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Now if you've ever killed someone...THAT is something I want to know! 
That's hysterical. 
....And where background checks/references come in. Still, some folks do have an uncanny ability to fly just under the radar. As with anything else, we take our chances. |
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Everybody starts afresh when they start dating somebody. We would like to believe this, but truth is, we are all a product of our past experience and cannot deny it, even in hoping to start with a blank slate. Even with the best of intentions. Inside, our cores are what they are. I feel it is best to be honest; not to delude yourself or others into thinking you are who you are not - or that you are capable of what you may not be, based on every past experience of your life. In denying self-awareness and personal accountability, you are only setting yourself and your partner up for pain and heartache later. Yes, people can change in some ways, but usually only if they are wanting that change for themselves, not another. AND, if there are no other "stumbling blocks" in the way, no matter what that might be. I agree to an extent with what you are saying, but this whole thing of dragging it out into the open by means of a conversation is probably a bit OTT in the beginning. To be honest, if you have got to start talking about sex in the very beginning, that usually means that there is limited communication going on. That also shows that you/he/she is after one thing and one thing only. So in theory there is no need to even ask the question, because you know the answer. I just see what I see and trust my own judgment and if I am wrong, well, I quite like being surprised sometimes. Well, not in all cases. Some folk are very sexually driven and sexual compatibility can be a very big part of the choice they make in a long term life partner. Maybe not so for most vanillas, but to some other groups, yes. I think talking about it is healthy and shows maturity. I'm not talking about sexual innuendo. I'm talking about basic compatibility. I feel communication should be open and thorough about every area of compatability, not just sexuality. I suppose you are right if you are talking about certain sexual behaviour.... and how compatable you are in that respect.. but I think you are deviating into something that isn't wholey what the guy (who started this thread) was going on about. Asking how many sexual partners you have had, well, from what I have seen and heard... well, it is just one of those daft conversations and most people lie anyway... mature? Hardley I think it is relevant. It is something I try to discover about my potential life partners as soon as I am able.... Deviant?  Perhaps. But quite the norm for some of us.
Now if you've ever killed someone...THAT is something I want to know!
Yeah, so who did you kill? Was it your boyfriend? I have no boyfriend and reluctantly I must confess...my ex husband is still alive. |
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Now if you've ever killed someone...THAT is something I want to know!
And if you have, under what circumstances, because that makes a huge difference.
Funny man
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I am the type that doesnt share much about my history or deep personal feelings. Takes a LONG time to get that out...Not that I have anything to hide, just dont like sharing 
Most men are this way. Quite normal, in fact. |
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I think it is relevant. It is something I try to discover about my potential life partners as soon as I am able.... Deviant? Perhaps. But quite the norm for some of us.
Relevant? Yes, but as I previously maintained, timing is essential. If you expect a man to show up on a first date with a portfolio detailing his medical history, names and phone numbers of all previous sexual encounters, including a synopsis of what the sex life included and excluded, and a recent STD test readout, then you stand a better chance of Lancelot D'Aquatiane showing up at your door astride a white Percheron, shield and lance in hand.
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Natural defense mechanism of a man. Recent literature has explained this in great lengths. Women need to talk and be cherished. Men just need to be respected and admired...talking is not so important to them. You're right.
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I think it is relevant. It is something I try to discover about my potential life partners as soon as I am able.... Deviant? Perhaps. But quite the norm for some of us.
Relevant? Yes, but as I previously maintained, timing is essential. If you expect a man to show up on a first date with a portfolio detailing his medical history, names and phone numbers of all previous sexual encounters, including a synopsis of what the sex life included and excluded, and a recent STD test readout, then you stand a better chance of Lancelot D'Aquatiane showing up at your door astride a white Percheron, shield and lance in hand.
I agree. But I know where to find the Ones that are comfortable with this talk, right off the bat.
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I think it is relevant. It is something I try to discover about my potential life partners as soon as I am able.... Deviant? Perhaps. But quite the norm for some of us.
Relevant? Yes, but as I previously maintained, timing is essential. If you expect a man to show up on a first date with a portfolio detailing his medical history, names and phone numbers of all previous sexual encounters, including a synopsis of what the sex life included and excluded, and a recent STD test readout, then you stand a better chance of Lancelot D'Aquatiane showing up at your door astride a white Percheron, shield and lance in hand.
I agree. But I know where to find the Ones that are comfortable with this talk, right off the bat.
Best bet is to meet them in a forum and talk about it here. Maybe? |
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Now if you've ever killed someone...THAT is something I want to know!
And if you have, under what circumstances, because that makes a huge difference.
