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Topic: Being Upfront
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Mon 06/15/09 01:50 PM
Edited by salvatore35 on Mon 06/15/09 01:52 PM



No, it isn't my objective. However, it's obvious that a lot of what you say is to get reactions from people. I can't take that seriously.
Again..I am sorry if that is how you feel...but that is not my intent.I thought you had a very cool topic on this thread and felt like sharing. i didn't know opening my heart would be so difficult to take.I apologize...and certainly don't wanna ruin your thread.
But if ever there was a miscommunication...you just stepped right into it.
Mabey if partners would only listen to the heart...and stop what the mind wants to hear....relationships would thrive!


I've tried communicating in your other thread and anytime someone disagreed with you, you'd say they were full of hate. So you weren't the best at communication either, were you? huh
I dare you to pull that quote.I never ever said that to anyone there.Pull it and i will get off mingles!I am challenging you to find that quote my dear!
And for anyone who is wondering what she is taliking about..it is called WE ARE ALL ONE.I invite you all to read the pages and find that quote.
I expect to hear from you soon singmesweet.
You can bash my idea's but don't ever lie about me...I am here now and challenge you!FIND IT!

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Mon 06/15/09 01:55 PM
Not only didn't i say that...but i believe a mod should be informed about you for lying about me in a thread!

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Mon 06/15/09 01:58 PM

Not only didn't i say that...but i believe a mod should be informed about you for lying about me in a thread!
Shall we have the mods look up your insane lie and have them deal with this??????They can look thru my thread and see no such wording!What do you say singmesweet?

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Mon 06/15/09 01:59 PM
Woah dude. I'm not trying to lie about you. Relax.

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Mon 06/15/09 02:00 PM
Edited by salvatore35 on Mon 06/15/09 02:02 PM

Woah dude. I'm not trying to lie about you. Relax.
I will leave your thread..just get this straight.Don't ever make a false accusation about me in a thread.I will be there everytime..you can pounce on my ideas but don't ever attack my character!
I am sorry for getting this topic off thread.i will leave you now!

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Mon 06/15/09 02:04 PM


going to say this again. this thread and many other threads are good examples of why someone might not communicate. I have seen many times when someone gives opinions/feelings/beliefs....they are jumped on. now i'm not talking about the offensive posts...i'm talking about genuine feelings. they are told they are wrong or there are arguments etc.


My profile is a good example of this -- women write and tell me I'm WRONG for having standards and preferences and for being outspoken about them. But isn't it better for me to lay all that out right up front so everybody KNOWS whether there's any point in contacting me in the first place?

Apparently, that concept is too deep for some.






IMO....when I see a profile like that...whether I agree or not...i can respect it. at least I know where you stand.

I used to have my i'm your girl/i'm not your girl on my profile (when i was looking) and someone emailed me telling me i was demanding lol

i emailed him back saying...then i'm not your girl

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Mon 06/15/09 02:05 PM


Woah dude. I'm not trying to lie about you. Relax.
I will leave your thread..just get this straight.Don't ever make a false accusation about me in a thread.I will be there everytime..you can pounce on my ideas but don't ever attack my character!
I am sorry for getting this topic off thread.i will leave you now!
does this mean you dont like her now? yikes you 2!

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Mon 06/15/09 02:08 PM
Lex...on the flip side of that.... there are some that don't put a lot of info like that on their profile. and if someone doesn't like lack of info...they can move on as well

it's all about differences. finding someone that communicates the way i do would help the relationship. i don't want someone that loves drama anymore than i want someone that i have to guess

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Mon 06/15/09 02:19 PM
yep a lot want to not agree to disagree

just like the picture debate

i have made many points as why i have no picture

and still get attacked for it

i give the privilege of seeing my picture to those i wish

no one has the right to see a picture of anyone

and that goes on and on

it will be another new thread or 2 in the next month about it

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Mon 06/15/09 02:20 PM

Lex...on the flip side of that.... there are some that don't put a lot of info like that on their profile. and if someone doesn't like lack of info...they can move on as well


Sure, and that's OK, too. But I appreciate having that sort of information right up front because it can be a big help in figuring out if this is someone I would want to know more about.

But in the ABSENCE of this relevant information, my "default setting" is to presume that the person is far more mainstream than I am -- it's a safe enough assumption, given that I have yet to run across more than a handful who aren't! --


it's all about differences. finding someone that communicates the way i do would help the relationship. i don't want someone that loves drama anymore than i want someone that i have to guess


Exactly. Finding someone that communicates the way I do would be a freaking miracle. But it would be nice....


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Mon 06/15/09 02:36 PM

yep a lot want to not agree to disagree

just like the picture debate

i have made many points as why i have no picture

and still get attacked for it

i give the privilege of seeing my picture to those i wish

no one has the right to see a picture of anyone

and that goes on and on

it will be another new thread or 2 in the next month about it
you used to have your picture on here

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Mon 06/15/09 02:38 PM


yep a lot want to not agree to disagree

just like the picture debate

i have made many points as why i have no picture

and still get attacked for it

i give the privilege of seeing my picture to those i wish

no one has the right to see a picture of anyone

and that goes on and on

it will be another new thread or 2 in the next month about it
you used to have your picture on here


dont tell

it still is on occasion but not often and not for very long

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Mon 06/15/09 02:39 PM


Lex...on the flip side of that.... there are some that don't put a lot of info like that on their profile. and if someone doesn't like lack of info...they can move on as well


Sure, and that's OK, too. But I appreciate having that sort of information right up front because it can be a big help in figuring out if this is someone I would want to know more about.

But in the ABSENCE of this relevant information, my "default setting" is to presume that the person is far more mainstream than I am -- it's a safe enough assumption, given that I have yet to run across more than a handful who aren't! --


it's all about differences. finding someone that communicates the way i do would help the relationship. i don't want someone that loves drama anymore than i want someone that i have to guess


Exactly. Finding someone that communicates the way I do would be a freaking miracle. But it would be nice....




i would like to see more info myself...but that is me. it's all about differences.

i have yet to find someone like me when it comes to communicating lol. because of things in my life...i tend to try to handle it myself. i'm trying to learn to let others help...even if it's just to lend an ear.

i suspect i'm more like a guy than anything (except physically lol) that is why i understand the man's point of view more

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Mon 06/15/09 03:50 PM
I think the point of this thread has been lost. Basically, I just said I'd like to see more men being upfront about things, rather than avoiding them. That really could be said about anyone, in all kinds of scenarios. Not necessarily dating only.

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Mon 06/15/09 04:36 PM
I would like to see more woman being upfrontdrinker

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Mon 06/15/09 04:44 PM

I would like to see more woman being upfrontdrinker


:thumbsup:

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Mon 06/15/09 04:48 PM
not only am I upfront but I like to keep things short and sweet flowers

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Mon 06/15/09 04:54 PM

not only am I upfront but I like to keep things short and sweet flowers


Have I seen you on an episode of "Next"?


:wink: laugh You know I love you Fran! flowerforyou

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Mon 06/15/09 04:55 PM


not only am I upfront but I like to keep things short and sweet flowers


Have I seen you on an episode of "Next"?


:wink: laugh You know I love you Fran! flowerforyou

:angry: so many other ways pitchfork to profess your love for me tongue2

:laughing:

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Mon 06/15/09 04:56 PM
i prefer to be up front blushing

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