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Topic: Being Upfront
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Mon 06/15/09 01:21 PM
Edited by msmyka on Mon 06/15/09 01:21 PM
Pshhhh don't you ladies know by now that ignoring something until it goes away solves EVERYTHING? slaphead

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Mon 06/15/09 01:21 PM

Pshhhh don;t you ladies know by now that ignoring something until it goes away solves EVERYTHING? slaphead


So that's what these guys are hoping for! laugh

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Mon 06/15/09 01:21 PM
Edited by salvatore35 on Mon 06/15/09 01:22 PM


You see how a man and woman can mis communicate.I wrote at the end of my last post "But certainly not needed"...you you insist I said it was needed.Singmesweet..i think you ar a great girl.But our interaction is the perfect example of mis communication and goes on all the time with fueding couples.
No answer needed..means no answer needed!


Sorry. Needed wasn't the right word. Maybe I should have said wanted. But no, you cannot compare us to "feuding couples." We don't know each other at all, other than in the forums. You've had an issue with me ever since I said the whole "I love you" thing was a bit creepy. You keep bringing that up. That's all.
I actually love you in the other thread and miss you terribly.You are a woman who speaks her mind and in my book...that is special.You never fear a battle of thoughts and I truly respect that!
So as for having an issue with you...you couldn't be farther from the truth!

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Mon 06/15/09 01:22 PM



You see how a man and woman can mis communicate.I wrote at the end of my last post "But certainly not needed"...you you insist I said it was needed.Singmesweet..i think you ar a great girl.But our interaction is the perfect example of mis communication and goes on all the time with fueding couples.
No answer needed..means no answer needed!


Sorry. Needed wasn't the right word. Maybe I should have said wanted. But no, you cannot compare us to "feuding couples." We don't know each other at all, other than in the forums. You've had an issue with me ever since I said the whole "I love you" thing was a bit creepy. You keep bringing that up. That's all.
I actually love you in the othet thread and miss you terribly.You are a woman who speaks her mind and in my book...that is special.You never fear a battle of thoughts and I truly respect that!
So as for having an issue with you...you couldn't be farther from the truth!


scared scared scared scared

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Mon 06/15/09 01:22 PM
Edited by yellowrose10 on Mon 06/15/09 01:22 PM

hmmmmmmmmmmm

maybe part of the problem could be that even when given an explanation...it's not enough. the whys and confrontations come in instead of accepting the answer (whether you agree or not)

i have been guilty of this in the past....now i just accept it because, really, no one OWES me an answer. it would be nice to get one and understand it, but it's not owed to me


going to say this again. this thread and many other threads are good examples of why someone might not communicate. I have seen many times when someone gives opinions/feelings/beliefs....they are jumped on. now i'm not talking about the offensive posts...i'm talking about genuine feelings. they are told they are wrong or there are arguments etc.


so with that said...i'm done communicating in this thread...and going to confront fran in some other threadlaugh

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Mon 06/15/09 01:22 PM




You see how a man and woman can mis communicate.I wrote at the end of my last post "But certainly not needed"...you you insist I said it was needed.Singmesweet..i think you ar a great girl.But our interaction is the perfect example of mis communication and goes on all the time with fueding couples.
No answer needed..means no answer needed!


Sorry. Needed wasn't the right word. Maybe I should have said wanted. But no, you cannot compare us to "feuding couples." We don't know each other at all, other than in the forums. You've had an issue with me ever since I said the whole "I love you" thing was a bit creepy. You keep bringing that up. That's all.
I actually love you in the othet thread and miss you terribly.You are a woman who speaks her mind and in my book...that is special.You never fear a battle of thoughts and I truly respect that!
So as for having an issue with you...you couldn't be farther from the truth!


scared scared scared scared
Is that how men are to communicate?

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Mon 06/15/09 01:23 PM



You see how a man and woman can mis communicate.I wrote at the end of my last post "But certainly not needed"...you you insist I said it was needed.Singmesweet..i think you ar a great girl.But our interaction is the perfect example of mis communication and goes on all the time with fueding couples.
No answer needed..means no answer needed!


