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 my opinion...there is just to many people out there not to bring this up as a serious discussion...and so many people lie, and curve the truth...its just not safe anymore..so if ya cant discuss this, then maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship with that person--jmo That's the thing, it will never get to a relationship  why can't they get that my friend?  Meaning: If a woman attemtps to start digging into my history within the first few dates it throws an immediate red flag up, pretty much a deal breaker. Get to know me and what I bring to the future..Not my past..that is irrelevant...Digging into my history has nothing to do with STD's.. Now, I for one dont want to get infected either. Talking over being tested and STD's over the first few dates is well odd. What if after a few dates I am not interested? How does sex even come up yet that soon? Once a mutual feeling is made that we may go further and pursue relations of some sort I have no problem discussing about being tested....That makes full sense, knowing how many women I have been with? Whether it is 1 or 50, that has no substance in my opinion  |
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Your getting closer in dating with someone...Do you inquire about how many sexual partner's they have had?...Why? Me personally, I dont ask, nor do I care. I also get offended when asked... Dont feel it's anyones business. Looking for feedback on why this may be important to others  They always get mad so now I dont tell them
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my opinion...there is just to many people out there not to bring this up as a serious discussion...and so many people lie, and curve the truth...its just not safe anymore..so if ya cant discuss this, then maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship with that person--jmo That's the thing, it will never get to a relationship why can't they get that my friend? Meaning: If a woman attemtps to start digging into my history within the first few dates it throws an immediate red flag up, pretty much a deal breaker. Get to know me and what I bring to the future..Not my past..that is irrelevant...Digging into my history has nothing to do with STD's.. Now, I for one dont want to get infected either. Talking over being tested and STD's over the first few dates is well odd. What if after a few dates I am not interested? How does sex even come up yet that soon? Once a mutual feeling is made that we may go further and pursue relations of some sort I have no problem discussing about being tested....That makes full sense, knowing how many women I have been with? Whether it is 1 or 50, that has no substance in my opinion I must agree with you here Jim 
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Your getting closer in dating with someone...Do you inquire about how many sexual partner's they have had?...Why? Me personally, I dont ask, nor do I care. I also get offended when asked... Dont feel it's anyones business. Looking for feedback on why this may be important to others They always get mad so now I dont tell them tell all want the truth you tell them they get mad I know so send them to the taxidermist up the road
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my opinion...there is just to many people out there not to bring this up as a serious discussion...and so many people lie, and curve the truth...its just not safe anymore..so if ya cant discuss this, then maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship with that person--jmo That's the thing, it will never get to a relationship why can't they get that my friend? We know it intimidates most men for us to ask. Most of us females know not to ask until the general information is offered. A stand-up guy will usually not hide it.  neither you or dozens like you may be able to intimidate me the sea is full of fish and the world is the oyster was it or the lobster Whatever you say, "Popeye". 
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robert1652
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my opinion...there is just to many people out there not to bring this up as a serious discussion...and so many people lie, and curve the truth...its just not safe anymore..so if ya cant discuss this, then maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship with that person--jmo That's the thing, it will never get to a relationship why can't they get that my friend? We know it intimidates most men for us to ask. Most of us females know not to ask until the general information is offered. A stand-up guy will usually not hide it. neither you or dozens like you may be able to intimidate me the sea is full of fish and the world is the oyster was it or the lobster Whatever you say, "Popeye". 55 years he has been faithful to Ollie now that Bluto has taken her away (cause popeye is sick of spinach) he is sticking to sea food and if a fish comes close that smells he goes to the next as simple as that thanks but no thank show the donor card and walk away very simple plain English. |
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Myself what does it matter what one did 5,10,15 etc,.. years ago what are they digging for something to hold over your head?