Funny man
Well it's true! If you accidentally ran him over backing out of the driveway while he was under the front wheels, trying to cut your brake lines, that's one thing. Shooting him between the eyes and then hacking him to pieces and feeding him to your Rottweillers, is quite another, don't you agree? |
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I think it is relevant. It is something I try to discover about my potential life partners as soon as I am able.... Deviant? Perhaps. But quite the norm for some of us.
Relevant? Yes, but as I previously maintained, timing is essential. If you expect a man to show up on a first date with a portfolio detailing his medical history, names and phone numbers of all previous sexual encounters, including a synopsis of what the sex life included and excluded, and a recent STD test readout, then you stand a better chance of Lancelot D'Aquatiane showing up at your door astride a white Percheron, shield and lance in hand.
I agree. But I know where to find the Ones that are comfortable with this talk, right off the bat.
Best bet is to meet them in a forum and talk about it here. Maybe? Forum, yes. Here, no.
Or, be matched up through mutual friends.
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Now if you've ever killed someone...THAT is something I want to know!
And if you have, under what circumstances, because that makes a huge difference.
Funny man
Well it's true! If you accidentally ran him over backing out of the driveway while he was under the front wheels, trying to cut your brake lines, that's one thing. Shooting him between the eyes and then hacking him to pieces and feeding him to your Rottweillers, is quite another, don't you agree? NO, Rich, it's all the same.
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medical history, ie std's would be very important..but how many lover's hhas you partner had?? who cares 
Exactly...why does it matter? (especially if you don't use condoms for oral, anal, or vaginal sex) I need education here is there any other form of sex? other wise why not just say sex just wanted to know no malice
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I find the idea that the number of sexual partners you have had says something about your character very offensive.
Stay on the planet long enough and have enough relationships go bad and you are going to rack up a decent number of partners. So what? And then you add in college/high school years, former drinking problems, and the fact that many women and some men sometimes have a period of promiscuity after a breakup, well, the numbers mean you are human, that's all. I would hate to be judged on that and to be told it says something about my character. |
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medical history, ie std's would be very important..but how many lover's hhas you partner had?? who cares
Exactly...why does it matter? (especially if you don't use condoms for oral, anal, or vaginal sex) I need education here is there any other form of sex? other wise why not just say sex just wanted to know no malice
you don't need condoms for mutual mastubation. |
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I think it is relevant. It is something I try to discover about my potential life partners as soon as I am able.... Deviant? Perhaps. But quite the norm for some of us.
Relevant? Yes, but as I previously maintained, timing is essential. If you expect a man to show up on a first date with a portfolio detailing his medical history, names and phone numbers of all previous sexual encounters, including a synopsis of what the sex life included and excluded, and a recent STD test readout, then you stand a better chance of Lancelot D'Aquatiane showing up at your door astride a white Percheron, shield and lance in hand.
she has 2 hopes here Bob Hope and no hope. I had a woman who wanted to date me not me wanting her she lived 1000 miles away she wanted me to take a test and take a test 3 months later before we met. She is still waiting. I have a date tomorrow with a nice local lady. Moronic
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I think it is relevant. It is something I try to discover about my potential life partners as soon as I am able.... Deviant? Perhaps. But quite the norm for some of us.
Relevant? Yes, but as I previously maintained, timing is essential. If you expect a man to show up on a first date with a portfolio detailing his medical history, names and phone numbers of all previous sexual encounters, including a synopsis of what the sex life included and excluded, and a recent STD test readout, then you stand a better chance of Lancelot D'Aquatiane showing up at your door astride a white Percheron, shield and lance in hand.
she has 2 hopes here Bob Hope and no hope. I had a woman who wanted to date me but I was not so keen on her or wanting her she lived 1000 miles away she wanted me to take a test and take a test 3 months later before we met. She is still waiting. I have a date tomorrow with a nice local lady. Moronic
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Robert did you just quote yourself?
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Robert did you just quote yourself? btw it seemed to me from last encounter that we differ in opinions I hope you didnt think I was derogatory just because I didnt think like you
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Robert did you just quote yourself? btw it seemed to me from last encounter that we differ in opinions I hope you didnt think I was derogatory just because I didnt think like you
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I find the idea that the number of sexual partners you have had says something about your character very offensive. Stay on the planet long enough and have enough relationships go bad and you are going to rack up a decent number of partners. So what? And then you add in college/high school years, former drinking problems, and the fact that many women and some men sometimes have a period of promiscuity after a breakup, well, the numbers mean you are human, that's all. I would hate to be judged on that and to be told it says something about my character. |
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