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What I noticed in here is that people have varying and opposing opinions and that's fine.That's fine as long as you can take in the opinions without being offended and or attacking other people for their opinion. Some people may take what the strangers on this site are saying to heart and quit
(disable the profile) because they get upset,frustrated or disgusted with other peoples opinions.People also jump to conclusions about others based on what they post. I like to think most human beings are allot more complex then we realize and jumping to a conclusion based on a few postings would be a mistake. |
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Good luck with your new lease on life Franshade. You're a nice person and I wish you the best.
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simplelife123
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Fri 11/14/08 05:13 PM
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If you read back through the thread you will learn that a woman's perception of the relationship is Key. Assholes are deceptive and too often nice guys overlook what they did not contributeing to a relationship and whine a lot about it later rather than recognize they were not so reasonable. I agree 100% that there are Good guys who get hooked up in lopsided arrangements with women who have totally unrealistic expectations. HOWEVER the ones that tolerate it for years and then expect everyone to be sympathetic that they threw their own lives away are wasteing their breath. Get over it and don't blame every woman for the ignorance or selfishness of the woman YOU picked. OUCH!! Really not looking for sympathy and I don't blame All woman because I know not all woman are the same and that there are good decent woman out there.Anyway hearing many points of view is helping. |
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Would you say anything....
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This happened to me my friends knew my wife cheated and initially yeah I was pissed at them for saying nothing.But now looking back they did the right thing by staying out of it.
Sounds like you need new friends because sooner or later their worlds are gonna crash down. |
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I agree with openwounds people should just be themselves.
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Why is it "f---ing insecure BS" because a woman expect her spouse to prioritize family over a job and be present in extreamly significant family times? Expects a grown man to meet the majority of his own needs and share in the responsibility of the needs of children. Expect a lover and not a stud service. If a guy is cheating behind her back and you know it why don't you tell her? Yeeessshhh! Ok maybe we are misunderstanding here.There needs to be a balance of work and family and family is obviously the priority.In my situation I did everything I could to make things work and although I worked allot of hours to pay for everything I was there for my family and wife during both births.It was a catch 22 I had nobody to fall back on it was just me supporting everything so if I didn't do the hours we go without or not make it at all.Every situation is different.And No if I knew a female friends husband or BF was cheating for sure I would open my mouth instantly.I went through that MY kids,my friends and certain family members knew my wife was cheating and said nothing so yeah I would definitely say something. |
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There are rare instances where a 19 year old guy is responsible and loving husband and father but the reality is it is often that they finish growing up while they father yet another child so that overwhelms and even younger and less prepared wife who has to work to help support the family and do the majority of household work. That men stick around for twenty years usually is for the desire to raise their own kids and not because they continue to have a loving and motivateing relationship. A relationship that is cold and whatever for twenty years has two selfish stubborn people who punish themselves for not correcting the mess. I agree with some of that.I personally tried to fix the relationship numerous times and was shot down. It was damned if I did and damned if I didn't. I was willing to work on any problem except for the cheating BS.That I didn't want to deal with. |
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Assholes may not keep a job but occassionally they make a woman think they are more important than the job. Nice guys will go to work when you are in labor and expect you to call them less than and hour before birth or maybe at home after work. yeah and those are the woman supporting the guy most of the time and while she is working supporting him he is having sex with someone else behind her back.It's all BS woman want so many different things. If a guy works too much he's no good. If he doesn't work enough he's no good. Men are suppose to work and support the family Dumb woman don't appreciate this and make the guy choose "what's more important?" me or your job.Freiking insecure BS. |
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I don't know if I would use the word asshole per se. Women just happen to like men who have some jerkish qualities to them. There's a fine line I think. But any woman who says she wants a nice guy is just setting every "nice guy" up for failure. Most of them won't appreciate anything from the nice guys, because they become bored with them. It's all a game, unfortunately. exactly!! |
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Assholes pretend they wouldn't be freaked out if you get pregnant. Nice guys ignore your biological clock and want you to be raiseing teenagers when you are sixty. They stall on the idea of marriage and or having kids. yeah right I purposely became a father at 19 yrs old and I am a nice guy.What did it get me 2 beautiful daughters and 20 years with an unappreciative cold hearted woman. Guys can be nice and have some of the qualities that were listed. What some woman do not realize that there are certain guys out there who purposely set out to develop those characteristics to PLAY woman and get what they want <laid>. So I say use your instincts ladies less you get played. |
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Also, confident men have backbones and opinions. They pick restaurants, make plans for dates, and initiate things. I agree with that. |
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im a nice guy
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It's because they don't really want a nice guy. What they want is that azzhole that flirts with her and every other woman he lays eyes on.These guys are flirting like that and telling them "what they want to hear" and That's what they want as far as I can see. I have seen it over and over. I have seen my sister pass up nice guys left and right for these guys I also have a female friend that asks me "why can't I find a nice guy?" I told her because you keep going for the same guys over and over and wonder why you're getting hurt. Hey that's not true now....we're all just playing around in here. We're fun and playful, and we joke around but that doesn't mean we really don't want a nice guy. Some chicks don't but don't put us all in that same category. That's just not right... sorry to generalize but that's how I see it.I should have put allot of woman instead of "they". |
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im a nice guy
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It's because they don't really want a nice guy. What they want is that azzhole that flirts with her and every other woman he lays eyes on.These guys are flirting like that and telling them "what they want to hear" and That's what they want as far as I can see. I have seen it over and over. I have seen my sister pass up nice guys left and right for these guys I also have a female friend that asks me "why can't I find a nice guy?" I told her because you keep going for the same guys over and over and wonder why you're getting hurt.
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Careful what you say !!!
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So you picked a winner to start with and you're gonna beat yourself up over it the rest of your life and join in affixing blame and self pity. Why don't you move ahead in your life? Put your past behind you. Dedicate your life to your children and leave the ex in the dust? Thanks biker I have done that I don't speak to the woman unless need be.Got my own place and all.Thanks for the comments they are appreciated. |
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Careful what you say !!!
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Because she obviously can't say no to scummy guys sexual advances and yes the recent guy she was with is probably the worst lowlife around I met him and his wife in their apartment when I knocked on the door and confronted him.
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Careful what you say !!!
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also remember there are always 3 sides to every story - your side, the other side and the truth.
I am not hiding the fact that I screwed up.If I said I was a saint the whole time that would be different.As far as that weak comment I meant SHE is weak not all woman are weak.
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Careful what you say !!!
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are you being serious? Yes I am perhaps I am mistaken and it was done out of spite! |
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Careful what you say !!!
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It makes sense to me that's all that matters. I value peoples opinions here so I am not going to go back and forth with people about what makes sense. And as far as the misspelling of the word weak Sorry and the jokes are welcome I do have a sense of humor.
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Careful what you say !!!
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yes I meant weak. And what I meant by weak is not every woman is going to run off and cheat because you say something messed up.
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Careful what you say !!!
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No, if you mess shyt up in the beginning of a relationship it will come back to haunt you because you messed shyt up in the beginning of the relationship. True thanks for correcting that 
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