lets respect everyones view on things.we are entiled to think as we please.no need to run others down

Just ask about STDs its easier to prove

i think it depends on the people and the relationship. if it comes up and both are OK with answering, then why not? i honestly don't see it as a big deal, unless you were a prostitute or a porn star then you might want to fess up

I thought it might and wasn't expecting anything moreQ.E.D

Jim~

On topic... if I hear one more 30+ man (in age) tell me he has only had four lovers I think I'm going to puke.

This is a question I do not ask. I might ask detail questions, such as have you ever done "x"? But I don't ask for numbers. I only want to know my potential partner is disease free at the moment he is with me. If I was asked that question, I would be offended. Same as you.

Please explain to me how is expressing ones opinion which happens to differ with someone else's means running them down ? she is saying I am silly well let her think that I am not offended I have been called worse
and the reason I said talk to me is every time i say hello to you and offer you flowers you ignore me well that is fine too.let me know why?
I guess you don't see any mileage in talking to me I am older you are free to do that too
doesnt stop me offering flowers and pulling your leg ocassionally

If the answer comes back as hundreds, it's a clue. Personally, it brings back some interesting memories when I go through the short list.

Thank you.

to all that answered that they would want to know for health reasons, are STD's a deal breaker in your eyes no matter how many partners they have had? Is contracting and STD a reflection of their character?
I have no problem answering the question but I have lived with the motto "ask me no questions, I will tell you no lies." The answer might be offensive and harsh, just like the question. Someone earlier in the thread that it can be phrased and asked in an appropriate way.

I'd like to see some verification, I think. And happy to provide it in kind.

Excellent Forum Topic!

For me I don't want to know or be asked how many. One recent contact had his interesting way of asking the how many question. He even had the audacity to ask some details, trying to compare himself to past lovers. I told him that is information that should not be shared.

I will however provide the tests results and expect the same from a partner. I don't think STD are a reflection of a person's character. Accidents happen. You could catch something from a person that did not know they had anything. A test could come up negative for an STD but months later you find you are having symptoms. I read somewhere that it can take 8 years for AIDS to show any symptoms. In the meantime you could be a carrier and pass it on to another unsuspecting innocent. Does anyone know if that is still true.

You mean,...you dont believe me?

So, in reading majority of the post in here, I feel that the amount of history you have is irrelevant. That was the point of the whole topic. Glad to see that with most it doesnt matter and I feel good in saying, thats my business...

Glad the topic of STD's came up along with it..That is really important and you cant be too careful nowadays....

Cheers to all!!!

So, Jim- how many were there?

I am still a Virgin

To speak to another facet of this topic... there is that element of inquiring to gain perspective on your partner's view of sex. I suppose maybe to find out if they view sex as an activity or if it is a special intimate bond between partners? Of course, we as people, might change views based on ages and specific oeriods in our life. But the question remains, does my potential mate want to have sex with me because he cares about me, or just to get some?

I know her numbers, and she knows mine, and there's no problem with that stuff. We have talked a lot about things we've done in the past, and what we liked and what we didn't -- because it potentially could tie into compatibility at some point....

How many sex partners people have had doesn't mean a thing..I will gladly be tested for whatever.