look at my picture over there

SHE has kids

I won't tell you how many or anything, internet safety and all that

Denise,

As stated earlier, u r very intelligent and it felt good to read ur well thought out and written responses...

U sound as if u know where u r going in this life and @ 21 it can at times be a rarity.. so keep up the good work.

Focus on your blessing(child) and continue to make the best life for u both and don't settle for anything or anyone just 2 say "I have a man".

There is someone out there who will b worthy of u and ur child the 2 of u r a total package. Continue on the positive path u seem 2 b on and things will fall into place..

Great Luck and Best Wishes.

I agree with all thje repsonses, i would say 90% of men out there are a$$holes, and you have to find the right one. Women are the same. Now Im 23 and want to find someone who has a kid, I love kids and Im ready for Kids, its the women that are not ready for that in a relatioship or a relationship period!!

well hello to you honey! LOL. Seriously tho...I agree with the whole some men are A holes thing. Some women too. It's rare (for me anyway) to hear a man of your years (I know your only 2 years older then me but still...:)) say that he's ready for kids.

A guy isn't a jerk just because he doesnt want to date a woman who has children. I don't date men who have children, and that doesn't make a b!tch. Everyone has a preference, and some people choose to not date moms/dads. I've seen this topic on the threads a couple of times, and I will suggest to you what I suggested to them, try dating single dads. You will have more in common with them, and you might have a better chance of meeting someone who wants children around.

Also, be glad they are honest and tell you they aren't interested in a single mom before the relationship goes too far; a friend of mine told me a horrible story the other day about a neighbor of hers who has a 2 year old and a boyfriend. The boyfriend flew into a rage one day and put the baby in the hospital from abusing him, and they don't expect him to live. She would have been better off if he had told her he wasn't interested in a woman with kids. Good luck to you.

I didn't call them jerks because they didn't want to date someone with children. I said they were jerks because of the way they had treated her.

And seriously, it's a pretty safe bet. They're MEN for goodness sakes

I'm KIDDING. (mostly)

Yeah, I just think it's best they left before they hurt the kid. I feel sorry for my friend's neighbor, her kid might die because the guy beat him so badly, when all he had to was walk away from the single mom if he didn't want to be there. It's better to be rejected with words than have your child hurt.

I think you're missing what I'm trying to say. No one meets my child until I think the relationship is serious and can lead somewhere...even then he has to wait. All I was saying is that when a man approaches me he's all smiles and giggles until he finds out that a child is in the picture...then he turns tail and run lol

no 21 year old collage student is looking to have a kid. they want to finish collage before taking that on. they aren't a-holes or jerks, they just know what they want and what they don't want. most of them probably live at home with their parents still. they cant take care of a baby and they know it. Date older guys that are done with school and have a career.

Been meeting the wrong guys. If they are in love with you or desire your company then having kids should never be a deal breaker, I don' t want any myself, done raised two, but if I was really interested in someone, that wouldn't make any difference

21/m
no children

i dont want to seem rude so ill keep it short.

i dont want that life style and responsibility, right now.

nothing personal.

I was single, 21 and 2 kids when I met my ex husband. You will find the right person for you.

The responses you got here are true most 21 yr olds aren't sure what they want for dinner that night let alone what they want out of life.

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, take care of your son and yourself and the rest will fall into place at the time it happens.

I always tell people to stop looking for love it will find you, where and when you least expect it too. Good luck.

You are a strong young woman, which makes the young men, run! Enjoy your time with your son, and everything will fall into place. I applaude you baby. (standing)

ditto

If a woman has a child but the father is no longer in the picture, then some sort of big mistake happened. I don't want to be the next mistake. A woman who is divorced, it's the same thing though I don't see it as a risk like a child.

I'm still only getting used to the idea of women my age having kids, and I'm 31. When I was 21 a woman with a kid would just be way too shocking and not something I was even going to think about at all because most women at that age don't have kids yet.

Mistakes happen and a lot of women my age have kids without the father, and some time has passed. I'm open to a relationship with them. Still, I don't even want kids at all, ever, so a woman who has kids I have to question whether we're compatible. And if she still wants more kids I see us as incompatible on anything more than just a simple level, and it's also a risk factor. It's virtually never going to happen that I agree to a relationship with a woman who wants kids, and I'm going to be very hesitant to have a relationship with a woman who's a mother, she's going to have to explain to me first.

"I was single, 21 and 2 kids when I met my ex husband."

*EX* husband.

That pretty much sums up what I'm talking about.

What is funny is that i am on the other end of the issue, that is I am 47 with a young child. I run into that as well, mostly because of men my age having had children early in life or not so early but not wanting to go through raising another.
This said, there a obviously men out there that will be willing to date you. I would consider older men. I am looking at younger men.

Hmmmm well not sure sweetie. I have 5 kids, and I've never been assumed to be depending on the welfare system.

I read about this sometimes, where men don't date a woman with children but I've never run into that problem.

You be you, hold out for the best and it will happen.