Well i think i'm going to break down and fall apart soon. My girlfriend broke up with me last Thursday, saying she was too stressed, and felt tied down. She broke up with me using text messages too. Anyway Thursday and Friday were easy to get thru because i worked those nights so i had something to concentrate on, but this weekend i was off so it really hit home. I tried going out to the animal shelter to relieve stress by playing with cats and kittens, but my ex was there too (she works there) and she tired to act like we were great friends. I told her i was still hurting so i can't talk to her like friends, and she told me that she won't talk to me again.

So now what. Its my first break up in my 27 years on Earth. I've lost all motivation barely able to roll out of bed.

Could it be that you really went to see her knowing she works there?
I have been through this. You have to give it time.

Hey guys, still trying to get internet. Doing great. Met the man of my dreams. Hope all is well.

Sorry to hear that you having such a tough go of it, Allen. Hang in there buddy.

My friendly coworker is off her three day suspension. I am thinking of getting her a shirt with a picture of Smokey The Bear that says, "Only You Can Prevent Drama." Since the other person quit that she had a problem with I am wondering if she is taking that as a victory. It is nice to hear her say something besides, "That Fning B." They say that a man can be attracted to someone like their mother but she reminds me more of my father. He used to say that a lot about my second stepmother. And he was an Aquarius and an Atheist, too. Hmmm. I hope everyone is having a good day.

It is sad that we are losing our NSA - Nursing Staff Adviser. She was our liaison between the queen bees and the drones. As a CNA herself she is being replaced by a LPN. The NSA was taken out by a RN. The drama just became too much. It was a victory for the nurses' staff. Our departing NSA assured me that the new NSA would be fair and impartial. Time will tell.

Everyone have a great day

hi. i didnt know this existed on mingle. but i have mad ms since 1995. i deal with it very well but i had a job at a racet track golf course here in west virginia. i loved my seasonal job. everyone knew me and loved me. EXCEPT FOR ONE WOMAN! she turned all the bosses against me becuase she was threatened by me and harrassed me to know end. i got very sick and had to call my lawyer. we settled out of court but ti took TEN years for her job to finally be cut off! now they are all getting fired. she was one of them. they sent her home without a job.
i am a musician. i play guitar and i put on a really good show and exciting show. i get infections easily but if i sleep more and better i know i will overcome. i heard the comment about the woman on the job who didnt like you. im going inssane now trying to deal with being locked up until i do a gig. i write musicn in the day and i write music for television and record it with hopes it will sell thru some friends of mine. but i need to have a social life outside of the people i knew and grew up with in this town. noone to meet anywhere.. god bless marla

hi my response to the guy whos girlfrined broke up with him.

listen. if you have a personal faith in God, ask for the motivation to help yourself. Get on your kneees if you have to! i didn and wrote a whole record about the guy!

Then ask the Lord to replace her with someone who cares or a friend just to help you thru. Dont base your whole existence on another human being. It hard now, adn there is grief, surround yourself with people and maybe even in church. you WILL get over this and God will replace her.

marla

Love and Light

In my last post I asked "Now what?", and it has been answered;

My cat passed on last night of old age. She was my baby cat and she loved me very much, even when I wasn't living in the house anymore she would be waiting in my old room for me and she would get excited every time i came over to visit. I will miss her terribly.

And since bad things happen in 3s, i'm scared of what this next week will bring because so far its just been 2 horrible things, now i have to wait for the 3rd.

Allen, your cat sounds like she was a special cat but all things die of old age eventually. Don't attach any special meaning of doom and gloom to it. It is a normal act of life, animals are born and they die, doesn't mean that something bad is going to happen to you. I am sorry about your girlfriend but you need to keep going on. Don't let yourself wallow in depression, keep on with your life and your job. You need to be around people and stay social, it is the healthiest thing for you. It sounds like she wasn't the right person for you, I am sorry you got hurt, but you need to keep going and eventually you will meet the right person. I hope you are feeling better soon, take care of yourself.

Welcome to this thread Marla. You sound like you have a lot of talent. I am sorry about the job situation but it sounds like things are working out there. I hope things are getting better on the job situation for you. Please feel free to post in here whenever you want, some of us regulars check in and out and post when we can. Take care of yourself. Good luck and stay healthy.

Darn, Roy, sounds like she was a good person to work with. I hope your new NSA is as good to work with. Changes on the job are always scary. The hospital has been making changes and there are "undertones" and "rumblings" going on that make me nervous but no one has any control other than the administration so nothing we can do other than sit back and hope we don't have targets on our backs. They are having money problems and I keep hoping they are not going to make more cutbacks. They just gave me more work to do, so I am hoping that is a good sign. Keep telling myself that anyways. Hang in there and I will keep you in my thoughts. Take care.

Luv you people

Back at you.
You are a welcome addition to our little family. Take care.

Darn, Roy, sounds like she was a good person to work with. I hope your new NSA is as good to work with. Changes on the job are always scary. The hospital has been making changes and there are "undertones" and "rumblings" going on that make me nervous but no one has any control other than the administration so nothing we can do other than sit back and hope we don't have targets on our backs. They are having money problems and I keep hoping they are not going to make more cutbacks. They just gave me more work to do, so I am hoping that is a good sign. Keep telling myself that anyways. Hang in there and I will keep you in my thoughts. Take care.


She was a real sweetheart, Marie. She was the one who hired me for the job. She is the one who told me that they can almost train anybody for the job but what they needed were people who cared. She was in her seventies and almost everyone loved her. Even the nurses said she had the hardest job of anyone at the facility because she was in charge of hiring and firing the new help or IRCAs. Her husband was in failing her health and he wanted her home a long time ago to be with him. She gave me a hug before she left. She never was one to pull punches but if you were in the right she would go to bat for you. You just can't help but respect someone like that. I think she was just looking for a good excuse to give her two weeks notice because she told she already had another job lined up working for a doctor which knowing her probably paid more. You just about had to be smart to have a job like hers. I meant she had to represent the nursing home; The go between between the DON and the nurses and the aides. Personally, I would just shoot myself first. I mean she got it from every where. She was the one who had to beg people to come to work even though they were already scheduled to come to work; Find replacements at the last minute and do it all with a smile on her face. The last straw was when she already was off the clock and was looking at wedding dresses on her computer for an aide who was supposed to get married. I guess the RN is trying to get the Internet off the facility. From what I hear the DON would love that since it would make her job easier. You just have to figure out how this echelon stuff works because the RN is under the DON. I think the RN is on a power trip or that is what I am getting from all the nurses and aides. The last words the NSA said to me was it was time. She was ready to just spend some leisure time with her husband. It was a wonder she didn't have a nervous breakdown from all the pressure she has been under. Then they have this new medicare thing coming in with a whole other wing so the nursing home can hold its head above water and they already are understaffed. The cleaning lady this morning told this morning it will probably get worse for it gets better. One thing Obama has done for the medical profession is getting our taxes lowered on our paychecks.

Misery is almost always the result of thinking.

hey everybody, i'm FINALLY back.

just got the internet back. would have been back regularly two weeks ago, but (1) my laptop was in the shop and (2) the idiot who installed my roadrunner didn't the driver disk for the modem like he was supposed to


getting prepared to start a DBT group soon.

Glad to see you back, Amber.