What it means is that if you say messed up sh*t in the beginning of a relationship it will come back to haunt you especially if you have a week woman.

The arrogant young man smug in his youth had a smoldering anger.
He took it out on the one that loved him the most.
He said and did things that you should never say to your mate yet he did
So off he went to work at night in an unpleasant place and that only fueled his resent.
His meek,shy girl the one with the low self worth and esteem took all the angry words to heart.
They were married and had two beautiful daughters and bought a house.
The angry words of the arrogant young man tortured her mentally.
The infidelity started and she rationalized her behavior thinking and saying.
"He said these things he doesn't love me".
"He works at night to be away from me/us".
So a few years passed and the angry young man made peace
peace with himself
peace with his job
peace with his parents
peace with his position as a father and husband
Peace with GOD
He became a Decent and Changed man.
A Decent Man she Didn't want anymore.
He attempted to make things right and was told the relationship was "bullsh!t and fake"
He said to her "Listen To Yourself ,You Are The Only One Who Ever Says That It's Bullsh!t"
He was told this every time he tried to make things right.
He questioned the infidelity and it was denied
She said if she was that it was "The Only Way She Could Hurt You"
Her infidelity and the guilt from it would not allow her to accept him and the man he had become.
Mentally she could not except that he loved her because if she did that meant she would have to deal with what she had done (infidelity).
He went to work every night suspecting the infidelity through a gnawing in his gut and ignored the intuition for his children sake for his older daughter would have been destroyed by a divorce at that age the child was simply too emotional.
Years went by and they grew apart and the children grew up more and more rationalizing of bad behavior took place embellishing bad times blowing them out of proportion.
She took up squandering their now abundant income and had acquired a new "affair" this tore the now Decent Mans soul for he could see everything he ever worked so hard for being destroyed and discarded like common trash.
So the man finally found out the truth of what exactly was going on (He already knew)
and did the only thing he could which is walk away from everything except for his daughters.

The reason I posted this is for the young guys be careful what you say and do guys
your woman will never forget and this kinda thing could happen to you.

I don't have a problem with marriage.It's just one of those things that should be seriously considered and not rushed into.
I think that's what happens people rush in and then it doesn't work.

I dove in head 1st. I was a father at 18 just before my 19th birthday.Married her at 20 became a father again.Two beautiful daughters.Unfortunately to make it in New Jersey I spent allot of time at work 55-60 hours a week for the whole time (20+yrs) and on nights.The nights thing was a huge mistake and basically ruined the relationship.Guys don't work nights unless you have yourself a really strong woman at home.

agreed hindsight is 20/20

What do all you good folks on mingle think about young marriage? I believe it can only work if both people are mature enough and know enough about how and what a relationship should be.It probably helps if both people are from solid families that raised them properly.
I was married at 20 yrs of age.All I can say is I wish I knew then what I know now.That's life and if I didn't have that experience I may not have learned so much.

I'm sorry that happened to you.Life can really suck at times.

Well 1st off you didn't do anything wrong or deserve this.People cheat because they do not Value or Honor the commitment they made.They are selfish,self centered ME ME ME people who can't see past themselves.No property or kids to fight over makes it easier for you to move on with your life.
I just went through this same situation and I will tell you as time goes on life gets easier and happier.Also ignore all the Bullsh!t stories he is eventually going to tell about you trying to justify his actions to all your friends and family.

I agree with mirrormirror and buffry on this one.I would say open honest communication and a true understanding and compassion for your partner are key.Too bad I learned these things a little too late but that's life.

I am happy with myself and happy being single again. The thing is I want to be more selective this time around and find someone I really click with on every level.

Hey you are single now and you know what you want and how YOU DON'T WANT to be treated. So say you go on a few dates and you see the same patterns emerge DUMP HER and ASSESS yourself to see if you enabled the behavior.Allot of guys make the mistake of tolerating b!tchy chics that treat them like sh!t by what I call "Rewarding Bad Behavior" if she is being b!tchy and you buy her flowers you just "Rewarded Bad Behavior" and reinforced her position of thinking that her behavior is normal and OK.

I was cheated on for nearly my whole marriage and I foolishly IGNORED those intuitive gut feelings that told me something was wrong.I would say if you suspect it stay calm and start doing a little investigating or have a professional PI do it for you.Don't confront without solid evidence.There are a ton of websites out there that tell you the "signs of a cheating man,woman,spouse".They tell you what they do the patterns involved,the behaviors they display
to offset the guilt they are feeling.

Sounds like you have it right.Personally being tactful is best.
Being brutally honest is something you have to be careful to
not totally crush someone who can't handle what your "being honest" about.

I read somewhere in these postings that when you are so busy doing the things you love and enjoying life that's when you will most likely find someone. I had a coworker tell me the same thing. He said that he had given up looking and just started doing his thing hobbies,the gym and etc and then one day there is this beautiful new coworker who he clicked with instantly and is now married to.Me personally I would say Grocery store (pretend you need help) ,Laundromat,book store,mall,any kind of class,the gym.I would avoid dating coworkers though it rarely works out.

That's hard because what if you have been friends with who your attracted to for a long time then you risk messing up the friendship an making it really awkward.Me personally I was attracted to my best friends sister forever and never said anything (she knew anyway).She now has a hubby and four children. I still see her in the store occasionally and say hello.

There is nothing wrong with that situation. Sounds like you liked her as more than a friend and felt guilty meeting her husband.Take it for what it is and that you have a really nice friend who happens to Value her marriage.

If you are on the windows platform you could also install A codec application called ffdshow it is basically almost every audio/video codec built into one small package then you can play the audio/video through any direct show media player like
windows media player and etc.

Man I love the stuff you come up with!!

If you use firefox you can use the adblock addon. You can also
use the host file to block ip addresses and websites.

like this

127.0.0.1 www.annoying-ad.com

Look for a program on the web called "spybot search and destroy" and another called "adaware free" they both do a good job cleaning trojans and etc avg free and avast are both good free anti virus programs. The only other option would be format the hard drive and reinstall everything and that is beyond most users technical capabilities.