Sorry. Needed wasn't the right word. Maybe I should have said wanted. But no, you cannot compare us to "feuding couples." We don't know each other at all, other than in the forums. You've had an issue with me ever since I said the whole "I love you" thing was a bit creepy. You keep bringing that up. That's all.
I actually love you in the other thread and miss you terribly.You are a woman who speaks her mind and in my book...that is special.You never fear a battle of thoughts and I truly respect that!
So as for having an issue with you...you couldn't be farther from the truth!


send her flowers, a nice gesture but confrontation will only beget confrontation from singsmesweet - shhh my $ is on her :thumbsup:

but I realize you just like getting a rise out of her

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Mon 06/15/09 01:24 PM


hmmmmmmmmmmm

maybe part of the problem could be that even when given an explanation...it's not enough. the whys and confrontations come in instead of accepting the answer (whether you agree or not)

i have been guilty of this in the past....now i just accept it because, really, no one OWES me an answer. it would be nice to get one and understand it, but it's not owed to me


going to say this again. this thread and many other threads are good examples of why someone might not communicate. I have seen many times when someone gives opinions/feelings/beliefs....they are jumped on. now i'm not talking about the offensive posts...i'm talking about genuine feelings. they are told they are wrong or there are arguments etc.


so with that said...i'm done communicating in this thread...and going to confront fran in some other threadlaugh


shocked confront me don't do that I get scared easily shocked

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Mon 06/15/09 01:24 PM




You see how a man and woman can mis communicate.I wrote at the end of my last post "But certainly not needed"...you you insist I said it was needed.Singmesweet..i think you ar a great girl.But our interaction is the perfect example of mis communication and goes on all the time with fueding couples.
No answer needed..means no answer needed!


Sorry. Needed wasn't the right word. Maybe I should have said wanted. But no, you cannot compare us to "feuding couples." We don't know each other at all, other than in the forums. You've had an issue with me ever since I said the whole "I love you" thing was a bit creepy. You keep bringing that up. That's all.
I actually love you in the other thread and miss you terribly.You are a woman who speaks her mind and in my book...that is special.You never fear a battle of thoughts and I truly respect that!
So as for having an issue with you...you couldn't be farther from the truth!


send her flowers, a nice gesture but confrontation will only beget confrontation from singsmesweet - shhh my $ is on her :thumbsup:

but I realize you just like getting a rise out of her


Yup, he does. He's one of those guys who will say what someone has asked him not to say just to get a reaction.

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Mon 06/15/09 01:28 PM





You see how a man and woman can mis communicate.I wrote at the end of my last post "But certainly not needed"...you you insist I said it was needed.Singmesweet..i think you ar a great girl.But our interaction is the perfect example of mis communication and goes on all the time with fueding couples.
No answer needed..means no answer needed!


Sorry. Needed wasn't the right word. Maybe I should have said wanted. But no, you cannot compare us to "feuding couples." We don't know each other at all, other than in the forums. You've had an issue with me ever since I said the whole "I love you" thing was a bit creepy. You keep bringing that up. That's all.
I actually love you in the other thread and miss you terribly.You are a woman who speaks her mind and in my book...that is special.You never fear a battle of thoughts and I truly respect that!
So as for having an issue with you...you couldn't be farther from the truth!


send her flowers, a nice gesture but confrontation will only beget confrontation from singsmesweet - shhh my $ is on her :thumbsup:

but I realize you just like getting a rise out of her


Yup, he does. He's one of those guys who will say what someone has asked him not to say just to get a reaction.


remember getting your pigtails pulled in elementary school??? I just think he likes you :heart:

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Mon 06/15/09 01:29 PM
noway rofl

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Mon 06/15/09 01:31 PM

noway rofl
I really thought you would of handeld this thread better...i don't think making fun of people is really what your objective was here.People don't always share to get a reaction..people share because they feel they will be heard!

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Mon 06/15/09 01:32 PM
No, it isn't my objective. However, it's obvious that a lot of what you say is to get reactions from people. I can't take that seriously.

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Mon 06/15/09 01:36 PM

No, it isn't my objective. However, it's obvious that a lot of what you say is to get reactions from people. I can't take that seriously.
Again..I am sorry if that is how you feel...but that is not my intent.I thought you had a very cool topic on this thread and felt like sharing. i didn't know opening my heart would be so difficult to take.I apologize...and certainly don't wanna ruin your thread.
But if ever there was a miscommunication...you just stepped right into it.
Mabey if partners would only listen to the heart...and stop what the mind wants to hear....relationships would thrive!

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Mon 06/15/09 01:40 PM


Ya know, the last time I had a something important to say to a girl, I requested that I might be a able to put it in writing. I explained that if I were to attempt to say it right on the spot that I would end up saying something that I would regret.

Well, she told me to just say it. So I gave it my best shot. I intended to say that being 'just friends' was not comfortable to me given the feelings I had for her. I intended to have an intelligent conversation on the matter. I wanted her to be as open with me as I had been with her. Butttt... Given my habit for shooting from the hip with my words, I must have said something very wrong. Actually, I know what I said, and would rather not repeat it here. scared It's been two months since that conversation. That was the last time we spoke. Bahhh, I can almost make it until noon without thinking of her.

