Topic: Why guys won't date single moms???? | |
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We need a big ass group hug here..lol
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Has anyone here read "The Scarlet Letter"? I think it is very appropriate in this setting. I don't think it applies at all. No one is wearing an A on their chest or being killed for having sex without being married. No, but women are being demonized for having children "out of wedlock" and who is demonizing the men for it? i dont think they are demonizing women for having children. i think of it more like do you like blonds or red heads? skinny or thick women? with children or without? its a preference thing. and i think a higher percent of guys would prefer a woman without children. nad yet the woman raises the child (not in all cases but in alot) and the man walks away with his every other weekend visitation.... NICE. Do you have kids? |
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i think we are making this a men against women thing instead of a reality thing. it is sad that it is deteriorating into a name calling shout fest.
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Edited by
Winx
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Tue 09/30/08 09:20 AM
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Let's throw two of them out and say that I didn't plan on getting pregnant hence thats why I mentioned condoms. Besides I like to think of my son as a surprise. He was born a week before my birthday. Best birthday gift ever!!! Well, your son's birthday gift was to have no father. don't yell at me...just looking at it from other people's point of view That is mean and uncalled for!!!! People can fall in love and,yes, accidents happen. Then suddenly the man can change and leaves the woman. He walks away from the child too. It happens all too often. So don't even go there! |
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and what of the childrens fathers??? the one who ran away.. you deamonize us for stepping up and taking care of the children.. but who is deamonizing the dads who ran away?? I don't demonize anyone. However, if you, the mother decide to keep the kid even if the father doesn't want the kid, then you are on your own. It is your body, the father can't touch it. It's not fair if the father wants it and the mother doesn't, she can get rid of it without consequence. The fact that the fathers are forced be fathers is the reason fathers run away. |
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i think we are making this a men against women thing instead of a reality thing. it is sad that it is deteriorating into a name calling shout fest. we have been free to name call this entire time???? damn I miss all the fun. Can't start now tho, people would try to judge me |
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I'll tell you what guys... Unless you care for a sick child in the early hours of the morning. Unless you get a child ready every morning to go to daycare/school so you can also get yourself ready to go to work, come home and feed a child and do homework and then a bath and bed FIVE days a week. Unless you have cancelled plans because the ex "couldn't" pick up the child when they are supposed to because THEY had a gold outting or whatever other social event THEY had. Unless you wipe away tears from skinned knees, broken hearts, disappointment, spilled ice cream...whatever. Unless you care for a child day in and day out, DO NOT JUDGE A SINGLE PARENT FOR THE CHOICES THEY HAVE MADE. You have not a God damn clue in your God damn tiny little brain what a single parent does EVERY day of their life. |
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i think we are making this a men against women thing instead of a reality thing. it is sad that it is deteriorating into a name calling shout fest. we have been free to name call this entire time???? damn I miss all the fun. Can't start now tho, people would try to judge me you're just a single mom...ohhh snap..LMFAO |
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and what of the childrens fathers??? the one who ran away.. you deamonize us for stepping up and taking care of the children.. but who is deamonizing the dads who ran away?? I don't demonize anyone. However, if you, the mother decide to keep the kid even if the father doesn't want the kid, then you are on your own. It is your body, the father can't touch it. It's not fair if the father wants it and the mother doesn't, she can get rid of it without consequence. The fact that the fathers are forced be fathers is the reason fathers run away. |
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Has anyone here read "The Scarlet Letter"? I think it is very appropriate in this setting. I don't think it applies at all. No one is wearing an A on their chest or being killed for having sex without being married. No, but women are being demonized for having children "out of wedlock" and who is demonizing the men for it? i dont think they are demonizing women for having children. i think of it more like do you like blonds or red heads? skinny or thick women? with children or without? its a preference thing. and i think a higher percent of guys would prefer a woman without children. nad yet the woman raises the child (not in all cases but in alot) and the man walks away with his every other weekend visitation.... NICE. Do you have kids? the woman chose to have the child. and situations may vary but the man is responsible for child support and so every one is sacrificing in the situation. maybe not in the ideal way but it is getting done. i dont have any children. i dont believe i ever will. i think it is possible to be sexually active and not have a child we have here a woman that says condoms dont work.... well im 26 ive been having sex since i was 16, that means 10 years being active. i have had 5 condoms break on me in that time (5 out of the hundred or so used thats pretty good), and i have exactly 0 children. |
