person with the question was the one with the problem as he/she was looking for answers. The other party remained quiet, did not partake in conversation, upsetting 1st party. Therefore the 1st party is upset, looking for answers started confrontation exactly the one with the issue started the confrontation that is obvious (or should be) they are assuming there is a problem more than likely they (the one not talking)will say there is no problem or something similar (and the other party will not drop it usually) |
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I think adj just wants to argue.
i am trying to comunicate and you are being confrontational be careful what you wish for
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I think adj just wants to argue.
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I think adj just wants to argue.
i am trying to comunicate and you are being confrontational be careful what you wish for
oops too late
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I think adj just wants to argue.
I was joking, for the most part .
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I think adj just wants to argue.
I was joking, for the most part .
you mean like i was on my first post where the multiple laughing emoticons were in the post and yet it was taken to heart 
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I think adj just wants to argue.
I was joking, for the most part .
you mean like i was on my first post where the multiple laughing emoticons were in the post and yet it was taken to heart
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Maybe the sound of her voice is so grating to him at the moment that he is choosing ignore as a better option than homicide... or going out and getting drunk and meeting a floozy...
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Maybe the sound of her voice is so grating to him at the moment that he is choosing ignore as a better option than homicide... or going out and getting drunk and meeting a floozy...
can work either way, his voice grates her nerves
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