Shshsh and sorry if they bring it up on the first date or two hello see ya  Damn get to know me first you might find out I'm willing to answer any of your questions or take any test you have in mind. But shove it down my throat and you will see how fast I will turn and walk away. Wondering what the heck are you hiding shshhhshs |
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Myself what does it matter what one did 5,10,15 etc,.. years ago what are they digging for something to hold over your head? Shshsh and sorry if they bring it up on the first date or two hello see ya Damn get to know me first you might find out I'm willing to answer any of your questions or take any test you have in mind. But shove it down my throat and you will see how fast I will turn and walk away. Wondering what the heck are you hiding shshhhshs music to my ears you are
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Ohh and before anyone assumes I had a wild past think again
was married at 21 for 11 years got a divorce and dated 2 guys then the third guy I dated for 12 years so yeah I'm one that don't have to use my toes to count how many I have been with. I just have and open mind and still believes in trusting the one I'm with maybe to some that is a bad idea but if you don't have trust you do not have anything to base a relationship on.
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I find the idea that the number of sexual partners you have had says something about your character very offensive. Stay on the planet long enough and have enough relationships go bad and you are going to rack up a decent number of partners. So what? And then you add in college/high school years, former drinking problems, and the fact that many women and some men sometimes have a period of promiscuity after a breakup, well, the numbers mean you are human, that's all. I would hate to be judged on that and to be told it says something about my character. Wow! I love reading your stuff!
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Ohh and before anyone assumes I had a wild past think again was married at 21 for 11 years got a divorce and dated 2 guys then the third guy I dated for 12 years so yeah I'm one that don't have to use my toes to count how many I have been with. I just have and open mind and still believes in trusting the one I'm with maybe to some that is a bad idea but if you don't have trust you do not have anything to base a relationship on. you see this is the point the ones who rant have had dozens perhaps few dozens and they think because of their own vunnurablety others must pay the price for them |
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people lie anyways theres no sure way to know that they are telling the truth
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robert1652
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where did she disappear. Chickened out I guess found it tough to exert chronic droconian ideas in to this liberal forum? Don't worry they all come back in a different forum with differnt guise with the same drivel
this forums are good because you see the true colours of all the ones who say they are nice and make a bookmark to suit you who you speak to |
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One can not assume that just because one has been with for example if one partner has sleep with 30 in the last 20-30 years and one only sleep with 8 in the last 20-30 years. Can you honestly say that the one that had the lest partners will not have some sort of a disease?
Sorrrrrrrrrrry but Helloooooooooooo!! The numbers at times do give you more of a chance to be exposed to something but in no way guarantee's you will be exempt from it happening. And in no way should you judge them for their past it is what they are today that matters. We all learn as we go sometimes it takes a few a little more learning on the way for some. But if you must judge then judge them on the person they have become not who they were. It all depends on how they treat you believe me even old dogs spots may not change colors but they do get brighter as the years go along.
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people lie anyways theres no sure way to know that they are telling the truth
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Unless you are a habitual cheater...then...well then you have to find someone else to convince. And this, was what I was alluding to. It matters not how many partners one has had. It DOES matter why - if I am seeking anything other than an Intimate Encounter or a casual fvck buddy. The amount of partners anyone has had does not label them as a cheater Yes. Or, they do serial monogamy. Or perhaps that they need more than one at a time to be happy. Nothing wrong with that, as long as your partners all know and agree. Its not my bag. Not sure I get your meaning. Care to elaborate? the remark answers your immediate quote and it assumes that you possess sufficient intelligence to know what it is that I was referring to. The assumption is that you are also familiar with English language which is a very rich language. nothing means empty
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I don't so much care where they've been, but don't want to think they will be promiscuous while we date either. I will trust him if he says he won't until he gives me reason not to. If he wants to know my history, it doesn't bother me in the least. It's a fairly short conversation anyway.  Marvelously put
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Ohh and before anyone assumes I had a wild past think again was married at 21 for 11 years got a divorce and dated 2 guys then the third guy I dated for 12 years so yeah I'm one that don't have to use my toes to count how many I have been with. I just have and open mind and still believes in trusting the one I'm with maybe to some that is a bad idea but if you don't have trust you do not have anything to base a relationship on. Some are more reliable and trustworthy than others, sadly. |
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the remark answers your immediate quote and it assumes that you possess sufficient intelligence to know what it is that I was referring to. The assumption is that you are also familiar with English language which is a very rich language. nothing means empty Your message means nothing to me. Null. Cryptic and silly. |
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people lie anyways theres no sure way to know that they are telling the truth
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