So, sometimes you need to know when to give someone time to compose their thoughts.


I'm sorry - hope things work out


Thanks. flowerforyou

At this point, it's only my social quirks (problems?) that keep me from truely moving on.
The more I think about it, the more I find that men are easier to be friends with. If only I found them attractive...scared

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Mon 06/15/09 01:42 PM




You see how a man and woman can mis communicate.I wrote at the end of my last post "But certainly not needed"...you you insist I said it was needed.Singmesweet..i think you ar a great girl.But our interaction is the perfect example of mis communication and goes on all the time with fueding couples.
No answer needed..means no answer needed!


Sorry. Needed wasn't the right word. Maybe I should have said wanted. But no, you cannot compare us to "feuding couples." We don't know each other at all, other than in the forums. You've had an issue with me ever since I said the whole "I love you" thing was a bit creepy. You keep bringing that up. That's all.
I actually love you in the other thread and miss you terribly.You are a woman who speaks her mind and in my book...that is special.You never fear a battle of thoughts and I truly respect that!
So as for having an issue with you...you couldn't be farther from the truth!


send her flowers, a nice gesture but confrontation will only beget confrontation from singsmesweet - shhh my $ is on her :thumbsup:

but I realize you just like getting a rise out of her
You realize wrong then.You don't know me Fran!Judge not another till you judge yourself.I like Singmesweet...so please explain where this "rise" you speak of comes from?

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Mon 06/15/09 01:46 PM

going to say this again. this thread and many other threads are good examples of why someone might not communicate. I have seen many times when someone gives opinions/feelings/beliefs....they are jumped on. now i'm not talking about the offensive posts...i'm talking about genuine feelings. they are told they are wrong or there are arguments etc.


My profile is a good example of this -- women write and tell me I'm WRONG for having standards and preferences and for being outspoken about them. But isn't it better for me to lay all that out right up front so everybody KNOWS whether there's any point in contacting me in the first place?

Apparently, that concept is too deep for some.




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Mon 06/15/09 01:47 PM


No, it isn't my objective. However, it's obvious that a lot of what you say is to get reactions from people. I can't take that seriously.
Again..I am sorry if that is how you feel...but that is not my intent.I thought you had a very cool topic on this thread and felt like sharing. i didn't know opening my heart would be so difficult to take.I apologize...and certainly don't wanna ruin your thread.
But if ever there was a miscommunication...you just stepped right into it.
Mabey if partners would only listen to the heart...and stop what the mind wants to hear....relationships would thrive!


I've tried communicating in your other thread and anytime someone disagreed with you, you'd say they were full of hate. So you weren't the best at communication either, were you? huh

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Mon 06/15/09 01:49 PM





You see how a man and woman can mis communicate.I wrote at the end of my last post "But certainly not needed"...you you insist I said it was needed.Singmesweet..i think you ar a great girl.But our interaction is the perfect example of mis communication and goes on all the time with fueding couples.
No answer needed..means no answer needed!


Sorry. Needed wasn't the right word. Maybe I should have said wanted. But no, you cannot compare us to "feuding couples." We don't know each other at all, other than in the forums. You've had an issue with me ever since I said the whole "I love you" thing was a bit creepy. You keep bringing that up. That's all.
I actually love you in the other thread and miss you terribly.You are a woman who speaks her mind and in my book...that is special.You never fear a battle of thoughts and I truly respect that!
So as for having an issue with you...you couldn't be farther from the truth!


send her flowers, a nice gesture but confrontation will only beget confrontation from singsmesweet - shhh my $ is on her :thumbsup:

but I realize you just like getting a rise out of her
You realize wrong then.You don't know me Fran!Judge not another till you judge yourself.I like Singmesweet...so please explain where this "rise" you speak of comes from?


rofl rofloh no you didn't place the exclamation point after my name!!!!!!!!!!
rofl rofl making an emphasis rofl rofl

I have no need to judge, I said what I thought (and it was funny too). I am not judging you one way or another - you misunderstood, so you please explain.

rise = goad

lesson over rofl


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Mon 06/15/09 01:50 PM


going to say this again. this thread and many other threads are good examples of why someone might not communicate. I have seen many times when someone gives opinions/feelings/beliefs....they are jumped on. now i'm not talking about the offensive posts...i'm talking about genuine feelings. they are told they are wrong or there are arguments etc.


My profile is a good example of this -- women write and tell me I'm WRONG for having standards and preferences and for being outspoken about them. But isn't it better for me to lay all that out right up front so everybody KNOWS whether there's any point in contacting me in the first place?

Apparently, that concept is too deep for some.






Someone is always going to complain. If you did not lay it all out there, some would complain about that.

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