Your getting closer in dating with someone...Do you inquire about how many sexual partner's they have had?...Why?


Me personally, I dont ask, nor do I care. I also get offended when asked... Dont feel it's anyones business.

Looking for feedback on why this may be important to others

See how many miles you got on ya'!

Ooh nonononononnono nooooooooooooooooo! It is all about asking for the truth and being able to handle the truth..

I can handle the truth, not worried about that. Just dont see why it matters. Every one has a history

i've never been asked and i don't ask.....UNLESS it comes to the point that i have to ask


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I would ask this before I became intimate with someone. I would also ask if they had been tested for HIV, HCV, and other stds. Even better if they can provide test results. I want to stay healthy.

Also, I may ask it if I am very interested in the person and think there is the possibility of a future with them. I want to know a little about their relationship and dating history to determine if this person is capable of being constant, reliable, responsible. I want to know if they are able to commit to a person and a relationship for the long haul. I'm not interested in men who only thrill to the chase and then give up interest with each conquest. I'm not interested in men who cannot be happy with just one partner in their lives and/or have found it necessary to be dishonest or cheat in past relationships because of that.

Truth is that it shouldn't matter. Everybody starts afresh when they start dating sombody. I mean, what if you can't remember who many people you have slept with? Most girls/guys would probably feel uncomfortable with that. Me personally would never ask that type of question in the beginning...

Interesting Fetish!

Dude...........chill out I was messing with him!

medical history, ie std's would be very important..but how many lover's hhas you partner had?? who cares

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Exactly...why does it matter?

Not enough people on right now, will have to reapply later.

We would like to believe this, but truth is, we are all a product of our past experience and cannot deny it, even in hoping to start with a blank slate. Even with the best of intentions. Inside, our cores are what they are.

I feel it is best to be honest; not to delude yourself or others into thinking you are who you are not - or that you are capable of what you may not be, based on every past experience of your life. In denying self-awareness and personal accountability, you are only setting yourself and your partner up for pain and heartache later.

Yes, people can change in some ways, but usually only if they are wanting that change for themselves, not another. AND, if there are no other "stumbling blocks" in the way, no matter what that might be.

Thought the emphatic oh no was directed at me...guess not. Anywho, I never ask and when I have been asked I tell them politely that I don't know, which is the truth.

as a rule I don't kiss and tell....but as a health question the truth needs to be known

It's a crap shoot. Like asking for a Pre-Nup. Some will readily give the information, while some will be offended. Asking too soon in a relationship can sour it, tho'. Timing is important.

Ask me for a medical history read out, test results, and a recounting of the number and types of past sexual relationships on the first few dates and it's "Next!"

No the comment wasn't directed at you. Thought your comment was had an element of humor in it

I think asking about health history is one thing, but how many partners is irrelevant. Men seem to respond that this as an invasion of privacy while women here have said they want to know. Personally I just think women are nosy and like to put salt in the wound sometimes.