Yes, it means one is human. We would all like to think that people learn from their mistakes and grow from their life experiences, though. Some don't, tragically.

I suppose that is what some are also weighing when they explore these questions with a potential Life partner.

I think a lot depends on whether you are trying to delve into someones's past, or their present.

I am not sure what my sexual behavior 25 years ago has to do with who I am today.

The number of partners is irrelevant and answers no real questions. Recent partners, testing, STDS, etc. are something else.

I mean, this is not the forum or site I would seek those kinds of men on, usually. That's because most vanillas don't really get why it is important to ask those questions and to assess whether you can talk openly about it or not.

I don't seek potential "dates" on jsh. I'm here just for the chit chat. Mikecom21hotmaiL was an exception; and, I probably won't be sticking around here if it doesn't work out. Just me. *shrugs*

"vanillas"?

The men I usually date and I usually do! It's actually an excellent practice. Good starting point for open, frank communication about a lot of things. Really! I'm not kidding! lol ....I know so many people that do.

It works.

Yes, you have a point there.

It just sends up a red flag if you start to see old patterns repeated in the recent past or present, though.

Yes, those that practice "straight sex", or even straight sex with a kinky twist.

By straight, I do not necessarily mean "heterosexual", although many hets do practice vanilla sex. I mean....on the less spicy or creative side. Plainer.

Nice that you found a group of friends that also enjoys interrogation as opposed to conversation at the outset of a potential relationship.
Personally, I find that, if my new acquaintance started off by asking me questions along the vein of this thread, I'd feel more than a little creeped out, but that's just me, I'm an old fashioned kinda guy who likes to get to know someone prior to typing and cross matching their blood sample.

So what's the obverse of vanilla? Tutti-frutti?

That or you can just say you cant count that high? Especially when you are sitting home online typing in forums during your free time from work LOL

Humm you know it is funny some say they ask for they want to know if they have some type of disease. Guess what you can ask all you want to it only takes one to catch something. Diseases has nothing to do with the amount of people or whom you sleep with they could be high class and rich and still be able to catch something.

Sorry to tell all any type of disease has no preferences when it comes to age, sex or how many you have sleep with.

Sure the more you sleep with the more of a chance.

But if one automatically tells you the names of past loves and you ask them what happen and both have no problem with this. I see nothing wrong with it.

But now to ask what they did together either sexually or other is none of your business.

Sometimes some things are better left in the past.

If you want to know if they have a disease then get tested. Them telling you everyone they sleep with can not tell you that. Go for proven facts not what one assumes.

But now some after they have talked and gotten to know each other will mention the ones in there past not in detail but more or less due to they feel you should know for their past is still them. But have never known anyone to talk about numbers and what they did with every single one shshhsh too much info.

Only ones that one should talk about is if their name would happen to pop up around family or friends for it don't hurt for you to know there side who wants big surprises the family may spit out lol

Interrogate? Right.

To each, their own.

Whatever floats yer boat. I prefer Rocky Road, or Moosetracks. Even chocolate will do.

I dont think the number is important. I think most people have one or a few...random mistakes, that I feel we should have to account for. We were all younger at some point than we are now, weve all had lapses in judgement. The decisions you make today with the person you are with now, is what matters. Unless you are a habitual cheater...then...well then you have to find someone else to convince.

i'd proud to give my let the person know i haven't been with many.I'm not easy .I take being with someone very serious cause they just might walk away with my heart

And this, was what I was alluding to. It matters not how many partners one has had. It DOES matter why - if I am seeking anything other than an Intimate Encounter or a casual fvck buddy.

The amount of partners anyone has had does not label them as a cheater

No people can have many partners and not cheat. They can also have many safe partners. But there arent any real questions you can ask to find out if THEY find out who they are sleeping with. Every time I have a sexual oppertunity my mind reverts back to 7th grade when the health teacher said "every time you have sex with someone, you are having sex with everyone they have had sex with." No thanks, Ill just wait till I know Im with someone I can trust. We have asweome novelty stores now that can take care of my desires without me having to catch anything...and explain my contagiousness to someone I might actually care about down the line.

no but it may mean they are not into getting into relationships

my opinion...there is just to many people out there not to bring this up as a serious discussion...and so many people lie, and curve the truth...its just not safe anymore..so if ya cant discuss this, then maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship with that person--jmo