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yet the woman raises the child (not in all cases but in alot) and the man walks away with his every other weekend visitation.... NICE. Do you have kids? |
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i think we are making this a men against women thing instead of a reality thing. it is sad that it is deteriorating into a name calling shout fest. we have been free to name call this entire time???? damn I miss all the fun. Can't start now tho, people would try to judge me you're just a single mom...ohhh snap..LMFAO ouch! that hurt deep! i think i will go to my free check tree, pick a check, wash it off, and go drown my sorrows in a beer bottle. then rush off and have unprotected sex so I can get pregnant and grow another free check tree in my backyard. YAY!!! Dreams do come true! |
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i think we are making this a men against women thing instead of a reality thing. it is sad that it is deteriorating into a name calling shout fest. we have been free to name call this entire time???? damn I miss all the fun. Can't start now tho, people would try to judge me you're just a single mom...ohhh snap..LMFAO ouch! that hurt deep! i think i will go to my free check tree, pick a check, wash it off, and go drown my sorrows in a beer bottle. then rush off and have unprotected sex so I can get pregnant and grow another free check tree in my backyard. YAY!!! Dreams do come true! hey mamma..can I borrow one of those free checks..I need to get my hair done.. |
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nad yet the woman raises the child (not in all cases but in alot) and the man walks away with his every other weekend visitation.... NICE. Do you have kids? The man only gets the weekend visitation if the mommy is nice and lets him or if he pays for the time through child support. |
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i think we are making this a men against women thing instead of a reality thing. it is sad that it is deteriorating into a name calling shout fest. we have been free to name call this entire time???? damn I miss all the fun. Can't start now tho, people would try to judge me you're just a single mom...ohhh snap..LMFAO ouch! that hurt deep! i think i will go to my free check tree, pick a check, wash it off, and go drown my sorrows in a beer bottle. then rush off and have unprotected sex so I can get pregnant and grow another free check tree in my backyard. YAY!!! Dreams do come true! Your child is a blessing. |
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I'll tell you what guys... Unless you care for a sick child in the early hours of the morning. Unless you get a child ready every morning to go to daycare/school so you can also get yourself ready to go to work, come home and feed a child and do homework and then a bath and bed FIVE days a week. Unless you have cancelled plans because the ex "couldn't" pick up the child when they are supposed to because THEY had a gold outting or whatever other social event THEY had. Unless you wipe away tears from skinned knees, broken hearts, disappointment, spilled ice cream...whatever. Unless you care for a child day in and day out, DO NOT JUDGE A SINGLE PARENT FOR THE CHOICES THEY HAVE MADE. You have not a God damn clue in your God damn tiny little brain what a single parent does EVERY day of their life. god willing, most of us will never find out. |
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i just meant that condoms don't always work. sometimes that .01% kicks in during sex. now where in God's name did I put my "don't know anything about the world because I'm a stupid woman who has a child" hat at?
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i think we are making this a men against women thing instead of a reality thing. it is sad that it is deteriorating into a name calling shout fest. we have been free to name call this entire time???? damn I miss all the fun. Can't start now tho, people would try to judge me you're just a single mom...ohhh snap..LMFAO ouch! that hurt deep! i think i will go to my free check tree, pick a check, wash it off, and go drown my sorrows in a beer bottle. then rush off and have unprotected sex so I can get pregnant and grow another free check tree in my backyard. YAY!!! Dreams do come true! Denise, I doubted you when you first started this thread.... but you're alright... **drinks a beer with Denise** |
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Unless you care for a child day in and day out, DO NOT JUDGE A SINGLE PARENT FOR THE CHOICES THEY HAVE MADE. How does this apply when the parent is single prior to having the baby? |
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i think we are making this a men against women thing instead of a reality thing. it is sad that it is deteriorating into a name calling shout fest. we have been free to name call this entire time???? damn I miss all the fun. Can't start now tho, people would try to judge me you're just a single mom...ohhh snap..LMFAO ouch! that hurt deep! i think i will go to my free check tree, pick a check, wash it off, and go drown my sorrows in a beer bottle. then rush off and have unprotected sex so I can get pregnant and grow another free check tree in my backyard. YAY!!! Dreams do come true! Your child is a blessing. I don't ever refer to my kiddo as a mistake...she is more like the parasite that suckled on me till almost all life was gone..then she went and did something cute and I just couldn't have the heart to drown her in the tub...LOL |
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